We get it. No one wants to be seen wearing the same outfit every day. It makes you look boring, flat, and uninspired. However, according to industry experts on Business Insider, if you look at the planet's long history of successful entrepreneurs, such as Vogue's Editor-in-Chief Anna Wintour and Theranos CEO Elizabeth Holmes, you'll find one thing in common — they wear the same thing every day.
Before we begin, let's make one thing clear: "same" doesn't have to mean wearing the same clothes. We're talking about patterns, textures, and accessories that you'll be wearing so much they'll practically be wardrobe staples. Plus, it'll be useful not only for your office image but mental health as well. Keep reading to find out why.
Helps build your personal brand
Much like how McDonald's is distinctively yellow and red or how Apple feels like it's part of an exclusive club, picking the certain outfits and sticking to them builds an image of you. Woman Within has these straight leg pants which exude a very relaxed vibe, and wearing similar outfits will make you seem like a casual, laidback person overall. But if you'd rather have a more serious image, then wearing Lark & Ro's classic button blazers might be more your style. The important part is to wear the same outfit every day — so people associate you with it more.
Opens extra time in the morning
Business consultant Masha Maskina has talked about how employees are easily stressed, and "[change] only adds to the anxiety level." Sure, she was referring to adjusting to a rapidly shifting job market. However, this tip can also apply to clothes. Instead of stressing over what to wear in the morning, wear the usual, and use those extra minutes to make yourself some breakfast or go over the day's agenda.
Make one less decision everyday
Decision fatigue is real, and it's more taxing than physical fatigue. The more choices your brain has to make, the more tired it gets. And if it's exhausted, it'll be more difficult to make decisions. For example, instead of thinking things through, you'll be tempted to "get it over with" and make reckless decisions. Making extra choices, even harmless ones like picking out an outfit, wears you down over time. Save yourself the trouble with your very own "uniform."
Minimizes your wardrobe
Every year, more than 15 million tons of textile waste is generated in the U.S. alone, and it's mostly because people buy clothes that look "nice" but will rarely wear. Not only will you be doing your part to help the environment, your closet will appear less cluttered too. The habit of fixing your wardrobe carries over to other tasks like stacking documents and filing records. Being organized is more than a habit—it's a lifestyle.
Feel good in whatever you're wearing
Another great thing about having staple outfits is that you'll never have to worry if they pair well or not. Are you the type who goes into the office with a pinstripe shirt and toe pumps? Floral prints and belted pants? Orvis' Gingham jackets and high boots? If you've tested a particular combination once, liked it, then you'll always feel good about wearing it.
With all that being said, wearing the same outfits to work everyday doesn't have to be boring or meaningless. In fact, it may just be the thing you need to enhance your productivity and feel better on the job. But of course, there's no harm in wanting to dress up and express yourself through style. At the end of the day, comfort is what's most important.
For decades, women have been unknowingly suffering from PSD and intergenerational trauma, but now Dr. Valerie Rein wants women to reclaim their power through mind, body and healing tools.
As women, no matter how many accomplishments we have or how successful we look on the outside, we all occasionally hear that nagging internal voice telling us to do more. We criticize ourselves more than anyone else and then throw ourselves into the never-ending cycle of self-care, all in effort to save ourselves from crashing into this invisible internal wall. According to psychologist, entrepreneur and author, Dr. Valerie Rein, these feelings are not your fault and there is nothing wrong with you— but chances are you definitely suffering from Patriarchy Stress Disorder.
Patriarchy Stress Disorder (PSD) is defined as the collective inherited trauma of oppression that forms an invisible inner barrier to women's happiness and fulfillment. The term was coined by Rein who discovered a missing link between trauma and the effects that patriarchal power structures have had on certain groups of people all throughout history up until the present day. Her life experience, in addition to research, have led Rein to develop a deeper understanding of the ways in which men and women are experiencing symptoms of trauma and stress that have been genetically passed down from previously oppressed generations.
What makes the discovery of this disorder significant is that it provides women with an answer to the stresses and trauma we feel but cannot explain or overcome. After being admitted to the ER with stroke-like symptoms one afternoon, when Rein noticed the left side of her body and face going numb, she was baffled to learn from her doctors that the results of her tests revealed that her stroke-like symptoms were caused by stress. Rein was then left to figure out what exactly she did for her clients in order for them to be able to step into the fullness of themselves that she was unable to do for herself. "What started seeping through the tears was the realization that I checked all the boxes that society told me I needed to feel happy and fulfilled, but I didn't feel happy or fulfilled and I didn't feel unhappy either. I didn't feel much of anything at all, not even stress," she stated.
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This raised the question for Rein as to what sort of hidden traumas women are suppressing without having any awareness of its presence. In her evaluation of her healing methodology, Rein realized that she was using mind, body and trauma healing tools with her clients because, while they had never experienced a traumatic event, they were showing the tell-tale symptoms of trauma which are described as a disconnect from parts of ourselves, body and emotions. In addition to her personal evaluation, research at the time had revealed that traumatic experiences are, in fact, passed down genetically throughout generations. This was Rein's lightbulb moment. The answer to a very real problem that she, and all women, have been experiencing is intergenerational trauma as a result of oppression formed under the patriarchy.
Although Rein's discovery would undoubtably change the way women experience and understand stress, it was crucial that she first broaden the definition of trauma not with the intention of catering to PSD, but to better identify the ways in which trauma presents itself in the current generation. When studying psychology from the books and diagnostic manuals written exclusively by white men, trauma was narrowly defined as a life-threatening experience. By that definition, not many people fit the bill despite showing trauma-like symptoms such as disconnections from parts of their body, emotions and self-expression. However, as the field of psychology has expanded, more voices have been joining the conversations and expanding the definition of trauma based on their lived experience. "I have broadened the definition to say that any experience that makes us feel unsafe psychically or emotionally can be traumatic," stated Rein. By redefining trauma, people across the gender spectrum are able to find validation in their experiences and begin their journey to healing these traumas not just for ourselves, but for future generations.
While PSD is not experienced by one particular gender, as women who have been one of the most historically disadvantaged and oppressed groups, we have inherited survival instructions that express themselves differently for different women. For some women, this means their nervous systems freeze when faced with something that has been historically dangerous for women such as stepping into their power, speaking out, being visible or making a lot of money. Then there are women who go into fight or flight mode. Although they are able to stand in the spotlight, they pay a high price for it when their nervous system begins to work in a constant state of hyper vigilance in order to keep them safe. These women often find themselves having trouble with anxiety, intimacy, sleeping or relaxing without a glass of wine or a pill. Because of this, adrenaline fatigue has become an epidemic among high achieving women that is resulting in heightened levels of stress and anxiety.
"For the first time, it makes sense that we are not broken or making this up, and we have gained this understanding by looking through the lens of a shared trauma. All of these things have been either forbidden or impossible for women. A woman's power has always been a punishable offense throughout history," stated Rein.
Although the idea of having a disorder may be scary to some and even potentially contribute to a victim mentality, Rein wants people to be empowered by PSD and to see it as a diagnosis meant to validate your experience by giving it a name, making it real and giving you a means to heal yourself. "There are still experiences in our lives that are triggering PSD and the more layers we heal, the more power we claim, the more resilience we have and more ability we have in staying plugged into our power and happiness. These triggers affect us less and less the more we heal," emphasized Rein. While the task of breaking intergenerational transmission of trauma seems intimidating, the author has flipped the negative approach to the healing journey from a game of survival to the game of how good can it get.
In her new book, Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Barrier to Women's Happiness and Fulfillment, Rein details an easy system for healing that includes the necessary tools she has sourced over 20 years on her healing exploration with the pioneers of mind, body and trauma resolution. Her 5-step system serves to help "Jailbreakers" escape the inner prison of PSD and other hidden trauma through the process of Waking Up in Prison, Meeting the Prison Guards, Turning the Prison Guards into Body Guards, Digging the Tunnel to Freedom and Savoring Freedom. Readers can also find free tools on Rein's website to help aid in their healing journey and exploration.
"I think of the book coming out as the birth of a movement. Healing is not women against men– it's women, men and people across the gender spectrum, coming together in a shared understanding that we all have trauma and we can all heal."