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Why This Fashion Entrepreneur Works With Homeless Girl Scouts

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In March of this year, The ANDI Brand donated over 100 bags in an effort to support survivors of domestic violence. It wasn’t simply a donation, but actually a coordinated effort between additional sponsors (who provided goods such as feminine hygiene products, notebooks, health and beauty products and water bottles) and volunteers who helped us actually prep the bags to be sent to Sanctuary for Families. The warehouse that we used to gather all of the supplies and prep the donations was a dark dingy place, but there, we had the team’s best day of 2017; it was our chance to use our own resources to help others. We felt great. I felt great. Everyone who participated walked out of the dingy warehouse glowing and with an extra pep in our step.


Shortly after our initiative with Sanctuary for Families, I read about the formation of Troop 6000; comprised of homeless girls in Queens. I teared up reading the article, moved by the potential of these young women coming together around the values of scouting. I immediately wanted to help, and not long after, Alexandra Ostrow of WhyWhisper Collective put me in touch with the Girl Scouts of New York City.

A month later, I sat down with troop leader Giselle (who also works at headquarters for Girl Scouts of NYC) and we came up with a plan – I would help the girls get their “Innovation Badge”, and in the process of doing so, I would gift them my invention (an ANDI bag) which seemed like a great fit for their upcoming adventures at camp. To help them earn their badge, we would engage around the process of innovation, using my personal experience with ANDI to touch on the Innovation badge requirements for the various Girl Scout levels; “Inventor” for Daisies, “Product Designer” for Brownies, “Entrepreneur” for Juniors and “Social Innovator” for Cadets. I was to meet them at their usual Friday evening meeting spot, a hotel in Queens.

Girl Scouts, Queens

On the day of my session with Troop 6000, I was so nervous. I unfortunately don’t have the opportunity to spend much time with young women under the age of 18, and I was so scared that they wouldn’t think I was cool. I prepped the bags (The ANDI Small for the girls and The ANDI for the troop leaders) with a notebook, pen and pencil (an innovator’s necessities) and headed to Queens where several members of the ANDI Team including our photographer, our head of design and director of customer experience joined me. Everyone was unbelievably excited to be a part of this.

The girls began to trickle into the meeting room slowly and eventually they gathered around me. They seemed genuinely excited for me to be there. They seemed very excited to be there themselves. There was immediate evidence of the bonds they had built with each other, as girls aged 5 to 16 came in with massive smiles and hugs for each other. One of the girls even brought cookies to share with her fellow troop members. These girls very much reminded me of myself in my young scouting days; bubbly and goofy with my friends.

As I began to talk through invention and product design, I was shocked at how well behaved the girls were; everyone was completely silent with a sharp focus on myself and the story that I was telling. They were very engaged, with many questions and ideas, which came in the form of rocket-fast hands in the air. After each section (inventor, product designer, entrepreneur), I handed each group of girls (sectioned by age range) their ANDI and their notebook. The girls got started right away with very creative ideas around inventions, many of which followed my initial inspiration; a hands-free alternative to the umbrella which also protected one’s handbag.

Girl Scouts, Queens

I was most moved by an idea that came about during our discussion of social innovation (i.e. ideas that help communities). Earlier in the year, I ended up in conversation with a man named Paul after buying him some food to help with his frighteningly low blood sugar from being a diabetic. We talked about his situation for a bit, and Paul asked me “Do you know where I could get a shower?” Paul explained to me that he felt he was truly unfit to be around other people because he was afraid that he smelled, as he did not have access to a shower. He told me it made him feel like an outcast. I didn’t know the answer to his question, and so I quickly searched Google to find something along the lines of public showers. I found nothing. Moved by my conversation with Paul, I volunteered for an hour the next day at a St. Luke’s soup kitchen (an easy and wonderful experience which I would recommend!!).

There is a woman named Anne who always works there along with a shelter in the Bronx. She is an amazing woman who has dedicated her life to helping New York’s homeless population. I asked her about the shower situation.

She told me that there used to be a shower near St. Luke’s but it was closed down several years ago, and that truly, there isn’t an option for public showers. I followed up on this inquiry with an old friend’s husband who was the commissioner of homeless services under Mayor Bloomberg. We actually had dinner the night before I met with Troop 6000 and he explained to me that there are only showers at the shelters, an OK situation for homeless families (i.e. those with children), but a much more nuanced situation for those on their own.

When I explained the idea behind social innovators, one of the brownies sprang out of her seat on the floor and began her diagram in a frenzy. As soon as she finished, about five minutes later, she got up to show me; it said, “We need more water” and had a picture of showers. Showers at schools, showers at parks, showers at daycare, hotels and the Grocery store. She came up with a truly brilliant idea to address a need in our community.

Girl Scouts, Queens

Every single one of the girls was very engaged with the activity. They were so excited to show the ANDI team the ideas that they came up with. They really grasped the concepts of innovation.

Our session concluded with a fashion show whereby the girls modeling various ways-to-wear their new ANDIs. ANDIs fashion photographer and Art Director directed it.

They also showed us some of their best dance moves. I shared with them how nervous I was to come and talk to them, fearing that they wouldn’t think I was cool. They then piled on top of me with the most massive hug and told me they thought I was totally cool!! I took some selfies with the amazing troop leaders (shout out to @GSTroop6000 and @Jamalphillydc) and then I gave the girls their well-deserved badges.

Girl Scouts, Queens

My Friday evening with Troop 6000 was such an incredible experience for me and for the ANDI team. I loved being with these vibrant young girls. I believe that an opportunity to help someone else is actually a gift to ourselves. I believe that we find meaning in our own lives by positively affecting the lives of others. Along these lines, the ANDI team is in discussions with Troop 6000 for follow-up programming. Troop 6000 is expanding – earlier this year they started with 6.

When I worked with them last month they were at 32 and by the end of this year, they will top 200! We are going to continue to help the new girls with their innovation badges and we also aim to help with their “Stay Fit” badges. If you are an entrepreneur yourself or if you are a trainer and are interested in participating, please reach out to us. Additionally, Giselle and I are putting together a mentorship program. Stay tuned on this!

Photo credit: Alessandro Russino

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How To Treat Yourself Like A Queen

Sometimes the person you have to stand up to is you! There I was, rewatching the Miss Universe 2019 competition. Which I do for inspiration from time to time. (No, seriously!) There is something about seeing women on stage, in full-on glam mode, and speaking with confident assuredness that really lights my fire!


I have seen this Zozibini Tunzi of South Africa win this crown so many times before, but something about this particular viewing, her delivery or her words, touched something inside me a little differently. At that moment, I truly believed, with complete conviction, that she lives what she speaks.

The announcement was made, the audience cheered, and the crown was awarded. The light was dazzling,, she looked stunning, almost blessed. The judges made the right call with 2019's queen.

Reflecting On Myself

Suddenly, the YouTube video ended. And I was left looking at a black screen. In the darkness of that screen, I saw my reflection and I began assessing what I saw, asking myself, "What have I been doing with my life?" It may seem like an overly dramatic question, but at that moment, I had to ask myself seriously… What have you done? The fact that I couldn't come up with a solid, confident answer gave my inner-cynic license to quickly spiral into self-criticism.

This went on for quite some time, until I got up. I stood up and walked to my mirror to have some serious one-on-one "Queen Talk." I needed to get out of that self-critical mindset, and I know that physical movement is something that help disrupt a way of thinking. I needed to remind myself of who I really was. The negative feelings I was experiencing at that moment were not reality.

Here are a few reminders for whenever you need some Queen Talk!

1.) Comparison is truly the thief of joy.

This saying feels like a cliché. That is, until it's applicable to you. At that moment, this "cliché, becomes self-evident. Comparing myself to someone on a stage with years of experience in an area I know nothing about is not only unfair but straight-up mean. A part of my comparison comes from me wondering, "Would I have the ability, if put in that position, to perform at such a level?" The answer is totally and without question, yes. I excel in the field I work in now, and I know that if I put that same energy towards something else, with practice, I could do just as well. No joy can come from comparing yourself to someone in a completely different field!

2.) Never forget the blessings that have been bestowed upon you.

Every single day, I am blessed to have the opportunity to wake up with all ten fingers and toes and choose to create the kind of life I want to live. There is so much power in that alone, but sometimes it's easy to take it for granted. Let us not forget those who are unable to make that same decision every day of their lives.

3.) Appreciate how far you have come!

I've been very intentional for some time to be kinder and gentler to myself. I need to realize that I am human. Being human means that I will not know everything, and I will continue to make mistakes.But I must let go of the need to always be right. I feel empowered when I can see the growth that I've made, regardless of the mistakes that may come in the future. I don't react to every little thing that bothers me, because I have learned boundaries when it comes to dealing with others and myself. I truly value my time and my energy, and, for that, I am proud.

4.) You Can Be Who You Want To Be

If you can see it in your mind, you can achieve it in reality. I saw myself when I looked at the women on stage, when she smiled, the way she talked, her elegant walk. For a moment, in my self-criticism spiral, I forgot that we are all connected. Debasish Mridha has said "I may not know you, but I don't see any difference between you and me. I see myself in you; we are one." I will not sit in the mentality of lack, there is more than enough opportunity and good fortune to go around for everyone. Her win was not a loss for me, but it can be a nudge from the universe for me to go ahead and dream big!

This Queen Talk was not easy. There may have been some tissues and tears involved but giving myself an honest yet compassionate talk is sometimes what I need to bring myself out of some bad head space. In these moments of doubt, you truly need to be your own best friend.When times get rough, criticism won't always come from outside sources. How you speak about yourself internally is crucial to how you see and feel about yourself. As Beyoncé once sang, "I've got Me, Myself, and I." We must put forth every effort to be there for ourselves. I look forward to more Queen Talks when some negative emotions arise. I am grateful for the person I am today, but I am excited to see the women I become.