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Why Millennial Women Aren’t “Doing It”

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"Hi, I need something to make a guy cum in his pants as soon as he sees me."- Samantha Jones

When's the last time you said that to a salesperson while buying lingerie?

Heck, when's the last time you needed to buy lingerie for a fun sexual escapade?

According to a study published by the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior it's probably been a hot minute. In this study, researchers found young women today are having less sex than any other generation in 60 years.

That's right.

The Millennial girls who grew up binge watching Sex and the City and giggling while Samantha tried to bone a priest, are not having much sex at all.

In fact, the research here shows our grandmas had more sex in their 20s than we are… Even though they probably waited to have sex until they were married.

What is that about?

Most of society no longer shames us for participating in premarital sex. We are sexually fluid and open. We have Tinder - a hookup is literally one swipe away.

So why does our sex life suck so much?

Why are 50% of millennial-age women dissatisfied with the sex they are having?

The research points to a number of libido busting issues. We are busy. We are obsessed with our career, hate online dating, stress too much, and have a deep fear of becoming emotionally involved with a 'f*ckboy'.

But the research also pointed to something a little darker and more troublesome.

Millions of us have anxiety and depression. And the numbers just keep rising. Today over 40 million adults are suffering from anxiety. And Millennials, well we are a big chunk of that statistic. Some experts even call us, the most anxious generation of all times.

Disclaimer: I am not a doctor and I don't play one on the internet.

So I won't tell anyone how they should deal with their anxiety. Or if they should or shouldn't take antidepressants. Only your doctor can tell you that…

What I can say is that antidepressants can really kill your sexual mojo. But beyond antidepressants, it's not really fun to have sex when you're anxious. I mean how exciting could it be, if you are spending every second during sex worrying about all the emails you need to answer?

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But there is good news.

Today there are natural ways to relieve anxiety, that don't have the same side effects as pharmaceuticals. You may have even heard about it… It's called CBD. (And if your sex life is nonexistent, keep reading. This could be just as important as any vibrator you have in your nightstand.)

New to CBD? Here's what you need to know.

CBD is a cannabinoid (chemical compound) found in the cannabis plant. There are over 100 cannabinoids in the plant. CBD and THC are the 2 predominant cannabinoids. Each cannabinoid is beneficial in their own unique way.

But CBD is non-psychoactive which means it does not get you high unlike its sister compound THC.

What are the benefits of CBD?

CBD really acts like a “smart" molecule that can bring balance to your body and reduce inflammation, which is why it has so many therapeutic benefits. It can be used for menstrual cramps, anxiety relief, addiction, heart health, skin care, you name it.

In medical settings, it has been used to increase appetite in cancer patients, relieve pain, and treat everything from Parkinson's disease, to diabetes to sleep disorders.

How does CBD Work?

Each one of us has an Endocannabinoid System inside our body, or what we like to call an ECS. The ECS is key in regulating our mood and how our body feels every single day. This system has two receptors: CB1 and CB2. CB2 receptors are found mostly in the immune system, and can reduce inflammation and certain kinds of emotional and physical pain.

Research shows that CB2 is affected in a positive way by CBD. CBD works by indirectly stimulating these same receptors, helping the body heal itself by balancing the endocannabinoid system.

Wait! Is CBD Legal?

YES! Most CBD that is ethically sourced from hemp (not marijuana) is legally available to anyone in the United States.

My Favorite CBD for Anxiety: Sunday Scaries

What can I say, I have a thing for gummy bears.

Plus, everytime I take any of the Sunday Scaries products I feel like my nervous system just got a giant hug. Within minutes you will get that calm alert feeling, without the high. They are 100% safe and THC free.

You can shop all natural CBD products on https://forsundayscaries.com

Currently they have three products, the OG Sunday Scaries Gummies, The Vegan AF Gummies, that have no gelatin, and The Sunday Scaries Tincture. Each product is made with the highest quality CBD sourced directly from family-owned hemp farms in Colorado. These farms are regulated by the states' Agriculture Departments, which means this CBD is organic and pesticide free.

Every product is also free of gluten, dairy, yeast, egg, soy and peanuts, so you never have to feel bad when getting your zen on.

To further relieve your stress and anxiety they've incorporated vitamins B12 and D3, well known to be effective mood boosters.

So next time you light some candles, slip into your skivvies and blast that Boys to Men, try a little CBD.

And remember CBD isn't just for Sundays.

And a good sex life isn't just for the Samantha Jones. Or your grandma. ;)

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Help! I’m Dating a Jerk!

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Help! I'm Dating a Jerk!

Dear Armchair Psychologist,
I've been dating my boyfriend for a year. After spending some vacation time with him and realizing he is not treating me the way I like I'm wondering — what do I do? I need him to be kinder and softer to me but he says simply, "chivalry is not his thing." I believe when two people decide to be together they need to adjust to each other. I don't think or feel my boyfriend is adjusting to what's important to me. Should I try to explain to him what's important to me, accept him for what he is, or leave him as I'm just not happy and the little gestures are important to me?
- Loveless Woman

Dear Loveless Woman,

I am saddened you aren't getting your needs met in your relationship. Intimacy and affection are important to sustain a healthy relationship. It's troubling that even though you have expressed your needs to your boyfriend that it's fallen on deaf ears. You need to explore, with a therapist, why you have sought out this type of relationship and why you have stayed in it, even when it's making you chronically unhappy? Your belief that couples should adjust to each other is correct to some degree. These things often include compromising and bending on things like who gets the bigger closet or where to go for dinner. However, it's a tall order to ask someone to change their personality and if your boyfriend is indeed a jerk, like you say, who refuses to acknowledge your love language or express kindness and softness, then maybe you should find a partner who will embrace you while being chivalrous.

- The Armchair Psychologist

Update to HELP! My Date is Uncircumcised and I'm Grossed Out!

Hi Armchair Psychologist,
Just wanted to let you know that your article was really offensive to read. Do you refer to women's genitals as: "gross," "ghasty," "smelly," or otherwise? Humans are not perfect, each of us is different and you should emphasize this. I hope that man finds a partner that will love and accept him rather than tearing him down. Which gender has a whole aisle devoted to their "special" hygiene needs? I can tell you it's not men.
With love,
Male Reader

Dear Male Reader,

Thank you for your thoughtful feedback to my Armchair Psychologist column. My email response bounced so am writing you here. I am so sorry I offended you. It wasn't my intention. I actually meant to be sardonic and make the writer see how ridiculous she sounded for the harsh language she used to describe her date. I obviously failed at this sneer since you think I meant to be offensive. Many apologies. I'll do better. Have a wonderful day and keep writing us with your thoughts.

- Ubah, The Armchair Psychologist

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