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Why Millennial Women Aren’t “Doing It”

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"Hi, I need something to make a guy cum in his pants as soon as he sees me."- Samantha Jones

When's the last time you said that to a salesperson while buying lingerie?

Heck, when's the last time you needed to buy lingerie for a fun sexual escapade?

According to a study published by the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior it's probably been a hot minute. In this study, researchers found young women today are having less sex than any other generation in 60 years.

That's right.

The Millennial girls who grew up binge watching Sex and the City and giggling while Samantha tried to bone a priest, are not having much sex at all.

In fact, the research here shows our grandmas had more sex in their 20s than we are… Even though they probably waited to have sex until they were married.

What is that about?

Most of society no longer shames us for participating in premarital sex. We are sexually fluid and open. We have Tinder - a hookup is literally one swipe away.

So why does our sex life suck so much?

Why are 50% of millennial-age women dissatisfied with the sex they are having?

The research points to a number of libido busting issues. We are busy. We are obsessed with our career, hate online dating, stress too much, and have a deep fear of becoming emotionally involved with a 'f*ckboy'.

But the research also pointed to something a little darker and more troublesome.

Millions of us have anxiety and depression. And the numbers just keep rising. Today over 40 million adults are suffering from anxiety. And Millennials, well we are a big chunk of that statistic. Some experts even call us, the most anxious generation of all times.

Disclaimer: I am not a doctor and I don't play one on the internet.

So I won't tell anyone how they should deal with their anxiety. Or if they should or shouldn't take antidepressants. Only your doctor can tell you that…

What I can say is that antidepressants can really kill your sexual mojo. But beyond antidepressants, it's not really fun to have sex when you're anxious. I mean how exciting could it be, if you are spending every second during sex worrying about all the emails you need to answer?

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But there is good news.

Today there are natural ways to relieve anxiety, that don't have the same side effects as pharmaceuticals. You may have even heard about it… It's called CBD. (And if your sex life is nonexistent, keep reading. This could be just as important as any vibrator you have in your nightstand.)

New to CBD? Here's what you need to know.

CBD is a cannabinoid (chemical compound) found in the cannabis plant. There are over 100 cannabinoids in the plant. CBD and THC are the 2 predominant cannabinoids. Each cannabinoid is beneficial in their own unique way.

But CBD is non-psychoactive which means it does not get you high unlike its sister compound THC.

What are the benefits of CBD?

CBD really acts like a “smart" molecule that can bring balance to your body and reduce inflammation, which is why it has so many therapeutic benefits. It can be used for menstrual cramps, anxiety relief, addiction, heart health, skin care, you name it.

In medical settings, it has been used to increase appetite in cancer patients, relieve pain, and treat everything from Parkinson's disease, to diabetes to sleep disorders.

How does CBD Work?

Each one of us has an Endocannabinoid System inside our body, or what we like to call an ECS. The ECS is key in regulating our mood and how our body feels every single day. This system has two receptors: CB1 and CB2. CB2 receptors are found mostly in the immune system, and can reduce inflammation and certain kinds of emotional and physical pain.

Research shows that CB2 is affected in a positive way by CBD. CBD works by indirectly stimulating these same receptors, helping the body heal itself by balancing the endocannabinoid system.

Wait! Is CBD Legal?

YES! Most CBD that is ethically sourced from hemp (not marijuana) is legally available to anyone in the United States.

My Favorite CBD for Anxiety: Sunday Scaries

What can I say, I have a thing for gummy bears.

Plus, everytime I take any of the Sunday Scaries products I feel like my nervous system just got a giant hug. Within minutes you will get that calm alert feeling, without the high. They are 100% safe and THC free.

You can shop all natural CBD products on https://forsundayscaries.com

Currently they have three products, the OG Sunday Scaries Gummies, The Vegan AF Gummies, that have no gelatin, and The Sunday Scaries Tincture. Each product is made with the highest quality CBD sourced directly from family-owned hemp farms in Colorado. These farms are regulated by the states' Agriculture Departments, which means this CBD is organic and pesticide free.

Every product is also free of gluten, dairy, yeast, egg, soy and peanuts, so you never have to feel bad when getting your zen on.

To further relieve your stress and anxiety they've incorporated vitamins B12 and D3, well known to be effective mood boosters.

So next time you light some candles, slip into your skivvies and blast that Boys to Men, try a little CBD.

And remember CBD isn't just for Sundays.

And a good sex life isn't just for the Samantha Jones. Or your grandma. ;)

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How Postpartum Mesh Underwear Started My Entrepreneurial Journey

"Steal the mesh underwear you get from the hospital," a friend said upon learning I was pregnant with my first daughter.


It was the single best piece of advice I received before giving birth in December 2013. My best friend delivered her daughter eight months previously, and she was the first to pass along this shared code among new moms: you'll need mesh underwear for your at-home postpartum recovery, and you can't find them anywhere for purchase. End result: steal them. And tell your friends.

My delivery and subsequent recovery were not easy. To my unexpected surprise, after almost 24 hours of labor, I had an emergency C-section. Thankfully, my daughter was healthy; however, my recovery was quite a journey. The shock to my system caused my bloated and swollen body to need weeks of recovery time. Luckily, I had trusted my friend and followed her instructions: I had stolen some mesh underwear from the hospital to bring home with me.

Unfortunately, I needed those disposable underwear for much longer than I anticipated and quickly ran out. As I still wasn't quite mobile, my mother went to the store to find more underwear for me. Unfortunately, she couldn't find them anywhere and ended up buying me oversized granny panties. Sure, they were big enough, but I had to cut the waistband for comfort.

I eventually recovered from my C-section, survived those first few sleepless months, and returned to work. At the time, I was working for a Fortune 100 company and happily contributing to the corporate world. But becoming a new mom brought with it an internal struggle and search for something “more" out of my life--a desire to have a bigger impact. A flashback to my friend's golden piece of advice got me thinking: Why aren't mesh underwear readily available for women in recovery? What if I could make the magical mesh underwear available to new moms everywhere? Did I know much about designing, selling, or marketing clothing? Not really. But I also didn't know much about motherhood when I started that journey, either, and that seemed to be working out well. And so, Brief Transitions was born.

My quest began. With my manufacturing and engineering background I naively thought, It's one product. How hard could it be? While it may not have been “hard," it definitely took a lot of work. I slowly started to do some research on the possibilities. What would it take to start a company and bring these underwear to market? How are they made and what type of manufacturer do I need? With each step forward I learned a little more--I spoke with suppliers, researched materials, and experimented with packaging. I started to really believe that I was meant to bring these underwear to other moms in need.

Then I realized that I needed to learn more about the online business and ecommerce world as well. Google was my new best friend. On my one hour commute (each way), I listened to a lot of podcasts to learn about topics I wasn't familiar with--how to setup a website, social media platforms, email marketing, etc. I worked in the evenings and inbetween business trips to plan what I called Execution Phase. In 2016, I had a website with a Shopify cart up and running. I also delivered my second daughter via C-section (and handily also supplied myself with all the mesh underwear I needed).

They say, “If you build it, they will come." But I've learned that the saying should really go more like this: “If you build it, and tell everyone about it, they might come." I had a 3-month-old, an almost 3 year old and my business was up and running. I had an occasional sale; however, my processes were extremely manual and having a day job while trying to ship product out proved to be challenging. I was manually processing and filling orders and then going to the post office on Saturday mornings to ship to customers. I eventually decided to go where the moms shop...hello, Amazon Prime! I started to research what I needed to do to list products with Amazon and the benefits of Amazon fulfillment (hint: they take care of it for you).

Fast forward to 2018...

While I started to build this side business and saw a potential for it to grow way beyond my expectations, my corporate job became more demanding with respect to travel and time away from home. I was on the road 70% of the time during first quarter 2018. My normally “go with the flow" 4-year-old started to cry every time I left for a trip and asked why I wasn't home for bedtime. That was a low point for me and even though bedtime with young kids has its own challenges, I realized I didn't want to miss out on this time in their lives. My desire for more scheduling flexibility and less corporate travel time pushed me to work the nights and weekends needed to build and scale my side hustle to a full-time business. If anyone tries to tell you it's “easy" to build “passive" income, don't believe them. Starting and building a business takes a lot of grit, hustle and hard work. After months of agonizing, changing my mind, and wondering if I should really leave my job (and a steady paycheck!), I ultimately left my corporate job in April 2018 to pursue Brief Transitions full-time.

In building Brief Transitions, I reached out to like-minded women to see if they were experiencing similar challenges to my own--balancing creating and building a business while raising children--and I realized that many women are on the quest for flexible, meaningful work. I realized that we can advance the movement of female entrepreneurs by leveraging community to inspire, empower, and connect these trailblazers. For that reason, I recently launched a new project, The Transitions Collective, a platform for connecting community-driven women entrepreneurs.

As is the case with many entrepreneurs, I find myself working on multiple projects at a time. I am now working on a members-only community for The Transitions Collective that will provide access to experts and resources for women who want to leave corporate and work in their business full-time. Connecting and supporting women in this movement makes us a force in the future of work. At the same time, I had my most profitable sales quarter to date and best of all, I am able to drop my daughter off at school in the morning.

Mesh underwear started me on a journey much bigger than I ever imagined. They sparked an idea, ignited a passion, and drove me to find fulfillment in a different type of work. That stolen underwear was just the beginning.