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Why Going It Alone is How You Should Spend Your Twenties

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Everyone says that your twenties are a time for experimentation, where it's okay to make mistakes and to live a life with as few commitments and responsibilities as possible. While people imparting this wisdom may be thinking about travel, career and family concerns, the romantic aspect is often left aside. Not to say you should spend your whole twenties being aggressively single; quite the opposite in fact. If this golden decade truly is the only window in a woman's life where change and a lack of commitment are acceptable, then this should also apply to our romantic liaisons.


More and more people are swerving relationships for more casual encounters, or simply picking friends with benefits, which is fitting in the age of uber-convenience and endless choice. Avoiding relationships and going your own way is the ideal way to make sure you get the absolute most out of a highly formative decade in your life, and here's why.

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Expelling Doubt

Our relationships, especially in our early years, often become our crutches. To live a truly fearless lifestyle and discover your potential, you need to untether yourself from other people. The future is full of limitless possibilities, and tarot readings might reveal more than what you thought was possible, and being fully independent is the best way to maximise your experiences. Going it alone allows you to remove self-doubt, as you free yourself from the weight of the expectations of others.

Limitless Freedom

Have you ever wanted to just drop everything and say, go backpacking around the world, or quit your 9-5 job to focus on what you're truly passionate about? Being able to seize the moment and overhaul your life at the drop of a hat is a lot more difficult when you're living your life according to the needs and expectations of a partner, and even though the right partner should always be supportive of your dreams, you realistically won't be able to do anything you want without considering the other person. Relationships can come later, but now is the best time to live a life of total independence and personal freedom.

Be Who You Want to Be

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This final reason goes beyond simply carving out your own career path or embarking on a life of adventure. We often mould ourselves according to our relationships, which can be a positive thing that contributes to our own growth and development. However, at such a young age you need to be able to figure out who you really are as a person, and what it really is that makes you tick. This important process is difficult to get through with a partner in your early years, so the single life really is the way to go if you want to fully realise who you are and what you're meant to be.

Our relationships are a cornerstone of our lives, and shape who we are profoundly. This is a good thing, however, a relationship before you've realised your full potential is a waste of time, which is why you should go it alone in your twenties.

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