Health 10 August 2020
Post-natal depression is more common than you might think. With new parents feeling unable to talk about it, the true number of those with postnatal depression can be underestimated. However, opening up and seeking help is the best thing you can do if you have symptoms.
Knowing what to look for
If you have a new baby, it's usual to feel a little upset or worried for the first few weeks. You will experience a variety of emotions and not all of them will be joy. If you find yourself feeling this way for longer, it might be postnatal depression. Other symptoms to be aware of include a loss of enjoyment, a constant low mood that never seems to lift, feeling cut off or cutting yourself off from others, trouble sleeping even when your baby is asleep, lacking motivation to do much, or finding yourself thinking about doing things that scare you.
Difficulties in opening up
It can be hard to open up for several reasons. One common reason is a fear of having your baby taken away, or of the authorities questioning your capability to look after your own child. Another reason can be failure, or worrying about how others will perceive you. As postnatal depression is more commonly associated with new mothers, this can also make it more difficult for new fathers to speak to someone if they find themselves experiencing symptoms.
Being open about how you're feeling is the first important step though. It can lead to getting much-needed support. Keeping it hidden can lead to bigger problems.
What kind of help is available?
While there are certain things you can do yourself, it's recommended that you speak to a medical professional in addition to trying these. By speaking to friends and family and getting their support, you can manage the problem and ensure that you have people around when you need help. This can involve family members helping you with the day-to-day care of your baby, and ensuring that you look after yourself by eating a balanced diet and getting enough sleep. Your doctor can refer you to therapy, whether one on one or in a group, prescribe antidepressants if necessary, and discuss your options and other ways of tackling your postnatal depression.
If you prefer to have therapy from the comfort of your own home, you could try Brightside Review. This website offers medication and therapy for those suffering with postnatal depression (among other conditions such as depression and anxiety), and it has a risk-free 30-day guarantee.
Learn to ask for help
It can feel like failing at parenthood when you see other new parents managing or exceeding all expectations. That's not the case, and postnatal depression certainly isn't something to feel ashamed of. You don't get to see how other parents behave behind closed doors. They could also be struggling, or they could be coping fine. However, it's not a competition, and asking for help takes a lot of courage, so it's not a sign of weakness. No matter how prepared you think you are, having a baby will always bring the unexpected. Opening up about how you're feeling can encourage others who are struggling to come forward. The idea that you have to be the best at everything when it comes to parenthood is inhibiting enough, and not a helpful process when suffering from postnatal depression.
Other ways to deal with postnatal depression
As well as seeking help, it's important to take care of yourself, as already mentioned. This can be easier said than done. However, making time for yourself is important. Befriending other parents can help – if you're willing to open up about some of your struggles, the chances are that they will also. You'll realize that you're not alone.
Putting in the effort to wash and dress each day may not seem important if you're at home looking after your baby all day. However, it can help, and if you feel up to going out for a walk, you'll be more likely to do it if you're already dressed.
Meditation and mindfulness techniques may also be beneficial. It may be difficult to find a quiet place and time when you have a newborn, but a few minutes at a time is better than nothing.
However you deal with postnatal depression, it's important to seek help, talk about it, develop your own support network, and do what you can to practice self-care. A combination of these is the best approach. You don't have to suffer in silence.
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"How did you ever get into a business like that?" people ask me. They're confounded to hear that my product is industrial baler wire—a very unfeminine pursuit, especially in 1975 when I founded my company in the midst of a machismo man's world. It's a long story, but I'll try to shorten it.
I'd never been interested to enter the "man's" world of business, but when I discovered a lucrative opportunity to become my own boss, I couldn't pass it up—even if it involved a non-glamorous product. I'd been fired from my previous job working to become a ladies' clothing buyer and was told at my dismissal, "You just aren't management or corporate material." My primary goal then was to find a career in which nobody had the power to fire me and that provided a comfortable living for my two little girls and myself.
Over the years, I've learned quite a few tough lessons about how to successfully run a business. Below are five essential elements to keep in mind, as well as my story on how I learned them.
Find A Need And Fill It
I gradually became successful at selling various products, which unfortunately weren't profitable enough to get me off the ground, so I asked people what they needed that they couldn't seem to get. One man said, "Honey, I need baler wire. Even the farmers can't get it." I saw happy dollar signs as he talked on and dedicated myself to figuring out the baler wire industry.
I'd never been interested to enter the "man's" world of business, but when I discovered a lucrative opportunity to become my own boss, I couldn't pass it up.
Now forty-five years later, I'm proud to be the founder of Vulcan Wire, Inc., an industrial baler wire company with $10 million of annual sales.
Have Working Capital And Credit
There were many pitfalls along the way to my eventual success. My daughters and I were subsisting from my unemployment checks, erratic alimony and child-support payments, and food stamps. I had no money stashed up to start up a business.
I paid for the first wire with a check for which I had no funds, an illegal act, but I thought it wouldn't matter as long as I made a deposit to cover the deficit before the bank received the check. My expectation was that I'd receive payment immediately upon delivery, for which I used a rented truck.
Little did I know that this Fortune 500 company's modus operandi was to pay all bills thirty or more days after receipts. My customer initially refused to pay on the spot. I told him I would consequently have to return the wire, so he reluctantly decided to call corporate headquarters for this unusual request.
My stomach was in knots the whole time he was gone, because he said it was iffy that corporate would come through. Fifty minutes later, however, he emerged with a check in hand, resentful of the time away from his busy schedule. Stressed, he told me to never again expect another C.O.D. and that any future sale must be on credit. Luckily, I made it to the bank with a few minutes to spare.
Know Your Product Thoroughly
I received a disheartening phone call shortly thereafter: my wire was breaking. This horrible news fueled the fire of my fears. Would I have to reimburse my customer? Would my vendor refuse to reimburse me?
My customer told me to come over and take samples of his good wire to see if I might duplicate it. I did that and educated myself on the necessary qualities.
My primary goal then was to find a career in which nobody had the power to fire me and that provided a comfortable living for my two little girls and myself.
Voila! I found another wire supplier that had the right specifications. By then, I was savvy enough to act as though they would naturally give me thirty-day terms. They did!
More good news: My customer merely threw away all the bad wire I'd sold him, and the new wire worked perfectly; he then gave me leads and a good endorsement. I rapidly gained more wire customers.
Anticipate The Dangers Of Exponential Growth
I had made a depressing discovery. My working capital was inadequate. After I purchased the wire, I had to wait ten to thirty days for a fabricator to get it reconfigured, which became a looming problem. It meant that to maintain a good credit standing, I had to pay for the wire ten to thirty days before my customers paid me.
I was successful on paper but was incredibly cash deprived. In other words, my exponentially growing business was about to implode due to too many sales. Eventually, my increasing sales grew at a slower rate, solving my cash flow problem.
Delegate From The Bottom Up
I learned how to delegate and eventually delegated myself out of the top jobs of CEO, President, CFO, and Vice President of Finance. Now, at seventy-eight years old, I've sold all but a third of Vulcan's stock and am semi-retired with my only job currently serving as Vice President of Stock and Consultant.
In the interim, I survived many obstacles and learned many other lessons, but hopefully these five will get you started and help prevent some of you from having the same struggles that I did. And in the end, I figured it all out, just like you will.