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Supermodel Madeline Stuart Shares Her Fitness Tips For Women Who Hate To Workout

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World renowned supermodel, Madeline Stuart is continuing to do amazing things in 2018. The world's first supermodel with Down Syndrome, we have watched her walk the runways of New York Fashion Week, the Art Hearts Fashion Week, Style Fashion Week, and Melange Fashion Week along with many other shows around the world.


On a mission to prove the doctors otherwise, who once told her mother that she wouldn't amount to anything, she's working to completely change the face of beauty and be the fittest she's ever been this year.

Being committed to healthy eating and exercising, working out 6 days a week with a personal trainer and sprinkling in time on the basketball court and on the cricket field has been her main focus. She's subsequently lost over 40 pounds (an especially challenging feat for someone with Down Syndrome), and has gained her access to the runways at London Fashion Week, Paris Fashion Week, Milan Fashion Week, LA Fashion Week and in Istanbul - experiences she says are unlike any other. “There is nothing better than being on the catwalk, I love it, I feel my happiest when I am up there. I have found travelling the world so educational and have met some amazing people I hope I can continue to work with in the future," she shared with SWAAY.

Her accomplishments don't end with modeling though, as she's also busy with philanthropic work. She recently received the Quincy Jones Exceptional Advocacy Award at the Be Beautiful Be Yourself Fashion Show, with celebrities such as actress and activist Eva Longoria, Jamie Foxx, Matt Dillon and more. The event helped raise more than $2.6 million for research and medical care for Down Syndrome and the Special Olympics of New York.

Sticking with a fitness routine is definitely not the easiest thing, but she's certain that even the women who hate getting up and getting to the gym or a class can keep with it.

If you're wondering how she even finds time to get to the gym, I'd say that we're having similar thoughts. But she makes time for it because she loves it and her health is so important to her.

With the next thing on her already pretty epic to-do list being a major bikini shoot, she's sharing how she keeps motivated to hit the gym those 6 days a week and never lose sight of the life-changing goals that she's made for herself. Sticking with a fitness routine is definitely not the easiest thing, but she's certain that even the women who hate getting up and getting to the gym or a class can keep with it.

Focus on the exhilaration of the workout

Getting up and putting those kicks on your feet is half the battle, but once you do, so many amazing emotions will wash over you as you get that adrenaline pumping. Madeline shared that she concentrates on the way she feels post-workout to help her get up and get moving. “I just hate sitting around doing nothing, I do not really watch tv or play on my computer, I have always been active and I love to socialize at the gym. The feeling after a workout is exhausting but exhilarating." We all know how good that post-workout glow feels, so shifting our focus could just be the key we all need to make fitness just as much of a commitment as we have with our businesses.

"The feeling after a workout is exhausting but exhilarating." Photo Courtesy of DMac Photography

Stick with your favorite classes

While most of us are on a mission to try new things in life, sticking with what you know you already love when it comes to hitting the gym might help you get closer to your goals than always trying something new. Madeline sticks to a few of her favorite classes to make the biggest impact on her body and burn the most calories. “I really love boxing, the battle ropes, and dance. These are definitely my favorite," she says.

When in doubt, think about the upcoming bikini season

There's nothing more motivating than thinking about putting on a bikini. With her upcoming bikini shoot in the works, this is a feeling that Madeline knows all too well and says she's preparing with “lots of Cardio, you need to get rid of the carbs and get moving on the treadmill."

Photo Courtesy of Wildflower Portraits

Madeline's three key tips

We've all had those sluggish moments when the last thing we want to do is get up and jump head first into a sweat sesh - but it's so necessary and so good for our bodies. Here's what Madeline has offered as her tips for pushing through those tough moments.

  1. You may hate work but if you want to pay the bills you do the job. Your health is way more important than the bills so you must work out.
  2. We look after everyone around us, women are always putting others first. Take the time to put yourself first, especially your health and go to the gym for you. It will relieve stress and you will feel great, especially after a few weeks.
  3. You only hate it if it is hard to do, once it is easier you will love it so get fit and fall in love with exercise.

Looking at everything that Madeline has accomplished over the years, has me motivated not only to get to the gym, but about life in general. She's persevered through so many moments where others might have just given up and there's a huge lesson in that.

Even through her success, Madeline is still the most down to Earth and humble woman and she reminded me to focus on simplicity and never underestimate the power of a smile.

“Never give up on yourself," she shared, “and always remember that a smile can make someone's day, sometimes we are so busy we forget that we all need someone and we all need to feel wanted. Life is short and is so much more than a big house and a fancy car, some of your best memories may come from the most simple things in life."

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The G-spot Exists Even When Junk Science Tries To Con Women Into Thinking It Doesn’t

Yes, there is a G-spot. Of course there's a G-spot.


There's always been a G-spot.

And while we're on the subject, it's not a spot. It's not a little button or dot. It's an area. While we're on the subject, we really should rename it all together. A man “discovered it." Uh, huh. And he named it after himself. Of course. But I digress. The point is, the G-spot very much exists.

How do I know? Because I've touched my share of them. I've touched them and stimulated them, and the women to whom those G-spots belonged had delicious orgasms from the said touching of them. Ask them. Go ahead. You don't have to believe me because the G-spot is not the Easter Bunny or Santa Claus or even God for that matter. It's not something to “believe in." It's something that exists because it's there and you can touch it.

As the author of two books on women's sexuality, “O Wow: Discovering Your Ultimate Orgasm" and “The Ultimate Guide to Solo Sex," I have talked to hundreds of women; researched and spoken to the experts; and read, read, read everything I could get my hands on. I know the G-spot exists because it exists. That is how you know something exists. You do not however, deny the existence of something because, well, it's self-serving.

And in case you're thinking, “You've written some sex books and slept with some women. You're no doctor." You're right. But Juliana Morris, PhD, LMFT, LPC is. She's a credentialed therapist, academic, and a bona fide (s)expert, with decades of experience “counseling and supporting thousands of individuals and couples on their paths to discover and own their sexual agency."

Her thoughts on the G-Spot? “Yes, it exists. Better stated….every (biologically identified) woman has the potential for pleasure in an area within her vaginal cavity. That is how I describe it. An area of potential. I am confident it exists because of hundreds of interviews and work with women. Women who have experienced pleasure in an area within her 'accidently,' women who have made purposeful efforts to find pleasure in this area as a solo or partnered endeavor using specific techniques to maximize the potential of pleasure for her and hearing both groups describe the difference of pleasure from other orgasmic experiences."

The fact that some folks who have the audacity to call themselves “researchers" when they only had thirteen women in their study – THIRTEEN – decided there is no G-spot because they couldn't find one is idiocy. I have touched more than thirteen of them personally. Just all by myself, no research study – OR DOLLARS – required. Morris adds, “That study is inaccurate and is inherently flawed. In large part because of the belief that it functions like other pleasure organs. Mainly, however, because it is asking the wrong questions and using inadequate parameters to prove or disprove it."

I'll tell you what outranks that study by a zillion – reality. I have touched the G-spots of women I have loved, women I have hooked up with, and even women with whom I have taken Body Dodson's famed masturbation workshop Body Sex. Of course there's a G-spot. Don't be ridiculous.

This is just another chapter in the on-going saga of “men who don't want to learn about women's bodies or have women know about their own bodies so let's just call women frigid or broken or too complicated." We and our bodies are none of those things. Women who don't want to have sex aren't frigid. They are tired of showing up for an activity that feeds male pleasure and leaves them hanging because too many men have no idea how to work the equipment.

Women aren't broken. We don't have penises. We don't want or need penises. We have something WAY better. We have clitorises with 8,000 plus nerve endings and no other job other than to give us pleasure. And, no, our bodies aren't too complicated. All you have to do is ask. Believe me, if you care enough to ask, she'll be happy to tell you what rocks her world.

The thing is, men, who are in charge of the budgets and the research and the media and the message, get nothing for themselves – zero, zilch, nada – from teaching and promoting the truth about women's bodies and sexuality. Not to mention is that all men want to do is measure and quantify. No can do with the G-spot. But that doesn't matter one bit.

Morris explains, “I do believe the reason behind the quest to invalidate the G-spot area is heavily rooted in the misguided notion that a woman's pleasure experience cannot be measured or seen and thusly cannot exist. The antiquated medical and scientific views of research do not apply to the variance and contextual nuisances of womanhood and female pleasure. And that difference-from the male, medical model is threatening and challenging and for some in that world, easily dismissed. Or must be dismissed. Unexplained + variance +can't be seen/measure= bad, crazy, non-existent. And frankly…the scientific and medical world, especially male practitioners in general still exhibit a level of discomfort if not distaste for female pleasure."

On the other hand, straight men gain plenty from creating and feeding the myths. They can keep women feeling less-than and self-conscious and dirty and broken and thinking that they need a man, that they are lucky to even have one since they are so broken. Then men don't have to learn or put in any effort in the bedroom or anywhere else for that matter because they are, all puns intended, cock of the walk. Well, fuck that.

Listen up, ladies. There is nothing wrong with you. Not one damn thing. Your body and your clitoris and your vagina and your very much existing G-spot are all perfect and they are all yours. And while we're on the subject, you have every right to enjoy them on your own, with a partner, with many partners, within a loving relationship, just for fun, whatever.

Masturbate, make love, hook up, you do you. Literally. You don't need a man. You can want one. But you do not – I repeat, do not – in any way need a man for sexual pleasure. The penis is completely and totally unnecessary for female sexual pleasure. COMPLETELY UNNECESSARY. There are mouths and fingers and toys and even vegetables that are actually far better suited for the job.

Too much of this “there's no G-spot" nonsense comes from the fact that most folks don't even know the truth about the clitoris. That tiny little bud on the outside is the tip of the iceberg. The clitoris has long, internal legs. Think inverted wishbone.

Women have just as much – if not more – erectile tissue than men.

Women have just as much – if not more – erectile tissue than men. Women can experience gobs of pleasure when some penis isn't just using the vagina like some sort of masturbation sleeve, banging away until said penis is done. And – side note – when it's done it's done, unlike the mighty clitoris which requires zero recoup time. ZERO. Sure the G-stop is a relative of the clitoris. Regardless of who or what it's related to - it exists. Not every woman goes wild when her G-spot is stimulated. That is true. Not every women can identify her G-spot. That is true. But every woman does have a G-spot. You simply have be enough of a human being to care about women and their bodies and their pleasure to know that. People can tell you about Game of Thrones in minute detail but they don't know the difference between a vagina and a vulva. (The vagina is the internal canal. The vulva is the external bits.)

This is getting so idiotic. We don't need any more studies. We need people to start talking to and LISTENING to women. The very pussy owning humans themselves. Want to know the truth about women's bodies? Pay attention to the ones you are insanely lucky to be intimate with. This is all verifiable info. This is not some Lochness shit here. Come on.

Women need to know their bodies. Human need to know about women's bodies. “I think it is crucial for women to understand, deeply, the implications of our variance in anatomy and pleasure," says Morris. "Our variance needs to be acknowledged, understood, celebrated and validated. Our variance is indeed beautiful. Normal. Expected. No big deal. Some of our variance is rooted in evolutionary brilliance. Some of it is evolutionary irrelevance, and it just is. We all need a roadmap to examine our sexuality and pleasure and medical studies like this just distract us from the REAL research."

"That dream aside, pleasure is our birthright. We have the right to seek, enhance and experience pleasure. On our own terms and in our own way. Validating the existence for the potential for pleasure in this area is one area where women can choose to claim this collectively." -Juliana Morris

If you're a woman, grab a mirror and have a look. Masturbate, please. Insert your own fingers into your own vagina, curve it upwards, and two inches in, toward the front of your body, you will feel a patch of tissue with ridges on it. Play with it and it will expand. That's your G-spot. Insert a toy that vibrates to stimulate it. Insert the classic and most reliable toy on earth for masturbation, the Betty Dodson Barbell, and try out her Rock and Rock Method of masturbation. (You can thank me later.) And once you have done that, you will smack the face of anyone who tells you what body parts you don't have. And if someone argues with you, make a note to never, ever, ever have sex with them. Ever. And to those “researchers," get a real job. Women don't need anyone else telling us that we don't have body parts that we clearly do. We don't need anyone else chipping away at our self-esteem. We don't need any more sex shaming. And thirteen people? Really? Thirteen? Shame on you. You and your practices and your findings are ridiculous.

And to anyone who has the honor of engaging with a woman and her body, be respectful, pay attention, put your own pleasure on the back burner, remember that just because it feels good to you doesn't mean it does a damn thing for her, and for God's sake, listen – listen, listen, listen.

Yes, Virginia, there is a G-spot.