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With Mercury In Retrograde, Here's How Your December Stacks Up


With the Sun, Mercury, Venus, and Saturn all in Sagittarius this month, Fire and Air signs get ready to shake, rattle and roll! It's time to take bold risks for the big win. And if all of these Sag transits are a pile of kindling then Aries in Uranus will strike the match. Surprises and drama of every variety abound this month to the delight of the Air and Fire signs.

Not so much for everyone else. Water and Earth signs just cover your heads and wait until the first of the year for some much-needed calm. And everyone be mindful of Mercury in retrograde Dec 4 - Dec 23. Because it's in Sagittarius, especially watch out for accidents and “foot in mouth" syndrome. It's a fiery holiday season this year...have fun and go big!


“Feeling Groovy"

Happy birthday to the archers! Wow, what a month...There is a stellium (four or more planets in one sign) in Sagittarius this month so this is your party. It's a good thing that you don't mind being the center of attention and/or being busy because you'll need to buckle up for this ride. Not only are you attracting people, money and attention this month, you are right in the way of surprise good fortune with your stellium trining Uranus in Aries. Sagittarians are famously known for being accident prone...but not to worry, you can't do anything to screw this manna up. You deserve it. Enjoy!


“Calm before the storm"

Expect your energy to be low on the first of the month. You may catch yourself daydreaming or reflecting on the emotional events of the past year and not realizing how much time has gone by. No way. Busy, focused and efficient Capricorn zoning out? Yep. December will be a month to take emotional inventory of what you need to get rid of in order to have a better 2018. It's also time to plan and make lists of tasks and goals for the coming year. Less action, more planning. No problem! You are the master of preparation. You got this.


“Time to get woke"

December starts and you are just humming along doing your thing when...BAM! Something akin to the ice bucket challenge happens to your emotions. Never fear, permission granted to do what feels natural to most Aquarians in the face of a lot of emotion: leave. I don't mean leave in a destructive sense. I mean travel. You need a change in perspective and a fresh view of everything. Plan a trip in December. You have good energy this month so you can create this. Dec 12-13: good love.


“Sitting on the dock of the bay"

You are flowing with the current of your life and work. Watching all of those dreams form and float by you like clouds. That well known Pisces lack of resistance is so good for you right now. But there is a new ingredient being added to your soup this month: initiative. You are finally ready to take all those creative ideas and goals and get to work. Take action. Manifest. Expand. It's easy...at least for right now. Take advantage of it. Dec 14-16: happy days.


“Giddy up!"

All the fire signs are benefiting from the current Sagittarian stellium and you my lovely Aries are no exception. Enjoy that silver tongue while it lasts. Aries natives aren't known for their eloquence but right now you are the best person to deliver the message. You are also so productive and focused! Work as much as you can this month. You are weaving gold. Dec 7-8: watch that temper.


“Let the good times roll"

This isn't your most productive month, until the last week of the year which is typically a vacation time for most. Give yourself a break and take your pedal off the gas because your year is over. Your best days revolve around the holidays. Enjoy the parties and community...but don't drink too much eggnog. You'll be tempted to really overindulge. Watch it. The New Year will start with a bang for you so take it easy while you can. Dec 24-25: yummy.


“Talking heads"

Mercury is your ruling planet and this month he is taking you on a wild ride! With our wing-footed friend traveling through Sagittarius, you are sure to have the extra urge to be the motor mouth, the challenger or the endless jokester. Instead of talking, write. This December is the perfect time to start that blog, book or column. Everyone will be dealing with the Mercury in retrograde from Dec 4- Dec 23 but it always is especially intense for the Geminis. Call someone and make amends or be the bigger person and extend the olive branch first. Dec 1-10: tons of energy


“Keep the home fires burning"

This fiery Sagittarius stellium is a lot for you to handle. It's not a bad thing, it will just make you feel overwhelmed emotionally and drained. Remember that for you the holidays are about home and family.

Jupiter in Scorpio gives you the excuse to be at home, with time to connect and bond intimately with whomever you see as your family. It also gives you permission to spend quality time with yourself, recharging for the big new year that is coming up for you.


“Putting off a scent"

Get ready for one of the best holiday seasons that you've had in many years. It's a fire sign party in December and Leos are the ultimate party host and guest! Venus will be training all Leo's at some point this month so make sure to be out and be seen. You have the ability to attract both people and money! Look out for raises, bonuses and monetary gifts...and invitations to parties. Those of you in relationships may have a few more fights this month with your partner but the making up will be fabulous. The Mercury retrograde starting on December 4 affects you the least and could bring surprise offers and calls from past partners and clients.


“Scattered, covered and smothered"

You have felt generally frazzled and uneasy for a while now. This phase won't let up in December and Mercury in retrograde beginning on the 4th doesn't help. Hang on until the end of the month and I promise you will start to feel in control again in the new year! This is the perfect month to take your amazing list making abilities and turn them on yourself. With Scorpio in Mars and Jupiter, it's a great time to do some self-reflection and set goals for emotional and psychological self-improvement. Find a therapist, start meditating, or keep a journal. Best days will be 19,20, 28 and 29.


“Over the river and through the woods"

The first week of December is super productive for you and the Mercury in retrograde doesn't slow you down as much as others. Use this extra energy to get all of your projects complete so you can take an extra vacation this month! This holiday season, consider visiting old friends, relatives and taking road trips. Your bliss is not to be home for the holidays...go to the islands or take that ski trip. In other words...don't sit still! Make sure you have plans for New Year's Eve because it could be the best one ever. Best days will be 21,22 and 30,31 will be sparkly.


“Put down the pastries"

Let's get to the point. Watch overindulging in food and alcohol this month. With Jupiter and Venus in Scorpio, you will have an unconscious urge to overdo it. Don't. Instead, try to work out more or start the new spin or yoga class. Watch the temper at work. You will not hear the aggressive tone of your voice but your boss and coworkers will. This month is about creativity for you. Ride that productive wave and start the blog or write the short story. Harness that power for good...don't drag it into that dark Scorpio cave. Best days will be 5, 6 and 14, 15.

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Help! My Friend Is a No Show

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Help! My Friend Is a No Show

Dear Armchair Psychologist,

I have a friend who doesn't reply to my messages about meeting for dinner, etc. Although, last week I ran into her at a local restaurant of mine, it has always been awkward to be friends with her. Should I continue our friendship or discontinue it? We've been friends for a total four years and nothing has changed. I don't feel as comfortable with her as my other close friends, and I don't think I'll ever be able to reach that comfort zone in pure friendship.


Dear Sadsies,

I am sorry to hear you've been neglected by your friend. You may already have the answer to your question, since you're evaluating the non-existing bond between yourself and your friend. However, I'll gladly affirm to you that a friendship that isn't reciprocated is not a good friendship.

I have had a similar situation with a friend whom I'd grown up with but who was also consistently a very negative person, a true Debby Downer. One day, I just had enough of her criticism and vitriol. I stopped making excuses for her and dumped her. It was a great decision and I haven't looked back. With that in mind, it could be possible that something has changed in your friend's life, but it's insignificant if she isn't responding to you. It's time to dump her and spend your energy where it's appreciated. Don't dwell on this friend. History is not enough to create a lasting bond, it only means just that—you and your friend have history—so let her be history!

- The Armchair Psychologist

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