Culture 02 May 2018
It’s time to settle into Spring 2018. There is a saying that we all reap what we sow. If every life is a metaphorical garden, some of us have been planting our seeds and tending the ground dutifully and with hope. Some of us have not. Sometimes even the best-kept garden does not prosper due to weather or blight. Sometimes the most vacant and neglected lot is fecund and lush. Then what’s the point? Every person brings their unique perspective to their “lot” in life. Everyone has to deal with uncontrollable circumstances and fate. It is the unique and individual perspective that we each bring to this gardening task that really matters. That’s why I love astrology. It’s just another way to look at the circumstances that everyone is being given and how each individual chooses to navigate through those circumstances. The transits this May bring gifts for some of those that have tended their gardens, and unforeseen surprises and challenges for others. It’s flowers and showers and magical powers…stay tuned for the show!
April 20- May 20
“Electricity is really just organized lightning.” - George Carlin
Happy Birthday, Taurus! We love our bullish Taurus friends, especially in Spring. They love baby humans, baby animals, baby plants, baby anything really. They are typically known for two modes: on or off. There is no in between with a Taurus. They are about physical action or inaction and less about mental quickness, mercurial reasoning, sporadic change or surprises. This month brings a very rare electricity to Taurus with a flash bomb strike of lightning on May 14-15. Fast change, invention, brilliance, unbearable brightness, inspiration, metamorphosis, and verbal fireworks could ensue…shocking everyone …most especially the Taurus at the center of this event. Be open to change and the ability to channel parts of you that you didn’t know were there. May 9-11 Your life is a box of chocolates.
May 21- June 20
“Ready, set, go!”
You’ve felt some heaviness lately. You feel the burden of responsibility more acutely and a tight schedule seems to never let up. There is an old saying that the more you have to do the more you get done. This is the perfect mantra for you this month, especially after May 17th when the action planet Mars moves into Aquarius to trine your Sun. Take advantage of the extra energy boost and focus it towards something productive. May 16-17 Go fly a kite.
June 21- July 22
“Getting into your rhythm”
I’m not going to candy coat how hard the last couple of months have been for you, especially April. May will not be easy but it will be very productive. You will feel like you have stopped running uphill. The pace becomes more manageable and you have a plan to stick to. After May 20th you will be attractive to others and sought out for your aesthetic opinions. After May 14…people finally hear what you have been telling them for months! May 27-28 Become a passenger on the Love Boat.
July 23- August 22
“A lion at the zoo”
Ever wonder what those lions at the zoo are thinking about all day? I like to think that they have been rescued from a worse fate and that their monotonous and yet safe life is better than the alternative that they came from. Many of our Leo friends will be feeling a little like animals in the cage of their duties to family and job this month. Headstrong Leos do not like to lose any autonomy. This is a temporary situation but very real. The remedy? Your creative inventive ideas are flowing and after May 17 you will have the motivation to put them into action. May 12-13 Crush your opponent.
August 23- September 22
“Building your empire”
I love Virgos but sometimes they can be a little smug. They believe that they know how everything is supposed to be. The irritating thing is that most of them actually do. This is such a career building time for Virgos. They just know how things should be and what to do, and everyone notices. You may feel a little frazzled around May 17th and watch that temper May 15-16. May 18- 19 Make special time for your children.
September 23- October 22
“Keep your eye on the horizon”
Libras like Cancers have had it rough for a couple of months, especially in April. Unlike our crab friends, Libras find the month of May keeps the demands at work at a high level. Authority figures just won't cut you a break and feel more oppressive than usual. Your saving grace this month is doing anything to break you out of your routine. Travel is always good medicine for a Libra. Remind yourself that the world is a big place full of new opportunities. May 29-30 Plan a trip out of the country.
October 23- November 21
King and Queen of the realm
You have the power and the vision. You also have the ambition. After May 17th it will be time to delegate. You simply can’t do everything yourself. Stop being a control freak…let some things go and watch them multiply. May 14th ushers Mercury into Taurus which reminds you to be careful of your tone. It’s not what you say it’s how you say it. May 9-10 Date night.
November 22- December 21
I haven’t known many Sagittarians who would rather practice than be on the field in battle. They will put the time in if they know that it will help them win or be more competitive. This month is all about preparation and delaying gratification. It’s not time to play in the game yet. Your glory days are coming. Be patient. And just trust me…buy your lottery tickets before May 16th. May 20-21 Lead the charge.
December 22- January 19
“Tell it to the judge”
It’s a strange predicament that you find yourself in…you are the judge, jury and magistrate taking in all of the fines. It’s not an easy place to be and can cause all kinds of jealousy and resentment in your colleagues. After May 20th your family commitments will be calling you. Take time away from all of your responsibilities towards the end of the month and spend time with loved ones. May 14-15 Check your investments.
January 20- February 18
“Running on a treadmill”
You have so much on your side right now but you are frustrated that you don’t see the results that you are working towards. You are communicating well, full of ideas, attracting followers and brimming over with energy to go after your dreams. Do yourself a favor and avoid judging the outcomes. Revisit your plan and tweak it if necessary. This season is about enjoying the journey and not worrying so much about the destination. May 25-26 Get a makeover and change your look.
January 20- March 20
This is a difficult time for so many. The difference between you and them is that you have a choice. Do you want to do it the hard way or the most efficient way? The key words for you are accountability and discipline. If you are self-reflective and responsible you will slowly but surely get to where you desire to be. If you try to take shortcuts or indulge yourself in folly, all hell breaks loose. Up to you. May May 27-28 Flashes of insight are yours.
March 21- April 19
“Fire in the hole!”
You still have many of the same transits of last month except there are a few big shifts. After Mayou will have an amazing energy to start new projects concerning inventions, new companies, software, technology, and/or anything on the cutting edge of the current culture. You will still have a big workload and feel the tiredness of sustained pressure, especially if you are born between March 21- 29. My big warning is regarding the grenade that may be dropped into your foxhole May 11-16. Do not sit and study or try to fight a potentially volatile situation that could arise suddenly. Have your exit plan ready and leave. It is not your nature to run from the action but this month it is imperative. May 20-21 Honor the queen in your life.
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Help! My Friend Is a No Show
Dear Armchair Psychologist,
I have a friend who doesn't reply to my messages about meeting for dinner, etc. Although, last week I ran into her at a local restaurant of mine, it has always been awkward to be friends with her. Should I continue our friendship or discontinue it? We've been friends for a total four years and nothing has changed. I don't feel as comfortable with her as my other close friends, and I don't think I'll ever be able to reach that comfort zone in pure friendship.
Dear Sadsies,I am sorry to hear you've been neglected by your friend. You may already have the answer to your question, since you're evaluating the non-existing bond between yourself and your friend. However, I'll gladly affirm to you that a friendship that isn't reciprocated is not a good friendship.
I have had a similar situation with a friend whom I'd grown up with but who was also consistently a very negative person, a true Debby Downer. One day, I just had enough of her criticism and vitriol. I stopped making excuses for her and dumped her. It was a great decision and I haven't looked back. With that in mind, it could be possible that something has changed in your friend's life, but it's insignificant if she isn't responding to you. It's time to dump her and spend your energy where it's appreciated. Don't dwell on this friend. History is not enough to create a lasting bond, it only means just that—you and your friend have history—so let her be history!
- The Armchair Psychologist