One of the young girls shared with me her dream of becoming a lawyer so that she can fight for women like her. Another young girl wants to work in the shelter to help other trafficked girls. When I hear their hopes for the future, I am motivated to do more to help change the lives of these incredible girls. They have come from nothing, endured such hardships and they will not be squashed. It is such a stark comparison to the world I live in, where we have everything, yet many people feel unhappy and are continually searching for more.
It's hard to believe that human trafficking is still a global problem in the 21st century. However, today, millions of young girls across the globe are being stripped of their rights on a daily basis. Human trafficking, a multi-billion dollar industry, is the third largest form of illegal trade. This is an industry where people are the commodity.
I was introduced to the topic of human trafficking during my post-grad in International Development, and I was immediately consumed by the topic. Up until my post-grad I was blissfully unaware that human trafficking even existed. It was, and has remained, a hugely under-represented issue. I guess it's hard to talk about, or even comprehend, so people stay oblivious. I recall being at a music festival in Australia where I persisted in talking about human trafficking to anyone who would listen. Most of the people I spoke to (friends included) said things like "it only happens in poor countries" or "it has nothing to do with us", "slavery doesn't still exist, they must choose to do it" and "I can't think about things like that, it's too hard." While that last comment may be true, our ignorance allows it to persist. During my post-grad, I made a vow to myself that I would commit to raising awareness of human trafficking and fight for this injustice because I believe that people are not commodities and that we should have freedom over our bodies.
A number of years later, I was inspired to see Tiffany Cruikshank, a respected and influential leader in the yoga community set up the Yoga Medicine® Seva Foundation to shed light on the issue and raise much needed funds to change the lives of trafficked girls in India. The foundation focuses on India as it has the highest proportion of people trafficked in the world: around 18 million, out of 40 million worldwide. They fight for young girls of human trafficking and other social injustices by funding rescue missions, rehabilitation programs, education and vocational programs, shining a light on the problem.
This year, I joined Yoga Medicine® Seva Foundation's bi-annual trip to India to meet the girls and to see how the money raised is spent. The trip was both inspiring and emotionally tough. I left feeling happy that we had made an impact on these girls lives, but fully aware that there were so many girls still suffering.
When I met the young girls from the shelters, they were shy, awkward and huddled in their group, feeling grateful for the support of their friends from the shelter. It was hard to believe that these young girls (now around 17 years old) were forced to service a minimum of 20 men-per-day when they were much younger and lived in overcrowded, dirty accommodations with hundreds of other girls.
As a female living in the West, I feel both privileged and grateful to have access to high-quality education, freedom of movement and, as a result of this, infinite opportunities. The young girls I met were ripped away their childhood and stolen into the arms of their traffickers; the girls had their freedoms stripped away as they were placed into the hands of hundreds of men. The thought of this violation of human rights makes me sick to my core.
It is clear that education is a key aspect of the girls recovery. Education empowers them to dream big and to see that anything is possible. Through it they realize that they can choose a career and a future they want. I chatted with one of the girls who was very curious about me, about what I did, where I lived and what my life was like. During our conversation, I found out she wanted to become a beauty therapist. She told me how much she loved making people look pretty, it made her feel good. In the time we spent together, I could see she was funny, outgoing and playful, but there were moments of sadness in her eyes and I could see the depth of her trauma.
rescued from trafficking and other social injusticesSarah Annay Photography
It is easy to pretend that this is happening somewhere else, and to a degree it is. Yet anyone, primarily females, could potentially be at risk for trafficking. It is a global problem. The trafficking ring is highly organized and coordinated. The traffickers weave stories and choose victims that are most vulnerable, targeting people from impoverished backgrounds, fleeing from civil unrest, war and human disaster, or, in the case of India, because of their class within the class system.
When we were in India, we learned that one of the young girls had been trafficked by her sister. Her sister had been trafficked a few years prior and she was now a recruiter. The young girl we talked to told us how she was trying to forgive her sister. Her sister (and other girls from the brothels) would be used as bait, dressed in the finest clothes and jewelry and sent to small rural villages to tell families how great their new "nanny" job is and how much money they are making. The families have no way to verify the story, and due to a lack of education and money, they unwittingly send their young daughters away, believing they have given them a better future.
In most cases, families send their daughters away willingly and the young girls very rarely try to escape. The girls are taken to a holding point and handed to another trafficker, then moved again, and again until they are in their final destination: a brothel where they are forced into marriage or domestic servitude. During that time, they are likely 'broken in' multiple times. Many end up in a part of India where they don't speak the language so even if they try to escape, they have no way of communicating their situation to anyone. Traffickers tell the girls that if they flee the work at the brothel, their family will be harmed or that their family will be disappointed as they are sending money home to their family (which is not the case, the families never see any money from the traffickers). Poverty fuels the human trafficking industry in India where two-thirds live in poverty living on less than $2 a day.
It is both heart-breaking and heart-warming spending time with these young girls. What they have endured is incomprehensible. It is heart-breaking to imagine what these beautiful young souls have been through, yet they still have so much light and beauty which made me feel blessed to spend time with them and left me inspired by their determination, and strength. I can't imagine what they have been through or how they feel.
While spending time with the girls, I assisted the healing arts workshop organized by Yoga Medicine® Seva Foundation's partner, Her Future Coalition. During this time we get to see their individual personalities shining through. Many of them crave a normal life, seeking things like marriage, children and a home. It surprised me that despite everything they have been through, these girls still refuse to be defined by their past. They have a strength deep inside them. It is palpable.
To make a real impact in India, education is vital, if the young girls can find a career that brings them out of the poverty line, their chances of being re-trafficked diminish greatly. Education is the key to empowering them, giving them a voice so they can create the future the deserve. This is why Yoga Medicine® Seva Foundation partners with two NGO's on the ground in India, Her Future Coalition and Rescue Foundation, to rescue, rehabilitate and provide education for the girls.
While the money raised in the last campaign had a huge impact on the lives of these young girls, many more still face human trafficking and sexual exploitation every day. The Yoga Medicine Seva® Foundation is continuing its fundraising efforts to combat the dire situation in India, and is aiming to raise $150,000 by 2021. I believe that as women we need to stand up for girls like those in India, giving them a voice and a chance at a real future. If women don't stand up for other women, who else will?
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We are living in a time when women are rising to new heights which means they are regularly being confronted with the fear of being "too much". For women in business this is pervasive and costly.
A few ways women can be perceived as "too much" are:
Speaking up about their successes and achievements.
Sharing one too many photos of their cute kids.
Telling one too many people about that date night.
Looking a little too good in that swimsuit.
These can lead to being publicly attacked on social media or privately slandered which in turn leads to women dimming their light and walking on egg shells in hopes of avoiding conflict and judgement.
The minute a woman feels it's unsafe to shine she will begin to overthink, worry, and fear how she shows up in the world.
Forgetting to announce the book is done and the interview is live.
Choosing to focus on what's still on the to-do list rather than what's been checked off.
Many female entrepreneurs are subconsciously altering their behavior in an attempt to not attract too much attention to themselves, rather than focusing on allowing authenticity and magnetism to attract their ideal clients and community.
Women are afraid of being criticized, ostracized, and abandoned by other women for simply being who they are. This leads to quite the quantum when being who you are is simplest way to accelerate the growth of your business.
New research shows men are far more comfortable with self promotion than women are. Researchers found that men rate their own performance 33 percent higher than equally performing women. What we know is that self promotion pays off and this is where women are missing the boat.
The world needs more women to step into leadership roles and no longer be intimidated about creating six and seven figure careers.
Here are five ways to release the fear of being "too much":
1. Approve of yourself.
While it feels good to receive outside validation it will never be enough if you don't first appreciate yourself. The key to having a healthy support system is to make sure you are part of it. Being your biggest critic is what your mother's generation did. It's now time to be your biggest cheerleader. Becoming aware of self talk will reveal what belief is ready to be re-wired. Create a simply mantra that affirms how incredible capable you are.
2. Connect deeply to those you serve.
One powerful way to shift out of people pleasing behavior is to get clear on who actually matters to the wellbeing and success of your life and business. Leadership is not about being the most popular, instead it's a decision to be brave for those who can't be. Take a few minutes each day to visualize and meditate on those your business serves and supports. See your future clients moving toward you every time you choose to stand in your power and use your authentic voice.
3. Remember the legacy you wish to leave.
Having your life purpose and legacy in writing is one of the most transformational exercises you can do. Reading this often will keep you focused on what matters. Knowing what you wish to leave in the hearts of those you love most is incredibly grounding. You didn't come here to keep your mouth shut, dilute your truth, or dim your light-you came here to make a difference.
4. Forgive those who have been unsupportive in the past.
The past has a way of informing the future in a negative way when there is unresolved pain. Take a few minutes to get quiet and ask yourself who you have unforgiveness towards or maybe their name came to mind as you read this article. Listening to a forgiveness meditation or writing a letter to the person you are ready to forgive are both simple and effective ways to process and heal.
5. Be part a community of bright, successful women.
Meaningful relationships with others who have similar aspirations is what will keep you out of isolation and playing small. These connections can happen in a networking group, online community or a local Meetup. Thriving in every area of life is depend on you knowing where you belong and being celebrated there. Don't wait to be invited, go actively seek out people and places that support your dreams and desires.
6. Accept you can have it all.
Women have been fed a lie for generations that says, you can have love or money. Decide you can have it all and allow it to flow to you. You can have a successful career and an amazing mother. You can balance motherhood and loving marriage. Don't let anyone write the rules for you. This is the time to create the life you desire on your terms.
7. Celebrate everything!
The fastest way to leave the haters in the dust is to celebrate everything! At the end of each day lay in bed and recall the best moments. At the end of each week, publicly acknowledge and celebrate what's good in your life. Once a month, have a celebration dinner and share it with those who have helped you in the journey. If there's something good happening, talk about it with everyone who will listen!
May you be a woman who chooses to shine so that others may be reminded of all they can be and do.