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Here Are Five Nannies Who Make Over $100,000 a Year

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When you think of careers that yield six-figure salaries accompanied by enviable, jaw-dropping perks, being a nanny probably doesn't come to mind. We know what you're thinking: Is a $100,000 salary the norm? Nope, but it's absolutely doable. In fact, when we began researching this story, we quickly discovered that we had more highly paid nannies to interview than what we had room to include.


Here's the thing, though: Being a six-figure nanny requires a certain kind of person, and the skill set is more inherent than it is learned. They must be incomprehensibly patient, incredibly flexible, able to work 70+ hours a week with a perma-smile, and someone who will completely sacrifice her life for the family she's working with.

Let's say you're a six-figure nanny with hot date on Saturday night, but your family calls you in that morning for a spontaneous jet-away across the country. That date is to be continued, and you're officially on the clock. And though you may have been swept away via a private plane and ushered to the most lavish five-star hotel, that doesn't equate to champagne selfies and sight-seeing. It equates to preparing a schedule for the child and taking care of the family's every need so their vacation goes off without a hitch.

“These families have the luxury of being really spontaneous – to a degree that most of us can't even imagine," says Katie Provinziano, managing director at Westside Nannies, a California-based agency that pairs families with the perfect nanny. “A lot of nannies really like structure, and they feel like their role is to create structure for the children and their parents. So they're tasked with the difficult job of creating structure within what can be a completely unstructured setting."

We spoke to three of these highly-paid nannies to further gain insight into their lives. Some names have been changed to protect their – and their families' – identities.

Catherine, 29: Bedford, NY

Salary: $140,000

How long have you been a nanny?

I've been a nanny since I was in college, and I have about six years of full-time, professional experience. I went to college to study elementary education, and sort of fell into nannying during the summers. I discovered that I loved it, and when I graduated, instead of looking for teaching jobs I applied to my first nanny agency.

Tell us about the families you've worked with.

I've worked with children ages fourteen to two days old, but my current kids are two and four. The parents are great and very involved. All of the families I've worked with have been different. In some cases, the parents are rarely around, and in others they're involved in every aspect. I've worked around the country and the world, and I've lived and worked on a horse farm, on a yacht, in villas, and in "normal" homes. That's what's great about being a nanny – it's the same profession, but every position is like a completely different job with different skills required and people to figure out.

What are some perks associated with your job?

Private travel is pretty great. It's hard to go back to flying commercial when you're used to having a jet all to yourself. I've seen more places than I ever would have been able to on my own, and in the most amazing ways. Also, getting to eat meals prepared by the amazing household chefs is a huge perk! Each job has had its own special things. I've gotten generous bonuses, had apartments provided, and have been given lovely gifts.

What's the most challenging part of the job?

It can be a challenge to come into someone else's home and fit in seamlessly. That's part of what's expected of nannies who work in these types of positions. Each family has a different idea about what role they want their nanny to fill, and you need to figure that out quickly. In all cases, the idea is to anticipate and fix every problem before the parents know that it's a problem. It can be a lot of pressure, but I think it's a good and exciting challenge. I would say that nannies who are paid these large salaries are ones who are comfortable and willing to wear many hats. Every day can be different, and learning to go with the flow and keep order amidst chaos is such a necessary skill. It's an exciting career for sure!

Sasha, 28: Nashville, Tenn.

Salary: $150,000

How long have you been a nanny?

I have been a nanny for 10 years. I started babysitting at the ripe age of 11, and those jobs turned into summer gigs, which evolved into part-time nanny positions while I was in college. I ended up taking about six months off from undergrad to take on a tour nanny position, and then once I graduated, I continued to nanny as my career. And here I am today! In addition to a college degree, I have a teaching credential, and have multiple child-related certifications, as well.

What does a typical work day look like for you?

I typically work Monday through Friday about 50 to 55 hours a week, but there have been weeks that have topped 80 hours, not counting the overnights. This usually happens when we are traveling! I give my bosses my full availability from 6 a.m. Monday to 6 p.m. Friday, but there are times when I must be flexible to travel or work weekends. I generally get to work around 9 a.m. and stay until bedtime, but at least stay until after dinner. I'm really lucky with this family because they will let me hire back-up sitters if I have made plans for an evening and they need someone last minute. A lot of jobs that pay at this level don't have this sort of flexibility built in.

What's the most rewarding aspect of your career?

The most rewarding aspect of my job is how much of a difference I can make in a child's life. I love connecting with my charges and seeing their faces light up when I show up for the day. I love being able to soothe them when they scrape a knee or teach them to ride a bike. I truly have fun every single day at work and no two days are the same.

Christine, 33: Ireland

Salary: $100,000

Tell us about the families you've worked with.

I have been both a live-in and a live-out nanny. I don't really prefer one or the other, as they are both great in their own way. Most families I have worked with have two or three kids ranging in ages from newborn to 12. Sometimes you have nurses working with you and you have to manage staff, or as I was lucky enough to have on several travel trips, a co-nanny to help care for the children. It's always great working in an environment with other nannies so you can bounce ideas off each other or build each other up when the energy might be lagging after a long day. With other jobs, you might be the sole nanny in charge of one child, or even three children and maintain the household for the parents. I consider myself fortunate to have had great relationships with all of the parents I have worked for.

What are perks associated with your job?

It varies from family to family. With live-in positions, your living expenses are paid for, including food, Internet, and that sort of thing. With overseas positions, you have medical insurance, plane tickets to and from your home country, and visas are organized and paid for. When you travel with a family, all your expenses are covered, including flights, accommodation and food. You are also often given gifts and bonuses, but it all depends on the family, the position and sometimes the culture that you are working in at any given time. Families are really generous and thoughtful with their nannies.

What are some of the more challenging aspects?

The most challenging aspect of the job for me doesn't come from the job itself, but from the perception of the job. The concept of “nanny" being a career path is not always seen as a serious or important job. The professionals in the industry have worked hard over the years to dispel the myth of a nanny just being an over-paid babysitter, or that is somehow an “easy" way to make money. In reality, it is a professional industry full of hard working women and men who are qualified and experienced and with a passion for what they do. The job has a really serious element to it that can often be glossed over. I have spent many hours with children in doctor's offices, hospitals, with anything from minor illnesses to serious breathing problems. You need to be prepared, be calm, and act quickly in an emergency. We aren't just there to play games all day; we are there to ensure the children's safety and wellbeing.

Sarah, 30: Sydney, Australia

Salary: $100,000

How long have you been a nanny?

A family friend once asked if I could look after her baby for an hour while she went to a meeting. That hour turned into a full-time job and now, 13 years later, I cannot imagine working in a different field. Nannying can be hard to define, but if you think of any quote you've ever heard about finding fulfillment in your work, that's where I am.

Tell us about the families you've worked with.

I love teaming up with new parents who are figuring out how to juggle crucial times in their career, along with raising young children and carving out time to keep hold of what makes them feel like them. This is what nannying offers: quality childcare that really meets a family's needs, rather than expecting a family to work around what the childcare centre needs. My clients include CEOs and Middle Eastern royalty, and my work has brought me two degrees of separation (or less) away from the US President, Beyoncé, Mark Zuckerberg, sporting stars, celebrities, and authors. It certainly gives me a unique perspective on how we all rely on each other to keep the world running.

What are some perks associated with your job?

From envelopes that are full of Euros to Apple products to unicorn socks, the real value of a gift is the acknowledgement and recognition of the investment you are making in a family's life. Of course, my favorite perk is all-expenses paid travel and staying in obscenely lavish hotels in cities I'd previously only seen in photos and movies, eating at restaurants where the bill could cause me to lose my lunch if I were paying, and exploring our incredible world through a child's eyes.

What's the most challenging aspect of your job?

For me, it's not being woken in the night, or the inevitable heartbreaking goodbyes. It's working in an unregulated industry. The women in my nanny community constantly face an uphill struggle to secure an on-the-books job that pays above minimum wage and includes benefits. Many feel forced to settle for one out of three. Unfortunately, this is a complex web to rid ourselves of. Two imposing factors being the gender pay gap and the traditional view that if a woman works, childcare should be paid out of her income.

Idaso, 31: Calabasas, Calif.

Salary: $100,000

Tell us about the families you've worked with.

I am currently working for a celebrity, and they have two children who are four and two and a half. The parents are young, very humble, nice, and value me a lot.

What does a typical work day look like for you?

I am a live-in nanny, so I work 24/7. I usually get the kids ready for school in the morning, prepare a healthy breakfast and lunch for school, drop them at school, run errands, cook a healthy dinner, take the kids to different activities such as gymnastics, ballet, soccer, library, museums, indoor and outdoor playgrounds, or the zoo. I also teach French to the kids and am always on the floor playing with the kids, singing, reading stories, playing games, teaching them the good manners, and a lot more. I usually run most of the errands for the kids, organize their room, do their laundry, maintain their closet unit, clean, give them a bath at night, and put them to bed, as well.

What's the most challenging part of what you do?

I absolutely love what I do, and of course encounter a lot of challenges that help me to improve myself in a good way. I appreciate that there is always room for improvement, and I love moment when you can improve on something. What I found hard sometimes is the last-minute change.

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Patriarchy Stress Disorder is A Real Thing and this Psychologist Is Helping Women Overcome It

For decades, women have been unknowingly suffering from PSD and intergenerational trauma, but now Dr. Valerie Rein wants women to reclaim their power through mind, body and healing tools.


As women, no matter how many accomplishments we have or how successful we look on the outside, we all occasionally hear that nagging internal voice telling us to do more. We criticize ourselves more than anyone else and then throw ourselves into the never-ending cycle of self-care, all in effort to save ourselves from crashing into this invisible internal wall. According to psychologist, entrepreneur and author, Dr. Valerie Rein, these feelings are not your fault and there is nothing wrong with you— but chances are you definitely suffering from Patriarchy Stress Disorder.


Patriarchy Stress Disorder (PSD) is defined as the collective inherited trauma of oppression that forms an invisible inner barrier to women's happiness and fulfillment. The term was coined by Rein who discovered a missing link between trauma and the effects that patriarchal power structures have had on certain groups of people all throughout history up until the present day. Her life experience, in addition to research, have led Rein to develop a deeper understanding of the ways in which men and women are experiencing symptoms of trauma and stress that have been genetically passed down from previously oppressed generations.

What makes the discovery of this disorder significant is that it provides women with an answer to the stresses and trauma we feel but cannot explain or overcome. After being admitted to the ER with stroke-like symptoms one afternoon, when Rein noticed the left side of her body and face going numb, she was baffled to learn from her doctors that the results of her tests revealed that her stroke-like symptoms were caused by stress. Rein was then left to figure out what exactly she did for her clients in order for them to be able to step into the fullness of themselves that she was unable to do for herself. "What started seeping through the tears was the realization that I checked all the boxes that society told me I needed to feel happy and fulfilled, but I didn't feel happy or fulfilled and I didn't feel unhappy either. I didn't feel much of anything at all, not even stress," she stated.

Photo Courtesy of Dr. Valerie Rein

This raised the question for Rein as to what sort of hidden traumas women are suppressing without having any awareness of its presence. In her evaluation of her healing methodology, Rein realized that she was using mind, body and trauma healing tools with her clients because, while they had never experienced a traumatic event, they were showing the tell-tale symptoms of trauma which are described as a disconnect from parts of ourselves, body and emotions. In addition to her personal evaluation, research at the time had revealed that traumatic experiences are, in fact, passed down genetically throughout generations. This was Rein's lightbulb moment. The answer to a very real problem that she, and all women, have been experiencing is intergenerational trauma as a result of oppression formed under the patriarchy.

Although Rein's discovery would undoubtably change the way women experience and understand stress, it was crucial that she first broaden the definition of trauma not with the intention of catering to PSD, but to better identify the ways in which trauma presents itself in the current generation. When studying psychology from the books and diagnostic manuals written exclusively by white men, trauma was narrowly defined as a life-threatening experience. By that definition, not many people fit the bill despite showing trauma-like symptoms such as disconnections from parts of their body, emotions and self-expression. However, as the field of psychology has expanded, more voices have been joining the conversations and expanding the definition of trauma based on their lived experience. "I have broadened the definition to say that any experience that makes us feel unsafe psychically or emotionally can be traumatic," stated Rein. By redefining trauma, people across the gender spectrum are able to find validation in their experiences and begin their journey to healing these traumas not just for ourselves, but for future generations.

While PSD is not experienced by one particular gender, as women who have been one of the most historically disadvantaged and oppressed groups, we have inherited survival instructions that express themselves differently for different women. For some women, this means their nervous systems freeze when faced with something that has been historically dangerous for women such as stepping into their power, speaking out, being visible or making a lot of money. Then there are women who go into fight or flight mode. Although they are able to stand in the spotlight, they pay a high price for it when their nervous system begins to work in a constant state of hyper vigilance in order to keep them safe. These women often find themselves having trouble with anxiety, intimacy, sleeping or relaxing without a glass of wine or a pill. Because of this, adrenaline fatigue has become an epidemic among high achieving women that is resulting in heightened levels of stress and anxiety.

"For the first time, it makes sense that we are not broken or making this up, and we have gained this understanding by looking through the lens of a shared trauma. All of these things have been either forbidden or impossible for women. A woman's power has always been a punishable offense throughout history," stated Rein.

Although the idea of having a disorder may be scary to some and even potentially contribute to a victim mentality, Rein wants people to be empowered by PSD and to see it as a diagnosis meant to validate your experience by giving it a name, making it real and giving you a means to heal yourself. "There are still experiences in our lives that are triggering PSD and the more layers we heal, the more power we claim, the more resilience we have and more ability we have in staying plugged into our power and happiness. These triggers affect us less and less the more we heal," emphasized Rein. While the task of breaking intergenerational transmission of trauma seems intimidating, the author has flipped the negative approach to the healing journey from a game of survival to the game of how good can it get.

In her new book, Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Barrier to Women's Happiness and Fulfillment, Rein details an easy system for healing that includes the necessary tools she has sourced over 20 years on her healing exploration with the pioneers of mind, body and trauma resolution. Her 5-step system serves to help "Jailbreakers" escape the inner prison of PSD and other hidden trauma through the process of Waking Up in Prison, Meeting the Prison Guards, Turning the Prison Guards into Body Guards, Digging the Tunnel to Freedom and Savoring Freedom. Readers can also find free tools on Rein's website to help aid in their healing journey and exploration.

"I think of the book coming out as the birth of a movement. Healing is not women against men– it's women, men and people across the gender spectrum, coming together in a shared understanding that we all have trauma and we can all heal."

https://www.drvalerie.com/