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Discriminated, Disrespected, and Detained: How an Encounter With the NYPD Changed my Life

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I was about one month into my dream job as a forensic psychologist in a remand facility for adolescent girls in Brooklyn, New York. It was my second job after graduating with my Master's and my first job as a psychologist, so words could not describe the excitement and the zeal that I was harboring and felt ready to deliver! I was also earning more money, and at age 27, I saw this a freeing time for me. I was leaving sour relationships and an impending closure at my old job, so my escape was a very satisfying treat all around.

However, unlike my old job, this one did not offer a parking lot for employees, so hustling for street parking in the midst of the Crown Heights neighborhood was my new normal. If I was lucky, I could park in front of our facility, a solid, state-run, double brownstone, which featured a convenient parking sign in front, which denoted the area for state vehicles only. It was large enough to fit three cars and to safeguard employees from receiving parking tickets when parked there, each one was given a laminated parking plaque with the state's emblem on it. I was glad to receive my own state parking plaque from the maintenance man, a quiet, Haitian immigrant, who printed and laminated it before giving it to me. Most often, I did not get the chance to use it, as my late schedule precluded the luxury. However, on occasion, I took the habit of some of my coworkers and used it when I moved my car to the front of the building after the daytime shift left, which lessened the time that I spent walking in the dark to my car at the end of my day.

It was a warm evening in mid-December, 2008, and I was leaving for home after a satisfying day of work at 7 PM. I was parked a little further than usual, half a block east, a block north, and a quarter-of-a block east on the next street over. My car was an off-white, 2005, Acura TSX, with a hip and sporty vibe, just like myself. It was dark, and just after I entered my car, I immediately noticed two police officers coming out of the shadows from across the street approaching me. For those wondering, one was Black and the other was white, in terms of their skin color. They began to ask me about the parking plaque, which was left in my windshield from the day before. I told them that I received it from my workplace, to which they inquired further.

It was dark, and just after I entered my car, I immediately noticed two police officers coming out of the shadows from across the street approaching me.

I do not know when, but at some point, they asked me to step out of the vehicle and I complied. Shortly thereafter, more police officers arrived and different ones began the same line of questioning. They asked me for work identification, which I did not have as it had not yet been issued. They asked for the location of my workplace and I told them. One even replied that he knew the place, which is familiar to the nearby precinct. They asked what I did there and I told them that I was a psychologist; they replied and asked if I was a psychologist. I offered to call my job to confirm my story and I did; by then, no supervisors were available, so I had to retrieve a cellphone number from a coworker. During this, one officer bizarrely noted that if my boss came to the scene with more plaques, she would be arrested. More time passed and looking back, it just consisted of me standing by the door of my car, surrounded by a number of anxious police officers. More and more police cars pulled up to the scene, and in all, I was probably surrounded by fifteen to twenty all-male officers — maybe even more.

My frustration was mounting. By the time the "captain" (they made sure to point out his title) arrived with brakes screeching and sirens blaring, I was ready to go on the offensive. He was a white man in dark clothing with a slightly cocky air, and he wanted to ask the same questions that the others had, so my repeated responses were sharp and to the point. I was obviously irritated and annoyed, and I had no intention of backing down. He heard my responses, surveyed the scene, and made the decision to arrest me. The accused crime was forged state property or something to that effect.

Interestingly enough, none of the officers who had spoken to me by this point made me aware of their captain's decision; it was another officer, maybe of Hispanic or East Indian descent, backed by the rest of his comrades, who informed me of it. He stumbled as he spoke, and I asked him what he would like for me to do next. He told me to turn around. I did, and handcuffs were applied. I successfully bottled up the rage that arose in that instant.

More and more police cars pulled up to the scene, and in all, I was probably surrounded by fifteen to twenty all-male officers — maybe even more.

It was a surreal moment, walking towards the police car, but I was proud and defiant — enduring aspects of my character that would earn me similar backings at different points in my life. I held my head high, ignoring the fact that I was now a major spectacle of "crime."

The silence amongst the cops was deafening as they all stood by to ogle me on their well-prepared walk of shame. I sat in the back of the police car for a while, maybe 10 to 15 minutes, before I was carted off to the precinct several blocks away.
I was led inside and into a bathroom where three female officers corralled around me in order to search my person, which consisted of opening my jacket, jiggling my bra, and by extension unsettling my mental composure. My dignity tugged at, I verbally put up my limitation and insisted that she had jiggled enough. She resisted my resistance verbally, too, but they led me out without further affront since nothing was retrieved.

I was placed in a three or four-foot cell by myself. At some point, I was allowed to make phone calls, and I called my sister and told her to remain calm, as I told her where I was. I next called the Director of our program to inform her of the situation; she could, obviously, only listen at that point. I returned to my cell and I ignored the two benches on either side, believing that it would not be long before all of it was over.

I was led inside and into a bathroom where three female officers corralled around me in order to search my person, which consisted of opening my jacket, jiggling my bra, and by extension unsettling my mental composure.

At some point, the arresting officer, the white one of the two who had initially approached me, came to check on me. I asked to use the bathroom, and I was told to wait for when I arrived at Central Booking. As the night went on, another officer came by and after I asked when I would leave, I was told that Central Booking was closed for the time being so I had to wait for it to reopen. I remained standing the entire night, focusing on maintaining my righteousness and my calm. I passed the night somehow, ignoring the intermittent screams of a male prisoner in another cell, somewhere nearby. I later learned from my lawyer that Central Booking never closes.

The night came and went, and at some point late in the morning, more female prisoners began to arrive. One, two, three, and even four. The three by four-foot cell began to get crowded quickly, but I remained standing at the front, focused on maintaining my little space. My resolve was waning though, and after a few more prisoners — in particular, an obviously crack-addicted woman who was the antithesis to me, in that she would not remain still — arrived, I began to feel my heretofore intact psyche cracking.

A few of the officers that had come by with their prisoners in tow looked at me and asked what I was doing there. One turned out to be an African-American, plainclothes officer, who noted that he does not keep his government-issued plaque visible, to shield against situations like mine. It may have been him or another officer who acquiesced to my request for another phone call, and I called my sister and allowed myself to show the cracks that I was desperately trying to conceal. She made me repeat to myself several times that I was going to be okay, and after a minute or two, a white officer came and literally barked at me to get off of the phone. I glared at him to assert my bravery and I returned to my designated space.

I asked to use the bathroom, and I was told to wait for when I arrived at Central Booking. As the night went on, another officer came by and after I asked when I would leave, I was told that Central Booking was closed for the time being so I had to wait for it to reopen... I later learned from my lawyer that Central Booking never closes.

I am guessing that it was about three or four in the afternoon when we were all finally rounded up to go to Central Booking. My wristwatch was taken at some point during the arrest so I had to rely on my internal clock for any sense of awareness.
I endured the lengthy process of traveling and being shuffled by various officers, and by that point, my loins were in pain from the urine that I was holding in that had been building up all night. I was also giddy from the movement and the air outside, and I managed to smile with the watchful officer who was carting us throughout the process.

At Central Booking, I have surreal memories of being placed in a larger, more intimidating cell with thirty or more fidgety women, who were strewn across the floor, the walls, and the small bench along the side. There was another similar-sized cell across from it, and at some point, some women from the two cells began arguing back and forth. Items like milk cartons, snacks, and even toilet water were flung from cell to cell; a female guard may have even intervened but the women continued until they had satisfied themselves.

The toilet was at the front, near the entrance and it was separated from the rest of the room by a stump-wall—which made it visible to practically everyone, and certainly to anyone outside of the cell. Someone had to use it, so some of the women banded together to shield her so that she could go. I was soon motivated to do the same, so with my pride shattered, I lowered my clothing and allowed the shame to warm my exposed rear-end for a surreal moment. It was hard to go at first, but my mind and body were aching for relief, so I willed myself to flow freely, renouncing the shame that hovered over me. Thankfully, my menstruation had dried up so I was able to rid myself of the wasted sanitary napkin that I was loathing. Toilet paper was not even a thought.

In better spirits, I managed to find myself a spot on the bench as time went on, basking in the renewal that I was feeling in this larger space and at the thought of an inevitable resolution that I was mentally massaging.

Another night passed uneventfully, and it was around nine or ten the following morning (two days after my arrest) when I was mercifully called out to see the judge. My family was present, as in both of my parents and my sister, which, looking back, is a testament to how lucky I am. The judge was a heavyset white woman, and I could still hear her saying incredulously, "And they arrested her?" She then asked if "profanity" was used at the scene and I braced myself — not expecting the truthful "No," that promptly came about. She then retorted to the prosecutor, that he should "look into what was going on" at that precinct, before proceeding with the matters. I guess a court date was given, as I was allowed to leave the courthouse under the support of my family. All I could remember was bursting into tears as I walked down the sidewalk towards the car with my family and my Dad, groaning loudly. I was happy to be home and a warm shower was enough to ease the bitter edge of this wicked ordeal. I knew what I had to do, but first, I had to revisit the precinct to retrieve my car keys and get my car, which had been left at the scene.

Another night passed uneventfully, and it was around nine or ten the following morning (two days after my arrest) when I was mercifully called out to see the judge.

This all occurred over a weekend, and I returned to work the following week. I was not aware of the embarrassment that I was walking into, as my discrete mind assumed that my misfortune would have remained with only those in the know. However, after I met with the program's director, I was mortified to find out that everyone knew. I steeled myself at the subtle criticism from my coworkers that ensued; I certainly heard and bristled at the word "stupid," and I also endured an older coworker giving me step-by-step instructions as to how she discretely used her plaque.

I complied with the written statement that was requested by the director, and after hiring a lawyer, I, in turn, requested a written statement from her as to how I received the plaque in the first place. There began my harsh, crash course into the rigmarole that the state plays. My director refused to acknowledge that the plaque was provided by the program, and it was not until I had a heated discussion with her supervisor, the regional director, that I was given any statement at all.

The piece of paper that I was handed simply said that I was an employee of the state and it probably gave my title and my date of hire. My lawyer pointed out that their fear of a lawsuit was the cause of such tiptoeing, which had not even crossed my mind. I was happy to be an employee, and I looked at that situation as no one's fault, except that of the discriminatory police.

Weeks later, a Bangladeshi coworker relayed an incident of a police officer from the same precinct yelling at and threatening her and another coworker with arrests for having plaques in their cars and for parking in front of the building. No one else was ever arrested, of course, but the incident caused memos to be sent discouraging use of the plaques, which was grumbled at by some of the staff.

Weeks later, a Bangladeshi coworker relayed an incident of a police officer from the same precinct yelling at and threatening her and another coworker with arrests for having plaques in their cars and for parking in front of the building. No one else was ever arrested...

In an effort to make the situation go away, I abruptly settled my lawsuit against the City of New York, for a mere $30 thousand, which was entirely swallowed up by my student loans. I received no advice on how to negotiate from my lawyer, who, at one time, joked that the detainment was the insider experience that I needed in my line of work. I resent that he was sort of right.
Looking back, I wish I was more forthright in acquiring a sizable compensation, as I did not foresee the mental health needs that would arise and affect my future employment and my career. I even ran into the arresting officer in the neighborhood a couple of times on my lunch break, and I glared at him whenever I did — wanting so badly to make him regret the wrong that he had done to me. I eventually taught myself to ignore him and the rest of the officers from that night whenever I saw them, although I always stiffen up at the sight of the police.

Through this experience, I know that the police seek to elicit fear and intimidation, and I am certain that my bold and upfront personality was a major reason for my arrest. During my standoff with the officers, I was subconsciously aware of the increasing tension and anxiety that brimmed every minute with more and more arriving officers, blaring sirens, careening cars, and curious onlookers. The average person would at some point be triggered to react aggressively in such cacophony, which, usually leads to their favorite, trumped-up charge of resisting arrest, which I would opine should seriously be reconsidered as a legitimate charge. I also know that my extreme sense of self-control saved me from further debasement at that moment; I do not wish to imagine how I would have been handled by that fervent group of male officers had I given in to my instinctive nature to fight back against perceived injustice.

I even ran into the arresting officer in the neighborhood a couple of times on my lunch break, and I glared at him whenever I did — wanting so badly to make him regret the wrong that he had done to me.

Furthermore, as an adult woman, an unexpected standoff with a large group of men will always be psychologically perceived as a threat, and becoming defensive is a natural response for self-preservation. The addition of more men and sudden, loud sirens only intensifies that natural response. It is likely that even a man in this situation would feel similarly threatened and instinctively want to respond with aggression, which the police then tend to exacerbate.

Some lingering thoughts from that experience are that it is unlikely that every police officer agreed with my arrest that night, but, given the pejorative nature of the police force and the American culture for that matter, to disagree would be to put headlights squarely on oneself with almost no tangible benefits insight.

In regards to what we are witnessing today in the federal government ⁠— the targeting of government officials who seek to disagree with their superiors ⁠— it would be foolish to think that this same cancer does not afflict all government agencies. This is not a new phenomenon. Indeed, in the various state and city agencies that I've worked for, I have seen supervisors more interested in subjugating employees than achieving goals, especially the ones given to dissent. I have seen years spent on these misplaced ideals while budgets and self-aggrandizing staff members run amok ⁠— and the system returns failure, after failure, after failure ⁠— and the occasional, stilted success.

This experience was not the only instance of racial discrimination in my life, and it certainly was not my last as an employee. I chose to tell this one as it was, sort of, my official introduction to life in America as an educated, African-American woman. Some of the experiences that I fielded were near and far — i.e., stories that I read in the newspaper, heard on the news, or heard from the boys and girls that I treated in the program and even my own interactions with some of the Caucasian members of my church.

In regards to what we are witnessing today in the federal government ⁠— the targeting of government officials who seek to disagree with their superiors ⁠— it would be foolish to think that this same cancer does not afflict all government agencies.

I began to take note of how I was treated and how African Americans were caricatured by reporters and journalists. I noticed undue and sometimes unwarranted criticism, intense judgments, and demeaning language and tones. Their white counterparts did not suffer the same treatment ⁠— ever. I am an avid tennis fan, and I always noticed the tone with which Serena Williams' matches was commentated on. I once took to the comments section of an online article that ridiculed Sloane Stephens and questioned her intelligence after she lost a match.

If a psychological perspective is needed, constant negative expectations and external interpretations of one's actions are damaging to the fragile human psyche. No one can withstand hundreds of years of tactics and insidious taunts. I wrote and published my book of poetry, Ode To America, to offer a fighting stance against the tireless psychological onslaught on the African-American psyche that is endemic to American society.

I specifically chose the language of love to promote healing and, in fact, to usher in my own, as I have accepted the challenge that the consistent confrontation of these faults is necessary — not only for my own mental health but for the overall health and future of this culpable society ⁠— and I am participating as loudly as I can.

How to Learn Much More From the Books You Read

It is one thing to read and another thing to understand what you are reading. Not only do you want to understand, but also remember what you've read. Otherwise, we can safely say that if we're not gaining anything from what we read, then it's a big waste of time.

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Read with a Purpose

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Pre-Read

When you pre-read it primes your brain when it's time to go over the full text. We pre-read by going over the subheadings, for instance, the table of contents, and skimming through some pages. This is especially useful when you have formal types of academic books. Pre-reading is a sort of warm-up exercise for your brain. It prepares your brain for the rest of the information that will come about and allows your brain to be better able to pick the most essential pieces of information you need from your chosen text.

Highlight

Highlighting essential sentences or paragraphs is extremely helpful for retaining information. The problem, however, with highlighting is that we wind up highlighting way too much. This happens because we tend to highlight before we begin to understand. Before your pages become a neon of colored highlights, make sure that you only highlight what is essential to improve your understanding and not highlight the whole page.

Speed Read

You might think there have been no new ways to read, but even the ancient skill of reading comes up with innovative ways; enter speed reading. The standard slow process shouldn't affect your understanding, but it does kill your enthusiasm. The average adult goes through around 200 to 250 words per minute. A college student can read around 450 words, while a professor averages about 650 words per minute, to mention a few examples. The average speed reader can manage 1,500 words; quite a difference! Of course, the argument arises between quality and quantity. For avid readers, they want both quantity and quality, which leads us to the next point.

Quality Reading

Life is too short to expect to gain knowledge from just one type of genre. Some basic outcomes of reading are to expand your mind, perceive situations and events differently, expose yourself to other viewpoints, and more. If you only stick to one author and one type of material, you are missing out on a great opportunity to learn new things.

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Summarize

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Take a good look at your life and what's going on in it. Accordingly, you'll choose the material that is much more suitable for your situation and circumstances. When you read a piece of information that you find beneficial, look for a way to apply it to your life. Knowledge for the sake of knowledge isn't all that beneficial. But the application of knowledge from a helpful book is what will help you and make your life more interesting and more meaningful.