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This Co-Founder and Creative Director Merges Science and History with Entertainment

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There aren’t many bars or trendy locations that generate a lively nightlife and offer comedic, academic venues, where you can both learn and drink. Caveat, differs from many speakeasies and performance spaces on the Lower East Side. Other than it’s initial cave-like appearance, you’ll find bookshelves, an intellectual atmosphere and a lot of alcohol.


The atmosphere at Caveat is unique. Co-Founder & Creative Director, Kate Downey, and her team are passionate about what they do. They want their audiences to leave a little bit smarter and a little bit drunker. “It’s intelligent nightlife,” she explains. “We are working to create new forms of entertainment that mash up science and history with comedy and music.”

Kate, Co-Founder and Creative Director. Photo Courtesy of Caveat.

Downey’s vibrant personality illuminates the conversation as she shares bits of information about her career and background in theatre and museum work. This badass Co-Founder grew up in rural Maine. She moved to Boston for college and later on, to pursue a dream she had in New York. It’s been about nine years since she’s been living in the city, and a little over one year since Caveat has been in business. “I always knew I would end up in the city doing some kind of theatre and entertainment work,” she shares. Downey works closely with her team, which is mostly composed of women, and hosts a range of productions from comedy to science talks, trivia, podcasts, and so much more.

From being an Assistant Director at Cherry Lane Theatre to a Creative Lead at Museum Hack, Downey has taken on multiple roles, perfecting her craft over time. She was and still is immersed in the industry of arts and performance.

Museum Hack has especially played a major role in her career. “ [Museum Hack] does renegade museum tours of the Metropolitan Museum and The Museum of Natural History,” she begins. “I was writing a lot of tours [and] created [one] called The Badass Bitches Tour of the Met.” They were a startup and when Downey began working there.

She reminisces a few of the happy memories she had, as the company expanded and grew over the years. “Leaving Museum Hack was a hard decision because I had loved doing those tours and working with those people,” she says. “It was through Museum Hack that I kind of discovered my love of science and figured out how I like to build events and how I like to talk about very complex, scientific ideas.”

It was time for Downey to move on to something new -- and that’s exactly what she did. After Museum Hack she joined her Co-Founder Ben Lillie, in starting Caveat. However, this was not the first time that she founded a business -- specifically, startup theatre companies. “I love starting new things and creating new ways for people to build things creatively,” she emphasizes.

CAVEAT

At Caveat they have a love for science and unconventional storytelling. Downey spends a lot of her time in this cave-like, artistic space. Her days usually begin at 12 p.m. and she describes having both glamorous and unglamorous days. “The adventure varies a lot day to day,” she begins. “Around 6 p.m. we start setting up for the show and the bar staff gets in; the tech staff is there; the show-folks show up and we usually do 2-3 shows a night.”

Once a week she meets with a team of six producers including her and Ben to go over shows, discuss feedback or go over any challenges that might come up. Her motivation, determination and inspiration are apparent when she speaks about an average day at Caveat. “We all try to problem solve for each other and offer solutions [to] get through the hard parts,” she mentions. At the end of a long day, there is one thing that Downey excitedly looks forward to. “I get to grab a beer, sit, learn and watch these shows,” she exclaims.

“I always knew I would end up in the city doing some kind of theatre and entertainment work,” Downey shares.

Learning something new can be a little mysterious sometimes. Downey recognizes The Bell House, in Brooklyn for their Secret Science Club. “That’s one of the OG’s of what we’re calling intelligent nightlife now,” she says. There are few events that take on this trend of scientific conversations and intellectual nightlife nowadays. What makes Caveat different from the rest is how Downey and her team encourage people to get involved by pitching ideas in addition to the shows that they produce and put on for their audiences.

“I love starting new things and creating new ways for people to build things creatively,” Downey emphasizes.

“As far as I know, we are the only theatre dedicated to this kind of educational entertainment,” she says. “We specifically curate everything that goes up on our stage to be able to teach you something.” Each show can stand on its own success. “You [have] a drink, a great time with your friends [and leave] knowing a lot more than when you [walked] in.” For those looking for an affordable and eventful night out, ticket prices range from $10-$20 for most events. The bar serves a range of alcohol from craft beers on tap to wine, and specialty sodas.

WOMEN AT CAVEAT

Downey re-imaged the average night scene and science-based social space. She expresses how most of the venues she’s seen and heard of are run predominately by men, and have been for many years. “I’m really happy and excited to have a space that is majority women run and I think avoids a lot of issues that come up in other clubs,” she says. “We have a bunch of shows are specifically geared towards women.” They include, Yeah She Did, where “kickass women” share the stories of others within their industries that have inspired them and didn’t receive proper recognition. In October, they had a themed show called Witches Get Stuff Done. They tell the stories of women who were at one point in history accused of witchcraft for being the smartest or the most outspoken. There is a diverse range of entertainment offered.

What are they planning next?

In the years ahead, Downey and her team would like to make performances at Caveat available for everyone. “The big thing that we want is eventually [developing our] shows in to TV shows, podcasts, video specials,” she says. “ I would love to be able to [get] people access to this the same way [they] can watch TED Talks.” Whether it is on platforms like Netflix, Hulu or Amazon Prime, she’d like to have Caveat specials. In the meantime, they are going to keep developing and experimenting with shows, gathering more talent and giving talented performers a place and platform to build their career.

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Tempted To Dial Your Ex: 5 Ways To Know Whether Or Not You Should Contact An Old Flame

Thinking of ringing up your ex during these uncertain times? Maybe you want an excuse to contact your ex, or maybe you genuinely feel the need to connect with someone on an emotional level. As a matchmaker and relationship expert, I was surprised at the start of the coronavirus quarantine when friends were telling me that they were contacting their exes! But as social distancing has grown to be more than a short-term situation, we must avoid seeking short-term solutions—and resist the urge to dial an ex.

It stands to reason that you would contact an ex for support. After all, who knows you and your fears better than an ex? This all translates into someone who you think can provide comfort and support. As a matchmaker, I already know that people can spark and ignite relationships virtually that can lead to offline love, but lonely singles didn't necessarily believe this or understand this initially, which drives them straight back to a familiar ex. You only need to tune into Love Is Blind to test this theory or look to Dina Lohan and her virtual boyfriend.

At the start of lockdown, singles were already feeling lonely. There were studies that said as much as 3 out of 4 people were lonely, and that was before lockdown. Singles were worried that dating someone was going to be off limits for a very long time. Now when you factor in a widespread pandemic and the psychological impact that hits when you have to be in isolation and can't see anyone but your takeout delivery person, we end up understanding this urge to contact an ex.

So, what should you do if you are tempted to ring up an old flame? How do you know if it's the wrong thing or the right thing to do in a time like this? Check out a few of my points before deciding on picking up that phone to text, much less call an ex.

Before You Dial The Ex...

First, you need to phone a friend! It's the person that got you through this breakup to begin with. Let them remind you of the good, the bad and the ugly before taking this first step and risk getting sucked back in.

What was the reason for your breakup? As I mentioned before, you could get sucked back in… but that might not be a bad thing. It depends; when you phoned that friend to remind you, did she remind you of good or bad things during the breakup? It's possible that you both just had to take jobs in different cities, and the breakup wasn't due to a problem in the relationship. Have these problems resolved if there were issues?

You want to come from a good place of reflection and not let bad habits make the choice for you.

Depending on the reason for the breakup, set your boundaries for how much contact beforehand. If there was abuse or toxic behaviors in the relationship, don't even go there. You can't afford to repeat this relationship again.

If you know you shouldn't be contacting this ex but feel lonely, set up a support system ahead of time. Set up activities or things to fall back on to resist the urge. Maybe you phone a different friend, join a virtual happy hour for singles, or binge watch Netflix. Anything else is acceptable, but don't phone that ex.

Write down your reasons for wanting to contact the ex. Ask yourself if this is worth the pain. Are you flea-bagging again, or is there a friendship to be had, which will provide you with genuine comfort? If it's the latter, it's okay to go there. If it's an excuse to go back together and make contact, don't.

Decide how far you are willing to take the relationship this time, without it being a rinse and repeat. If you broke up for reasons beyond your control, it's okay. If your ex was a serial cheater, phone a friend instead.

If there was abuse or toxic behaviors in the relationship, don't even go there. You can't afford to repeat this relationship again.

As life returns to a more normal state and you adjust to the new normal, we will slowly begin to notice more balance in our lives. You want to come from a good place of reflection and not let bad habits make the choice for you. Some do's and don'ts for this time would be:

  • Do: exercise ⁠— taking care of you is important during this time. It's self-care and maintaining a healthy lifestyle.
  • Do: shower, brush your teeth, and get out of your sweats.
  • Don't: be a couch potato.
  • Don't: drink or eat excessively during this time. Again, remember to maintain a healthy lifestyle.
  • Do: think positive thoughts everyday and write down the 3 things you are grateful for. Look at the impact of John Krasinksi's SGN. It's uplifting and when you feel good, you won't want to slide backwards.
  • Don't: contact a toxic ex. It's a backward move in a moment of uncertainty that could have a long term impact. Why continue flea bagging yourself?