Lifestyle 31 December 2017
Happy New Year! Welcome to 2018.
It's time to get down to business. This is welcome news for the Earth signs Capricorn, Virgo and Taurus. Not so much for the fire signs Leo, Sagittarius and Aries who are still hungover from their 31-day-long party this past December. The good news in general is that Mercury is out of retrograde and moving into Capricorn, which can be a productive time for everyone if you take advantage of it. Uranus is direct now in Aries so look out for inspiration and also surprise outbursts of aggression. Everyone take a chill pill this month and remember your anger management techniques!
(December 22- January 19)
"I'll huff and I'll puff..."
Happy Birthday to the climbers of the zodiac!
Congrats! You made it through a crazy end to 2017. It's your season now; take advantage of it. If you were smart, you stayed in last month and made your plans for the new year. Oh silly me, of course, you were smart and planned ahead, you are a Capricorn! You built your house with brick. Now it's time to take over more real estate on the monopoly board, while the wolf is blowing down other people's houses. I'm serious...buy, renovate or sell real estate. Make your move for the promotion. You are coming into your power on all fronts. Don't gloat, just count your money and achievements quietly.
(January 20- February 18)
“Talk to the hand."
Take a deep breath and lean into your fixed sign resolve. You need to do what is practical this month. You can't reinvent the rules of reality right now. I know that's a downer for personal freedom loving Aquarians but it's what is good for you and your business or family. You live within a societal structure and need to remember that everyone has to tow a line at some point. Take care of business. There will be a season for your dreaming soon. Love and beauty dawn in your life starting January 18, so put your lipstick on and get out your paint set, crayon box or whatever inspires you to create. Jan 27-28: fun and travel.
(February 19- March 20)
“A dream is a wish your heart makes."
I love this month for you. Many of the things or circumstances that you've dreamed about are beginning to manifest physically. Just sit in gratitude and apply discipline to your routine. Don't try to control everything or let yourself be overwhelmed, but rather take things one day at a time. You are building the foundation that will support your new job, relationship or lifestyle. These things will appear gradually. Go within and remember the emotional reasons that you asked for these things. Sorry to be so serious, but this is a profound time for you. Jan 27th: watch your temper.
(March 21- April 19)
“Hi Ho Hi Ho it's off to work I go."
Structure, routine, duty...yuck! Aries folks don't like to be bored with monotony. But it's time to get it done. Don't try to fight the system...just do what you have to do. It will pay off! Let off steam by working out and beginning new creative endeavors. Start that art hobby, sign up for the triathlon. Don't start a big new work project or business yet. Just dream about it. Action will come later. Watch your temper at home...especially after January 12. Jan 13-14: good energy.
(April 20- May 20)
“Calm after the storm."
It's time to take the boards off your windows...the storm has passed! Get out of your bunker and get back to work! You love routine and after a drought of confidence you finally realize some traction towards your goals. Feel that inner power surge? That's Pluto in Capricorn. This is also a great month to attract a lasting love or reinforce the love you have. Also, it's a good time to buy, sell or renovate your real estate. January 6-9: reorganize your closets, drawers or garage. Jan 15-17: family duty calls.
(May 21- June 20)
“Running through molasses."
You are going to feel held back or like you are in slow motion until January 27. Don't fight this feeling...renovate! Use this time to renovate your home, relationship or body. You could have lots of new ideas or inventions coming through. Write them down but don't worry about implementing them. It's not time yet. Watch what you say...political correctness is important this month. Bored to tears? It's a good month to plan trips for the year, just don't go on any. Jan 18-19: good friendship energy.
(June 21- July 22)
Wow…you are winning the game this month but people may not even notice. Your gifts of strategy, intuition and stealth are favored right now. That's why we call you the chess master. Just like your spirit animal the crab, people may not hear you or see you until you have taken your seat on the throne. Then once you get there you dazzle them with your diplomacy and political savvy. Time to make your move to win the match. Jan 25-26: good love.
(July 23- August 22)
“The harder you work, the luckier you get."
You may feel that the year gets off to a slow start but never fear, by January 27 you will be getting that fiery Leo energy back. This month is about choosing your battles and doing what superiors suggest even if it's frustrating. Keep that Leo stubbornness at bay if you can this January. It's not about the principle of the thing it's about the strategy that is best for your career or family in the long run. Stop bucking the system. Keep your head down and plan your revolution. Your time will come. Best days: Jan 23-24.
(August 23- September 22)
“All clear and ready for take-off."
Finally. The world is right again. Right under your thumb and under your control, that is. A Virgo's happy place is in the cockpit of the plane running everything out of sight from everyone's view. You've been covering your head to avoid the crazy over the last few months. Now it seems everyone understands their place and their duty. You can work with that. Things are so buttoned up that you may even find some spare time to go on a date or give your partner some extra attention, especially during the Taurus moon on Jan 25-26. It's a good month for love!
(September 23- October 22)
Whoa. The party is over. It's the next morning and the light hurts your eyes. All of the optics in your life have changed from magical pink fog to stark black and white. This isn't a bad thing, it's just that Librans like everything in a soft flattering light. It's time to face the music and deal with the realities of the good, the bad and the ugly. Many people mistake a Libra's love for illusion and beauty as a sign of weakness. They're wrong. Librans are willing to plan and work for their dreams. It's time to hit the gym, change jobs or get out of the relationship if it's a mess. Librans can do all of these things with grace if they need to. But please answer one question for the rest of us dear Libra: do you ever perspire? Jan 27-28: bubbly energy.
(October 23- November 21)
“Let them eat cake."
I see you, dear Scorpio. I'm letting the secret out. You are the one who is really running things. You have the ultimate power. You could care less about the attention - you just want the control. Remember that every action has a karmic consequence. It's your choice to serve the dark or the light side of your human nature. Tyranny and revenge hurt you too in the long run. You have so much to give. If you share your abundance with your subordinates, the joy spreads over everyone, especially you. Jan 2-3: mother energy.
(November 22- December 21)
“You got to know when to hold 'em."
You've been winning so many hands lately that your chips have stacked up. What does a gambling Sagittarius do when that happens? She bets it all for the big win! Don't. Please don't. You are still in the game, it's just time to hold back. Watch everyone carefully and take notes (see Scorpio and Cancer above). Strategy is the key right now and you are good at that when you make yourself still. Don't change anything or confront anything until the end of the month. After January 27... strike. January 31st- you're back on top.
For decades, women have been unknowingly suffering from PSD and intergenerational trauma, but now Dr. Valerie Rein wants women to reclaim their power through mind, body and healing tools.
As women, no matter how many accomplishments we have or how successful we look on the outside, we all occasionally hear that nagging internal voice telling us to do more. We criticize ourselves more than anyone else and then throw ourselves into the never-ending cycle of self-care, all in effort to save ourselves from crashing into this invisible internal wall. According to psychologist, entrepreneur and author, Dr. Valerie Rein, these feelings are not your fault and there is nothing wrong with you— but chances are you definitely suffering from Patriarchy Stress Disorder.
Patriarchy Stress Disorder (PSD) is defined as the collective inherited trauma of oppression that forms an invisible inner barrier to women's happiness and fulfillment. The term was coined by Rein who discovered a missing link between trauma and the effects that patriarchal power structures have had on certain groups of people all throughout history up until the present day. Her life experience, in addition to research, have led Rein to develop a deeper understanding of the ways in which men and women are experiencing symptoms of trauma and stress that have been genetically passed down from previously oppressed generations.
What makes the discovery of this disorder significant is that it provides women with an answer to the stresses and trauma we feel but cannot explain or overcome. After being admitted to the ER with stroke-like symptoms one afternoon, when Rein noticed the left side of her body and face going numb, she was baffled to learn from her doctors that the results of her tests revealed that her stroke-like symptoms were caused by stress. Rein was then left to figure out what exactly she did for her clients in order for them to be able to step into the fullness of themselves that she was unable to do for herself. "What started seeping through the tears was the realization that I checked all the boxes that society told me I needed to feel happy and fulfilled, but I didn't feel happy or fulfilled and I didn't feel unhappy either. I didn't feel much of anything at all, not even stress," she stated.
Photo Courtesy of Dr. Valerie Rein
This raised the question for Rein as to what sort of hidden traumas women are suppressing without having any awareness of its presence. In her evaluation of her healing methodology, Rein realized that she was using mind, body and trauma healing tools with her clients because, while they had never experienced a traumatic event, they were showing the tell-tale symptoms of trauma which are described as a disconnect from parts of ourselves, body and emotions. In addition to her personal evaluation, research at the time had revealed that traumatic experiences are, in fact, passed down genetically throughout generations. This was Rein's lightbulb moment. The answer to a very real problem that she, and all women, have been experiencing is intergenerational trauma as a result of oppression formed under the patriarchy.
Although Rein's discovery would undoubtably change the way women experience and understand stress, it was crucial that she first broaden the definition of trauma not with the intention of catering to PSD, but to better identify the ways in which trauma presents itself in the current generation. When studying psychology from the books and diagnostic manuals written exclusively by white men, trauma was narrowly defined as a life-threatening experience. By that definition, not many people fit the bill despite showing trauma-like symptoms such as disconnections from parts of their body, emotions and self-expression. However, as the field of psychology has expanded, more voices have been joining the conversations and expanding the definition of trauma based on their lived experience. "I have broadened the definition to say that any experience that makes us feel unsafe psychically or emotionally can be traumatic," stated Rein. By redefining trauma, people across the gender spectrum are able to find validation in their experiences and begin their journey to healing these traumas not just for ourselves, but for future generations.
While PSD is not experienced by one particular gender, as women who have been one of the most historically disadvantaged and oppressed groups, we have inherited survival instructions that express themselves differently for different women. For some women, this means their nervous systems freeze when faced with something that has been historically dangerous for women such as stepping into their power, speaking out, being visible or making a lot of money. Then there are women who go into fight or flight mode. Although they are able to stand in the spotlight, they pay a high price for it when their nervous system begins to work in a constant state of hyper vigilance in order to keep them safe. These women often find themselves having trouble with anxiety, intimacy, sleeping or relaxing without a glass of wine or a pill. Because of this, adrenaline fatigue has become an epidemic among high achieving women that is resulting in heightened levels of stress and anxiety.
"For the first time, it makes sense that we are not broken or making this up, and we have gained this understanding by looking through the lens of a shared trauma. All of these things have been either forbidden or impossible for women. A woman's power has always been a punishable offense throughout history," stated Rein.
Although the idea of having a disorder may be scary to some and even potentially contribute to a victim mentality, Rein wants people to be empowered by PSD and to see it as a diagnosis meant to validate your experience by giving it a name, making it real and giving you a means to heal yourself. "There are still experiences in our lives that are triggering PSD and the more layers we heal, the more power we claim, the more resilience we have and more ability we have in staying plugged into our power and happiness. These triggers affect us less and less the more we heal," emphasized Rein. While the task of breaking intergenerational transmission of trauma seems intimidating, the author has flipped the negative approach to the healing journey from a game of survival to the game of how good can it get.
In her new book, Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Barrier to Women's Happiness and Fulfillment, Rein details an easy system for healing that includes the necessary tools she has sourced over 20 years on her healing exploration with the pioneers of mind, body and trauma resolution. Her 5-step system serves to help "Jailbreakers" escape the inner prison of PSD and other hidden trauma through the process of Waking Up in Prison, Meeting the Prison Guards, Turning the Prison Guards into Body Guards, Digging the Tunnel to Freedom and Savoring Freedom. Readers can also find free tools on Rein's website to help aid in their healing journey and exploration.
"I think of the book coming out as the birth of a movement. Healing is not women against men– it's women, men and people across the gender spectrum, coming together in a shared understanding that we all have trauma and we can all heal."