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Lifestyle 31 December 2017
Happy New Year! Welcome to 2018.
It's time to get down to business. This is welcome news for the Earth signs Capricorn, Virgo and Taurus. Not so much for the fire signs Leo, Sagittarius and Aries who are still hungover from their 31-day-long party this past December. The good news in general is that Mercury is out of retrograde and moving into Capricorn, which can be a productive time for everyone if you take advantage of it. Uranus is direct now in Aries so look out for inspiration and also surprise outbursts of aggression. Everyone take a chill pill this month and remember your anger management techniques!
(December 22- January 19)
"I'll huff and I'll puff..."
Happy Birthday to the climbers of the zodiac!
Congrats! You made it through a crazy end to 2017. It's your season now; take advantage of it. If you were smart, you stayed in last month and made your plans for the new year. Oh silly me, of course, you were smart and planned ahead, you are a Capricorn! You built your house with brick. Now it's time to take over more real estate on the monopoly board, while the wolf is blowing down other people's houses. I'm serious...buy, renovate or sell real estate. Make your move for the promotion. You are coming into your power on all fronts. Don't gloat, just count your money and achievements quietly.
(January 20- February 18)
“Talk to the hand."
Take a deep breath and lean into your fixed sign resolve. You need to do what is practical this month. You can't reinvent the rules of reality right now. I know that's a downer for personal freedom loving Aquarians but it's what is good for you and your business or family. You live within a societal structure and need to remember that everyone has to tow a line at some point. Take care of business. There will be a season for your dreaming soon. Love and beauty dawn in your life starting January 18, so put your lipstick on and get out your paint set, crayon box or whatever inspires you to create. Jan 27-28: fun and travel.
(February 19- March 20)
“A dream is a wish your heart makes."
I love this month for you. Many of the things or circumstances that you've dreamed about are beginning to manifest physically. Just sit in gratitude and apply discipline to your routine. Don't try to control everything or let yourself be overwhelmed, but rather take things one day at a time. You are building the foundation that will support your new job, relationship or lifestyle. These things will appear gradually. Go within and remember the emotional reasons that you asked for these things. Sorry to be so serious, but this is a profound time for you. Jan 27th: watch your temper.
(March 21- April 19)
“Hi Ho Hi Ho it's off to work I go."
Structure, routine, duty...yuck! Aries folks don't like to be bored with monotony. But it's time to get it done. Don't try to fight the system...just do what you have to do. It will pay off! Let off steam by working out and beginning new creative endeavors. Start that art hobby, sign up for the triathlon. Don't start a big new work project or business yet. Just dream about it. Action will come later. Watch your temper at home...especially after January 12. Jan 13-14: good energy.
(April 20- May 20)
“Calm after the storm."
It's time to take the boards off your windows...the storm has passed! Get out of your bunker and get back to work! You love routine and after a drought of confidence you finally realize some traction towards your goals. Feel that inner power surge? That's Pluto in Capricorn. This is also a great month to attract a lasting love or reinforce the love you have. Also, it's a good time to buy, sell or renovate your real estate. January 6-9: reorganize your closets, drawers or garage. Jan 15-17: family duty calls.
(May 21- June 20)
“Running through molasses."
You are going to feel held back or like you are in slow motion until January 27. Don't fight this feeling...renovate! Use this time to renovate your home, relationship or body. You could have lots of new ideas or inventions coming through. Write them down but don't worry about implementing them. It's not time yet. Watch what you say...political correctness is important this month. Bored to tears? It's a good month to plan trips for the year, just don't go on any. Jan 18-19: good friendship energy.
(June 21- July 22)
Wow…you are winning the game this month but people may not even notice. Your gifts of strategy, intuition and stealth are favored right now. That's why we call you the chess master. Just like your spirit animal the crab, people may not hear you or see you until you have taken your seat on the throne. Then once you get there you dazzle them with your diplomacy and political savvy. Time to make your move to win the match. Jan 25-26: good love.
(July 23- August 22)
“The harder you work, the luckier you get."
You may feel that the year gets off to a slow start but never fear, by January 27 you will be getting that fiery Leo energy back. This month is about choosing your battles and doing what superiors suggest even if it's frustrating. Keep that Leo stubbornness at bay if you can this January. It's not about the principle of the thing it's about the strategy that is best for your career or family in the long run. Stop bucking the system. Keep your head down and plan your revolution. Your time will come. Best days: Jan 23-24.
(August 23- September 22)
“All clear and ready for take-off."
Finally. The world is right again. Right under your thumb and under your control, that is. A Virgo's happy place is in the cockpit of the plane running everything out of sight from everyone's view. You've been covering your head to avoid the crazy over the last few months. Now it seems everyone understands their place and their duty. You can work with that. Things are so buttoned up that you may even find some spare time to go on a date or give your partner some extra attention, especially during the Taurus moon on Jan 25-26. It's a good month for love!
(September 23- October 22)
Whoa. The party is over. It's the next morning and the light hurts your eyes. All of the optics in your life have changed from magical pink fog to stark black and white. This isn't a bad thing, it's just that Librans like everything in a soft flattering light. It's time to face the music and deal with the realities of the good, the bad and the ugly. Many people mistake a Libra's love for illusion and beauty as a sign of weakness. They're wrong. Librans are willing to plan and work for their dreams. It's time to hit the gym, change jobs or get out of the relationship if it's a mess. Librans can do all of these things with grace if they need to. But please answer one question for the rest of us dear Libra: do you ever perspire? Jan 27-28: bubbly energy.
(October 23- November 21)
“Let them eat cake."
I see you, dear Scorpio. I'm letting the secret out. You are the one who is really running things. You have the ultimate power. You could care less about the attention - you just want the control. Remember that every action has a karmic consequence. It's your choice to serve the dark or the light side of your human nature. Tyranny and revenge hurt you too in the long run. You have so much to give. If you share your abundance with your subordinates, the joy spreads over everyone, especially you. Jan 2-3: mother energy.
(November 22- December 21)
“You got to know when to hold 'em."
You've been winning so many hands lately that your chips have stacked up. What does a gambling Sagittarius do when that happens? She bets it all for the big win! Don't. Please don't. You are still in the game, it's just time to hold back. Watch everyone carefully and take notes (see Scorpio and Cancer above). Strategy is the key right now and you are good at that when you make yourself still. Don't change anything or confront anything until the end of the month. After January 27... strike. January 31st- you're back on top.
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Thinking of ringing up your ex during these uncertain times? Maybe you want an excuse to contact your ex, or maybe you genuinely feel the need to connect with someone on an emotional level. As a matchmaker and relationship expert, I was surprised at the start of the coronavirus quarantine when friends were telling me that they were contacting their exes! But as social distancing has grown to be more than a short-term situation, we must avoid seeking short-term solutions—and resist the urge to dial an ex.
It stands to reason that you would contact an ex for support. After all, who knows you and your fears better than an ex? This all translates into someone who you think can provide comfort and support. As a matchmaker, I already know that people can spark and ignite relationships virtually that can lead to offline love, but lonely singles didn't necessarily believe this or understand this initially, which drives them straight back to a familiar ex. You only need to tune into Love Is Blind to test this theory or look to Dina Lohan and her virtual boyfriend.
At the start of lockdown, singles were already feeling lonely. There were studies that said as much as 3 out of 4 people were lonely, and that was before lockdown. Singles were worried that dating someone was going to be off limits for a very long time. Now when you factor in a widespread pandemic and the psychological impact that hits when you have to be in isolation and can't see anyone but your takeout delivery person, we end up understanding this urge to contact an ex.
So, what should you do if you are tempted to ring up an old flame? How do you know if it's the wrong thing or the right thing to do in a time like this? Check out a few of my points before deciding on picking up that phone to text, much less call an ex.
Before You Dial The Ex...
First, you need to phone a friend! It's the person that got you through this breakup to begin with. Let them remind you of the good, the bad and the ugly before taking this first step and risk getting sucked back in.
What was the reason for your breakup? As I mentioned before, you could get sucked back in… but that might not be a bad thing. It depends; when you phoned that friend to remind you, did she remind you of good or bad things during the breakup? It's possible that you both just had to take jobs in different cities, and the breakup wasn't due to a problem in the relationship. Have these problems resolved if there were issues?
You want to come from a good place of reflection and not let bad habits make the choice for you.
Depending on the reason for the breakup, set your boundaries for how much contact beforehand. If there was abuse or toxic behaviors in the relationship, don't even go there. You can't afford to repeat this relationship again.
If you know you shouldn't be contacting this ex but feel lonely, set up a support system ahead of time. Set up activities or things to fall back on to resist the urge. Maybe you phone a different friend, join a virtual happy hour for singles, or binge watch Netflix. Anything else is acceptable, but don't phone that ex.
Write down your reasons for wanting to contact the ex. Ask yourself if this is worth the pain. Are you flea-bagging again, or is there a friendship to be had, which will provide you with genuine comfort? If it's the latter, it's okay to go there. If it's an excuse to go back together and make contact, don't.
Decide how far you are willing to take the relationship this time, without it being a rinse and repeat. If you broke up for reasons beyond your control, it's okay. If your ex was a serial cheater, phone a friend instead.
If there was abuse or toxic behaviors in the relationship, don't even go there. You can't afford to repeat this relationship again.
As life returns to a more normal state and you adjust to the new normal, we will slowly begin to notice more balance in our lives. You want to come from a good place of reflection and not let bad habits make the choice for you. Some do's and don'ts for this time would be:
- Do: exercise — taking care of you is important during this time. It's self-care and maintaining a healthy lifestyle.
- Do: shower, brush your teeth, and get out of your sweats.
- Don't: be a couch potato.
- Don't: drink or eat excessively during this time. Again, remember to maintain a healthy lifestyle.
- Do: think positive thoughts everyday and write down the 3 things you are grateful for. Look at the impact of John Krasinksi's SGN. It's uplifting and when you feel good, you won't want to slide backwards.
- Don't: contact a toxic ex. It's a backward move in a moment of uncertainty that could have a long term impact. Why continue flea bagging yourself?