I’ve always believed that if I don’t believe in myself, nobody else will. If I don’t think out of the box – I will always be in a box.
Your attitude equals your altitude. I’ve been a personal trainer for over 30 years, and I’ve trained both women and men. I love doing it, because fitness is always a positive – and not negative – experience. I especially love training women because they possess an amazing attitude towards fitness and wellness. Women choose to train in order to enhance their confidence, self-esteem, wellness and, of course, body and mind. For women, fitness goes beyond the physical aspect of working out and looking good. It goes beyond losing weight. Instead, women regard fitness as a lifestyle choice, a road to self-empowerment. It’s all about an ‘I can do it’ attitude that makes women so special, so strong, so beautiful.
I got into the business of fitness by accident, literally (many accidents!). I was hit by a school bus 3 or 4 weeks before the Mr. America competitions – and turned it into becoming America’s Personal Trainer. I was hit by a lobster truck in Miami – and then shot my first exercise video. I was run off the road on Halloween (and hit a tree) – and turned it into over a billion dollar-plus Gazelle Glider success story. These are among my adversities to victories – all because of attitude.
Example: After the tree accident I got over 200 stitches in my face and I was supposed to shoot my first Gazelle infomercial. But the president of the company I was working for called me and said they had to replace me because of my face. Did I quit? Of course not. Instead, I flew to Ohio, met with the president of the company and said ‘this is a great opportunity for us!’ He looked at me in disbelief. I told him that my face was actually ‘a positive’ because people always look for hope – and the accident gave me a totally unique and real way to show people that, due to my commitment to fitness, I never quit. That fitness makes me strong, mentally and physically. So I walked out on that stage with all the people around me and declared ‘it’s not what happens to us that matters, it’s how we respond to what happens to us.’
The rest is history.
There will always be challenges in our lives, but every challenge is a goal: To feel better… look better…get that job…have a strong family…become a child’s role model – and, most of all, to chase that dream – whatever it is – and win it.
Life is short and when you change your mindset, you change your life. Fitness is a prime motivator to your change.
First, obviously we are talking about the goals which women want to reach. Most women are not looking for muscle size or great strength. They are looking for muscle tone and shape, contour and overall wellness. I am not a big believer in heavy weight training for most women’s wants and needs! So I would say body shaping and body sculpting hit the mark in resistance exercise/ I’ve always said it, Exercise technique , whether you’re a man or woman, is the most important. Women need to do perfect form with medium to light weights, 10 to 15 repetitions concentrating on form not weight.
"And do your hard work on the most important thing you own ( Your Body and Your Mind). Take care of it and it will take care of you."
Women are looking at weight loss, sure, but also they are looking at mostly different body part issues than a man. I have found most women are concerned with legs and buttocks (glutes), most men hate training legs.
Women are looking for toned and shapely arms and shoulders, most men want big shoulders and big arms! Women want a firm but shapely chest area with a lift. Most men want a Big Chest with Big Muscular Pectoral….(yes chest muscle).
Women in my opinion want more self-confidence, self-improvement, great body shape, energy and more fitness and overall health and well being, as well as being a role model for their partners and family. Men think of themselves as protective of the family (which I do too) and look for a strong body and mind and the strength to protect my family.
Everybody wants to feel better, look better and be more confident about who they are, but that being said- you have to find the right trainer to guide you to your personal goals. Interviewing a trainer is the same as interviewing an employee for your particular companies. Don’t ever be afraid to ask the trainer questions, you are looking for the right answers for your specific goals and purpose.
In my opinion, I do think a trainer with plenty of experience and proof of results should never be talking in overly technical terms and should be extremely motivational, funny and make your workouts fun. If the trainer has no personality ,it’s hard to enjoy the experience get motivated, and the likelihood of your continuing into the fitness lifestyle might be limited as well as your results.
The following is a list of just some of the clearly credible organizations a trainer might come from: N.A.S.M, A.C.S.M, A.F.A.A, IDEA, ACE, The Cooper Institute, CSCS, NCSA-CPT and NFPT.
Attitude equals altitude. You can do it!
The Quick 10
1. What app do you most use?
I use the camera app most. I am compulsive with taking photos and it’s great for business.
2. Briefly describe your morning routine.
I'm up by 4 to 4:30 AM, then I have coffee, half a chocolate donut, and lots of vitamins. My first workout is at 6:30 AM. I do business until 3 PM, when I do a second workout because I am getting older.
3. Name a business mogul you admire.
Warren Buffett and his son Howard Buffett.
4. What product do you wish you had invented?
Post It Notes, because I am always taking notes so I don’t forget.
5. What is your spirit animal?
Cheetah is my favorite because of its speed and beauty, but they eat Gazelles which have helped by business.
6. What is your life motto?
“You Can Do It. I mean, what is the alternative? You Can’t Do It? No way! I own that trademark in 7 categories.
7. Name your favorite work day snack.
8. Every entrepreneur must be what to be successful?
"Believe in themselves" because not many people will believe in them in the beginning.
9. What’s the most inspiring place you’ve traveled to?
10. Desert Island. Three things, go.
1. Find a clean water source.
2. Decide which animals are edible.
3. Depending on where you are, find a boat to get off the island.
New parents re-entering the workforce are often juggling the tangible realities of daycare logistics, sleep deprivation, and a cascade of overwhelming work. No matter how parents build their family, they often struggle with the guilt of being split between home and work and not feeling exceptionally successful in either place.
Women building their families often face a set of challenges different from men. Those who have had children biologically may be navigating the world of pumping at work. Others might feel pulled in multiple directions when bringing a child into their home after adoption. Some women are trying to learn how to care for a newborn for the first time. New parents need all the help they can get with their transition.
Women returning to work after kids sometimes have to address comments such as:
"I didn't think you'd come back."
"You must feel so guilty."
"You missed a lot while you were out."
To counteract this difficult situation, women are finding mentors and making targeting connections. Parent mentors can help new moms address integrating their new life realities with work, finding resources within the organization and local community, and create connections with peers.
There's also an important role for parent mentors to play in discussing career trajectory. Traditionally, men who have families see more promotions compared to women with children. Knowing that having kids may represent a career setback for women, they may work with their mentors to create an action plan to "back on track" or to get recognized for their contributions as quickly as possible after returning to work.
Previously, in a bid to accommodate mothers transitioning back to work, corporate managers would make a show at lessoning the workload for newly returned mothers. This approach actually did more harm than good, as the mother's skills and ambitions were marginalized by these alleged "family friendly" policies, ultimately defining her for the workplace as a mother, rather than a person focused on career.
Today, this is changing. Some larger organizations, such as JP Morgan Chase, have structured mentorship programs that specifically target these issues and provide mentors for new parents. These programs match new parents navigating a transition back to work with volunteer mentors who are interested in helping and sponsoring moms. Mentors in the programs do not need to be moms, or even parents, themselves, but are passionate about making sure the opportunities are available.
It's just one other valuable way corporations are evolving when it comes to building quality relationships with their employees – and successfully retaining them, empowering women who face their own set of special barriers to career growth and leadership success.
Mentoring will always be a two way street. In ideal situations, both parties will benefit from the relationship. It's no different when women mentor working mothers getting back on track on the job. But there a few factors to consider when embracing this new form of mentorship
How to be a good Momtor?
Listen: For those mentoring a new parent, one of the best strategies to take is active listening. Be present and aware while the mentee shares their thoughts, repeat back what you hear in your own words, and acknowledge emotions. The returning mother is facing a range of emotions and potentially complicated situations, and the last thing she wants to hear is advice about how she should be feeling about the transition. Instead, be a sounding board for her feelings and issues with returning to work. Validate her concerns and provide a space where she can express herself without fear of retribution or bull-pen politics. This will allow the mentee a safe space to sort through her feelings and focus on her real challenges as a mother returning to work.
Share: Assure the mentee that they aren't alone, that other parents just like them are navigating the transition back to work. Provide a list of ways you've coped with the transition yourself, as well as your best parenting tips. Don't be afraid to discuss mothering skills as well as career skills. Work on creative solutions to the particular issues your mentee is facing in striking her new work/life balance.
Update Work Goals: A career-minded woman often faces a new reality once a new child enters the picture. Previous career goals may appear out of reach now that she has family responsibilities at home. Each mentee is affected by this differently, but good momtors help parents update her work goals and strategies for realizing them, explaining, where applicable, where the company is in a position to help them with their dreams either through continuing education support or specific training initiatives.
Being a role model for a working mother provides a support system, at work, that they can rely on just like the one they rely on at home with family and friends. Knowing they have someone in the office, who has knowledge about both being a mom and a career woman, will go a long way towards helping them make the transition successfully themselves.