Career 20 August 2020
How many people do you know with careers in the fields that they earned their degrees? There aren't too many. In fact, the site Finder tells us that two in five Americans don't see the value in their college degree. But to be fair, there are very few people who enter the workforce that know what they want to do, making finding a fulfilling and satisfying career no easy feat.
According to Forbes, more than half of Americans are unhappy in their jobs. Everything from the rate of pay to feeling underappreciated, more and more workers are suffering each day, being stuck between feeling total and complete misery and needing to keep their job to provide for their families.
People will settle with being unhappy because they've been with the company for a long time or because the pay is good… But are you willing to do this at the cost of your happiness, and ultimately, your sanity? That's no way to live your life.
Trying to find the career of your dream can be a lifelong effort. Some people eventually do find their dream careers while others never do. But just because you may not be working your dream job, that doesn't mean you have to be miserable at the job you're currently working… You can be happy in a position that's not necessarily your dream job.
In order to find happiness in your job, you have to first leave the job you're currently unhappy at. This is sometimes not so easy to do simply because it can be hard to tell if the way you're feeling is due to just needing a vacation or if you're genuinely in need of a career change.
Fortunately, there are signs that let you know that a career change is the solution to changing the way you feel about your job. If you're experiencing any of these feelings or displaying any of these behaviors, it's time for you to consider changing your career path.
As the song famously put it, "Everybody's working for the weekend," and in most cases, everybody is! When Friday comes, everyone gets a boost of energy to finish their workweek out strong so that they can unwind and leave work, at work. Unfortunately, when you're unhappy at your job, it's hard to enjoy the weekend or your off days simply because you know the next work week will begin soon.
If you're like most people, you go to work five, sometimes six, days out of the week, leaving you with one to two days to not have to think about work… Well, when you work a job that tears you down, work is on your brain 24/7, and it's all that you talk about.
This is something you may not even realize you're doing until someone tells you about it. If you're not sure if you're displaying this behavior, try to pay attention to how you contribute to conversations you engage in… If your only contribution to the conversation is complaining about your job, then it's definitely time for a career change.
If you're so unhappy at work that you start to turn to unhealthy habits, that you normally wouldn't, then you seriously need to look at other career options because it's impacting your health in a negative way.
In your mind, your job is holding you back from success and happiness, and initially, it was. But once you start taking on unhealthy habits as a coping mechanism, you're taking on a totally different issue that's impacting your health, in addition to the stress you're already dealing with from your job.
Vacations are what you need to recharge mentally and physically, and usually, when you've come back from a vacation and return to work, you feel much better and ready to tackle the challenges of your position… When you come back from a vacation and still feel drained and overworked, it's a major sign that your job is sucking the life out of you, literally.
Your job isn't necessarily supposed to be all fun and games, but it also isn't supposed to drain you to where you can't even enjoy your vacations. If you're feeling stressed, take some vacation time first to see how you feel during your vacation and how you feel when you return to work. If your vacation does nothing for you, it's time to look for somewhere else to work.
For most people, if the price is right, they'll bear through the stress and unhappiness at work because they're being compensated justly. But when you're so miserable at work that you don't care about the money anymore, that's when you know it's time to go because at that point, what do you have to lose?
In finding your next career path, there are lots of considerations to think about like skill level, what you're willing to deal with, and whether or not you want to work for yourself or for a company.
If you decide to work for yourself, you'll be able to work your own schedule and you'll ultimately be your own boss. If you choose to run an e-commerce business, the popular website builder Shopify is a great tool and resource to get your business up and running. This route will indeed put you more at peace and able to enjoy all that life has to offer.
If you decide to work for a different company, it's a fresh and new start for you. There's still that potential to face obstacles and work under someone but in that same token, you'll be able to learn new company policies, meet new people, and really let your light shine as a new employee.
Whichever route you choose to take, you can't go wrong with either. The point is to find happiness in your career. But in order to find it, you have to step out on a limb and leave your current position. This can be a scary step, but your happiness and peace of mind are worth the sacrifice.
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Help! My Friend Is a No Show
Dear Armchair Psychologist,
I have a friend who doesn't reply to my messages about meeting for dinner, etc. Although, last week I ran into her at a local restaurant of mine, it has always been awkward to be friends with her. Should I continue our friendship or discontinue it? We've been friends for a total four years and nothing has changed. I don't feel as comfortable with her as my other close friends, and I don't think I'll ever be able to reach that comfort zone in pure friendship.
Dear Sadsies,I am sorry to hear you've been neglected by your friend. You may already have the answer to your question, since you're evaluating the non-existing bond between yourself and your friend. However, I'll gladly affirm to you that a friendship that isn't reciprocated is not a good friendship.
I have had a similar situation with a friend whom I'd grown up with but who was also consistently a very negative person, a true Debby Downer. One day, I just had enough of her criticism and vitriol. I stopped making excuses for her and dumped her. It was a great decision and I haven't looked back. With that in mind, it could be possible that something has changed in your friend's life, but it's insignificant if she isn't responding to you. It's time to dump her and spend your energy where it's appreciated. Don't dwell on this friend. History is not enough to create a lasting bond, it only means just that—you and your friend have history—so let her be history!
- The Armchair Psychologist