This past week, more than 5,000 professionals from around the globe gathered at the Synergy Global Forum, "A Masterclass in Disruption," in New York to network and listen to some of the most forward-thinking minds of our times. The conference, of Eastern European origin, was held this time at Madison Square Garden. It was originally launched in 2015, and this year marked the first time it was held on American soil.
Throughout the two-day conference, themes ranged from the future of tech to the obliteration of institutional pillars of society, and some of the headliners included The Wolf of Wall St. himself, Jordan Belfort; Malcolm Gladwell, Robin Wright and Virgin Founder, Richard Branson. Despite there being many brilliant talks covering a number of noteworthy issues, an undercurrent emerged; that in today's world of commoditized information, there are certain values that the next generation of success stories must adhere to. Among them; empathy, humility and philanthropy. But perhaps the standout was the fact we need to start correcting the mistakes of the past using cutting-edge technology, rather than just continuing to build businesses and rich CEOs.
The event's afterparty, which was held at the Hammerstein Ballroom and featured Paris Hilton as a costumed DJ (after all, it was Halloween weekend), had a decidedly quirky vibe. A mismatched crowd of Halloweeners who paid to see the heiress on the decks, and suited conference goers stomped the old ballroom until the wee hours. With the Saturday talks beginning early, it meant for quite a few sore-headed early risers.
Below, we've rounded up some essential takeaways from the future-forward conference on everything from sales, to tech, to the power of the branding in this age of copycat businesses.
Richard Branson. Photo courtesy of Brooklyn Eagle
1. Choose optimism
Given the recent headlines, it's not hard to be all gloom and doom these days, but according to media mogul, Gary Vaynerchuk, choosing optimism can make all the difference for future success. He went on to say that if you're one of the people thinking on the bright side of things you have a leg up when it comes to launching a business and even dealing with others. “People default to cynicism," he told the crowd. “I always believe I'm going to win even when I lose."
2. There's only one currency: attention
“We're all battling for attention," said Vaynerchuk, also emphasizing the importance of creating mobile-first content. One of the first to pioneer email marketing, Vaynerchuk said that in order to keep top of mind, you have to embrace all options at your disposal, including whatever platforms are new and still untested. The media are great advocates for “buying underpriced attention" and forgetting the common misconception that being “completely organic" in your audience reach matters.
“When it's not so easy, that's when you figure out who you are."
3. Brand bold, brand hard
Richard Branson attributes the success of Virgin to his emboldened (and life-threatening) branding devices. When you live in an era of copycat businesses - what makes your business different from others if it serves exactly the same purpose. Take for example Lyft and Uber, or Birchbox and Glossybox - it's your ideas, your profile, that defines your brand. With this in mind, Branson has made some whimsical and frankly crazy, branding decisions to promote Virgin. Not in the least, this hilarious stunt poking fun at British Airways inability to get the The London Eye off the ground, that lead to the viral headline, “BA Can't Get It Up."
4. It's not a race
Everyone wants to invent something that will make their brand go viral overnight. Not so, said Vaynerchuk, adding that entrepreneurs need to stop “thinking in 50-day terms" and instead think of the big picture. “Life is long and doing the right thing matters.", he said reiterating the importance of giving back.
"Nothing really happens until someone sells something - no matter what business you're in,"
5. “The internet of things" is the next big revolution
OK so we all know about Alexa, but did you know that more of our everyday items are on their way to becoming smarter? A few of the speakers referenced the fact that we are moving towards intuitive automation in a way that will fuse seamlessly into our lives. “Within five years everyone will be interacting with an AI voice," said Vaynerchuk.
6. Emotional intelligence is most valuable
In an age where access to information is becoming commoditized, a creative mind has never been more important. “We're in between the real world and the digital world," Vaynerchuk said, adding that there is no alternative for good old fashioned ethics, empathy and hard work. “Doing the right thing is always the right thing."
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7. And speaking of emotion, sales is basically just a transfer of emotion
According to the events salesmen du jour, Belfort, “at its highest level sales is just a transference of emotion." famously jailed for money laundering and securities fraud, Belfort happens to know a thing or two about the emotion of selling, whether over the phone, online or in person. Building trust has evolved as with everything in marketing. The basic principles are still there, but the devices to garner trust have shifted. Now, brands begin by utilizing Snapchat and Instagram to create a feeling of good faith, because 85 percent of millennials will buy only from people they trust. “If they don't trust you - will they buy your stuff?" asked Belfort. “No fuckin' way!"
"If you see a situation where something isn't being done well by other people - you jump in and you try to sort it out,"
8. Bitcoin -v- the banks? Banks will lose
Banking is on its way out, according to Jennifer Fonstad, who believes the recent buzz around Bitcoin doesn't bode well for financial institutions. Per the above, trust in brands is defining the millennial generation - and having grown up in the era of the Great Recession, where the mistakes of the big banks have changed the course of the last two decades, we would hazard a guess Fonstad is on the button here.
9. Don't stay "romantic"
What got you here won't get you there. “So many of you try and hold on to what made you money and you make excuses about why something new won't work," said Vaynerchuk, who implored audience members to keep reinventing themselves, and their businesses as technology continues to evolve.“You have to love getting dirty." He said that despite many being afraid of social media. You have to be on social media but you have to be smart about it, "It's a race between Facebook and Instagram."
10. College is the next vestigial organ
One recurring theme of the day was the fact that college institutions are on the verge of becoming obsolete. Repeated by no less than three speakers including Naveen Jain, Richard Branson and Malcolm Gladwell, we thought the notion was best summarized in the following words: “The world we live in today is the reason for chronic unemployment. We need an education system that teaches to learn to learn," said Jain.
He went on to explain how, in a four-year college degree, a student will no doubt emerge well-educated, but that education will be rendered useless because of the pace of informational substance today. What's relevant at 3pm on a Monday in 2017 can become completely ineffectual by noon on Tuesday, thus rendering the purpose of college as it is today, obsolete.
11. Reputation is everything (of course we already knew that, right?)
But did we forget? “You live your life on record," reminds Vaynerchuk. “Every action is being seen." It might seem obvious, but he went on to say that because we live so much of our lives on mobile we may forget that everything is being monitored, saved and tracked. “What people say about you behind your back is more important than what they say in from of you," said Vaynerchuk. “Your reputation is your brand."
12. We should be playing soccer, not basketball
When Wall Street billionaire John Paulson gave a $400 million dollar grant to Harvard, esteemed journalist and thought-leader Malcolm Gladwell had a lot to say about it. Among the choice tweets he sent- to point out the ridiculousness of putting more money into the wealthiest college in our country- our personal favorite was “If billionaires don't step up, Harvard will soon be down to its last $30 billion." He went on to say that, as a society, we need to be put more funding towards at-risk and marginalized communities. He used a sports analogy to illustrate his point, that in basketball a team only needs a few top players to win every game, but in soccer, every player is crucial for victory. “We're giving more amenities to the wealthy to make an already amazing life even more amazing. We're not thinking there are people suffering," said Gladwell. “What direction are we heading in as a society?"
13. Space may become Main Street
Richard Branson, Elon Musk and Jeff Bezos are in a tight race to get the first group of non-astronauts (aka the neighbourhood doctor, your girlfriend, the local bodega cashier) up to space. And Branson, despite setbacks and an extended timeline, is confident that by the end of next year he will get the first group of 500 people up in space. “We're the only space line that has a ship in the shape of an airplane," remarked Branson, which ultimately means that when the astros are returning to earth they won't have to parachute back - they will land on wheels. This serves to make infinite the possibilities for people wishing to go.
“We strengthen ourselves by strengthening our weakest link."
14. Hackers are as good, if not better, than us.
The game has changed. And people like Edward Snowden, who had gambling issues among other personality deficiencies, have access. Breaches in the digital age are a serious concern said Gladwell, adding that because of the sheer number of people in our country with security clearance: 845K to be exact, there's a new set of rules. “A generation ago the job of national security was to monitor a very small number of key players, now the job is to monitor everyone, down to and including people on the very very lowest rung. People who wouldn't show up on any organization chart, people who are so junior that they've been fired a few times, have massive behavioral issues and we don't even know why they have security clearance but they do."
Additionally, hackers are innate at networking among themselves, where government agencies have a tendency to fight with each other over information and data sharing.
15. The self-driving car will break the market, no matter the risks
“Change is always scary for the human condition so it will always be two steps forward, one step back. Putting a device in your brain will terrify some people but what may seem scary at first will eventually be an opportunity," Jennifer Fonstad commented. We're conditioned to be skeptical about change, but advancements will always trump skepticism. Branson too harkened back to the cautionary tale of Concorde. “The demise of Concorde was, for the first time in history, technology going backward," he said - admonishing the idea of scare tactics when it comes to change. Yes, it will be scary, but it will also be worth it.
16. “We all make mistakes"
From Belfort to Branson everyone was instructing the crowds to embrace their mistakes. “What I learned in that fail paved the way for every success I've had," said Belfort, who is a veritable expert on overcoming his past errors to create a better future (cue: two novels and a blockbuster movie). Branson is also no stranger to mistakes. In 1998 he made the mistake of going up against Coca-Cola with his Virgin Cola and was immediately squashed by the giants when he arrived in the U.S to promote his contender.
17. "The world is your market"
In the age of the internet, Instagram, and target geographical marketing - “there are no borders," said Branson. In this way, entrepreneurs are at a huge advantage over the likes of Branson who started off with no internet and when the government had a controlling stake in all of the big enterprises in Britain. Your reach is infinite and your product can go anywhere. “Us entrepreneurs, we don't see borders," Branson told the crowd. "We see this world as one world, and we see people as one people."
For decades, women have been unknowingly suffering from PSD and intergenerational trauma, but now Dr. Valerie Rein wants women to reclaim their power through mind, body and healing tools.
As women, no matter how many accomplishments we have or how successful we look on the outside, we all occasionally hear that nagging internal voice telling us to do more. We criticize ourselves more than anyone else and then throw ourselves into the never-ending cycle of self-care, all in effort to save ourselves from crashing into this invisible internal wall. According to psychologist, entrepreneur and author, Dr. Valerie Rein, these feelings are not your fault and there is nothing wrong with you— but chances are you definitely suffering from Patriarchy Stress Disorder.
Patriarchy Stress Disorder (PSD) is defined as the collective inherited trauma of oppression that forms an invisible inner barrier to women's happiness and fulfillment. The term was coined by Rein who discovered a missing link between trauma and the effects that patriarchal power structures have had on certain groups of people all throughout history up until the present day. Her life experience, in addition to research, have led Rein to develop a deeper understanding of the ways in which men and women are experiencing symptoms of trauma and stress that have been genetically passed down from previously oppressed generations.
What makes the discovery of this disorder significant is that it provides women with an answer to the stresses and trauma we feel but cannot explain or overcome. After being admitted to the ER with stroke-like symptoms one afternoon, when Rein noticed the left side of her body and face going numb, she was baffled to learn from her doctors that the results of her tests revealed that her stroke-like symptoms were caused by stress. Rein was then left to figure out what exactly she did for her clients in order for them to be able to step into the fullness of themselves that she was unable to do for herself. "What started seeping through the tears was the realization that I checked all the boxes that society told me I needed to feel happy and fulfilled, but I didn't feel happy or fulfilled and I didn't feel unhappy either. I didn't feel much of anything at all, not even stress," she stated.
Photo Courtesy of Dr. Valerie Rein
This raised the question for Rein as to what sort of hidden traumas women are suppressing without having any awareness of its presence. In her evaluation of her healing methodology, Rein realized that she was using mind, body and trauma healing tools with her clients because, while they had never experienced a traumatic event, they were showing the tell-tale symptoms of trauma which are described as a disconnect from parts of ourselves, body and emotions. In addition to her personal evaluation, research at the time had revealed that traumatic experiences are, in fact, passed down genetically throughout generations. This was Rein's lightbulb moment. The answer to a very real problem that she, and all women, have been experiencing is intergenerational trauma as a result of oppression formed under the patriarchy.
Although Rein's discovery would undoubtably change the way women experience and understand stress, it was crucial that she first broaden the definition of trauma not with the intention of catering to PSD, but to better identify the ways in which trauma presents itself in the current generation. When studying psychology from the books and diagnostic manuals written exclusively by white men, trauma was narrowly defined as a life-threatening experience. By that definition, not many people fit the bill despite showing trauma-like symptoms such as disconnections from parts of their body, emotions and self-expression. However, as the field of psychology has expanded, more voices have been joining the conversations and expanding the definition of trauma based on their lived experience. "I have broadened the definition to say that any experience that makes us feel unsafe psychically or emotionally can be traumatic," stated Rein. By redefining trauma, people across the gender spectrum are able to find validation in their experiences and begin their journey to healing these traumas not just for ourselves, but for future generations.
While PSD is not experienced by one particular gender, as women who have been one of the most historically disadvantaged and oppressed groups, we have inherited survival instructions that express themselves differently for different women. For some women, this means their nervous systems freeze when faced with something that has been historically dangerous for women such as stepping into their power, speaking out, being visible or making a lot of money. Then there are women who go into fight or flight mode. Although they are able to stand in the spotlight, they pay a high price for it when their nervous system begins to work in a constant state of hyper vigilance in order to keep them safe. These women often find themselves having trouble with anxiety, intimacy, sleeping or relaxing without a glass of wine or a pill. Because of this, adrenaline fatigue has become an epidemic among high achieving women that is resulting in heightened levels of stress and anxiety.
"For the first time, it makes sense that we are not broken or making this up, and we have gained this understanding by looking through the lens of a shared trauma. All of these things have been either forbidden or impossible for women. A woman's power has always been a punishable offense throughout history," stated Rein.
Although the idea of having a disorder may be scary to some and even potentially contribute to a victim mentality, Rein wants people to be empowered by PSD and to see it as a diagnosis meant to validate your experience by giving it a name, making it real and giving you a means to heal yourself. "There are still experiences in our lives that are triggering PSD and the more layers we heal, the more power we claim, the more resilience we have and more ability we have in staying plugged into our power and happiness. These triggers affect us less and less the more we heal," emphasized Rein. While the task of breaking intergenerational transmission of trauma seems intimidating, the author has flipped the negative approach to the healing journey from a game of survival to the game of how good can it get.
In her new book, Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Barrier to Women's Happiness and Fulfillment, Rein details an easy system for healing that includes the necessary tools she has sourced over 20 years on her healing exploration with the pioneers of mind, body and trauma resolution. Her 5-step system serves to help "Jailbreakers" escape the inner prison of PSD and other hidden trauma through the process of Waking Up in Prison, Meeting the Prison Guards, Turning the Prison Guards into Body Guards, Digging the Tunnel to Freedom and Savoring Freedom. Readers can also find free tools on Rein's website to help aid in their healing journey and exploration.
"I think of the book coming out as the birth of a movement. Healing is not women against men– it's women, men and people across the gender spectrum, coming together in a shared understanding that we all have trauma and we can all heal."