By 10 a.m your day is in full swing. You're running around, conquering that to-do list and “busy" is pretty much the only word to describe your schedule. But every boss girl knows that a morning routine is crucial to making sure you have a productive day. Whether you're looking to perfect your routine or learn some new tips for clearing out any negativity and kickstarting your day, here's what all the boss girls are doing.
1. She stays away from social media.
It can be so easy to roll over in the morning, turn off your alarm and immediately open up Facebook - but don't. Opening up social media apps will only take your focus away from what's really important and leave you distracted by thinking about what's going on in other people's lives, instead of honing in on your own. Just skip it.
2. She keeps herself hydrated.
All boss girls know how important it is to get hydrated first thing in the morning. Keep a glass or bottle of water beside your bed and chug it right after that alarm goes off before you do anything else. Harvard Medical School instructs: “drinking fluids is crucial to staying healthy and maintaining the function of every system in your body, including your heart, brain, and muscles." You can't be your best self without it.
3. She plans her day.
Every boss girl knows that you must always have a plan. Running throughout your day flying by the seat of your pants is no way to do your job or run a business. Start each day with intention and bullet point what you know you need to accomplish. Having it written out makes it tangible and there is something so gratifying about crossing tasks off as you finish them.
4. She gives herself a pep talk.
The only person you need to believe in what you're doing is you, so starting your day with a quick pep talk will help you start your day knowing exactly why you're putting your efforts where you are. No pom-poms needed.
5. She stays informed.
Boss girls stay off social media first thing in the morning, but they most certainly stay up to date with what's happening in the world. If you don't have time, do a quick skim about what's happening in your industry and nationally, but make sure that you're informed and never miss a beat.
6. She gets moving.
Not only does exercise keep you healthy and in shape, but it's an instant mood booster and increases your energy. You don't need to get to a fitness class or hit the gym every single morning, but making time in your routine to take a short walk or even do 15 minutes of yoga helps to center you and makes all the difference in your day.
7. She does something to make her happy.
Whether it's something as simple as trying a new drink from Starbucks, meditating or even buying a pair of killer shoes you've been lusting over online - get up and do something . Anything that makes you smile so that your day starts with putting positive energy out into the world. Putting happiness out means that you will attract it back to you.
8. She doesn't skip breakfast.
It's the most important meal of the day and every boss girl knows the importance of nutrition in having energy to conquer the world. So get up, and get something into your stomach that will fuel you throughout your busy day.
9. She shows some love.
Whether you have someone lying next to you to give a big smooch to first thing in the morning or you pick up the phone to send some love in a special someone's direction - do it! When you show love, oxytocin is released; Mind Body Green suggests that benefits can include increased self-esteem, a strengthened immune system and an elevated mood.
10. She gets dressed in a killer outfit...that she picked out the night before.
The phrase “dress for the job you want" couldn't be more true. There is nothing like the confidence that you exude when you're wearing a dazzling outfit. On the flip side, waking up in the morning and having no idea what you're going to wear and scrambling at the last minute can throw your entire day off. Do yourself a favor and have your outfit planned the night before - it will make your whole morning flow more seamlessly.
We are living in a time when women are rising to new heights which means they are regularly being confronted with the fear of being "too much". For women in business this is pervasive and costly.
A few ways women can be perceived as "too much" are:
Speaking up about their successes and achievements.
Sharing one too many photos of their cute kids.
Telling one too many people about that date night.
Looking a little too good in that swimsuit.
These can lead to being publicly attacked on social media or privately slandered which in turn leads to women dimming their light and walking on egg shells in hopes of avoiding conflict and judgement.
The minute a woman feels it's unsafe to shine she will begin to overthink, worry, and fear how she shows up in the world.
Forgetting to announce the book is done and the interview is live.
Choosing to focus on what's still on the to-do list rather than what's been checked off.
Many female entrepreneurs are subconsciously altering their behavior in an attempt to not attract too much attention to themselves, rather than focusing on allowing authenticity and magnetism to attract their ideal clients and community.
Women are afraid of being criticized, ostracized, and abandoned by other women for simply being who they are. This leads to quite the quantum when being who you are is simplest way to accelerate the growth of your business.
New research shows men are far more comfortable with self promotion than women are. Researchers found that men rate their own performance 33 percent higher than equally performing women. What we know is that self promotion pays off and this is where women are missing the boat.
The world needs more women to step into leadership roles and no longer be intimidated about creating six and seven figure careers.
Here are five ways to release the fear of being "too much":
1. Approve of yourself.
While it feels good to receive outside validation it will never be enough if you don't first appreciate yourself. The key to having a healthy support system is to make sure you are part of it. Being your biggest critic is what your mother's generation did. It's now time to be your biggest cheerleader. Becoming aware of self talk will reveal what belief is ready to be re-wired. Create a simply mantra that affirms how incredible capable you are.
2. Connect deeply to those you serve.
One powerful way to shift out of people pleasing behavior is to get clear on who actually matters to the wellbeing and success of your life and business. Leadership is not about being the most popular, instead it's a decision to be brave for those who can't be. Take a few minutes each day to visualize and meditate on those your business serves and supports. See your future clients moving toward you every time you choose to stand in your power and use your authentic voice.
3. Remember the legacy you wish to leave.
Having your life purpose and legacy in writing is one of the most transformational exercises you can do. Reading this often will keep you focused on what matters. Knowing what you wish to leave in the hearts of those you love most is incredibly grounding. You didn't come here to keep your mouth shut, dilute your truth, or dim your light-you came here to make a difference.
4. Forgive those who have been unsupportive in the past.
The past has a way of informing the future in a negative way when there is unresolved pain. Take a few minutes to get quiet and ask yourself who you have unforgiveness towards or maybe their name came to mind as you read this article. Listening to a forgiveness meditation or writing a letter to the person you are ready to forgive are both simple and effective ways to process and heal.
5. Be part a community of bright, successful women.
Meaningful relationships with others who have similar aspirations is what will keep you out of isolation and playing small. These connections can happen in a networking group, online community or a local Meetup. Thriving in every area of life is depend on you knowing where you belong and being celebrated there. Don't wait to be invited, go actively seek out people and places that support your dreams and desires.
6. Accept you can have it all.
Women have been fed a lie for generations that says, you can have love or money. Decide you can have it all and allow it to flow to you. You can have a successful career and an amazing mother. You can balance motherhood and loving marriage. Don't let anyone write the rules for you. This is the time to create the life you desire on your terms.
7. Celebrate everything!
The fastest way to leave the haters in the dust is to celebrate everything! At the end of each day lay in bed and recall the best moments. At the end of each week, publicly acknowledge and celebrate what's good in your life. Once a month, have a celebration dinner and share it with those who have helped you in the journey. If there's something good happening, talk about it with everyone who will listen!
May you be a woman who chooses to shine so that others may be reminded of all they can be and do.