#SWAAYthenarrative

I Was Told I Was Too Opinionated For Cable TV

#SWAAYthenarrative

Eboni Williams, 34


Fox News Host and Author

Unafraid to unabashedly share her opinion on the airwaves, Fox News Host, Eboni Williams, is certainly a woman to watch. Raised by a single mom in Charlotte, Williams faced a litany of obstacles throughout her career, not least that she was a strong, opinionated black woman, attributes which she says were hurled her way as derogatory. ”Society might have its rules and expectations of you, reject them at every turn and insist upon your own exceptionalism,” she says.

This exceptionalism has lead to her hosting her own radio show, releasing her book PRETTY POWERFUL: Appearance, Substance & Success and contributing her inspiring message to the world.

1. What made you choose this career path? What has been your greatest achievement?

Since I was a child I had a loud voice and strong opinion, so I thought it best to put it to productive use. As a litigator, multimedia host and now as an author, I'm privileged to lend my voice to the voiceless and otherwise empower women, men and children who otherwise might not be heard.

My greatest achievement has been hosting a show on the #1 cable news network while hosting a talk radio show and releasing a bestselling book at the same time. I never considered myself a multi-tasker, but I became one in 2017

2. What’s the biggest criticism/stereotype/judgement you’ve faced in your career?

As I write in the 'Mean Girls' chapter of my book, I was told I was too young, too strong in my opinion and black...all reasons I wouldn't be able to be hired by Fox News or able to host a show. All proved ignorantly wrong.

All throughout my life false narratives of society and media said as an only child to a single, high school educated mom, I would repeat her pattern of a struggling single black mom. She made sure I didn't and we worked to reject that stereotypical noise at every turn.

3. How did you #SWAAYthenarrative? What was the reaction by those who told you you “couldn’t” do it?

Shirley Chisholm is an iconic role model of mine. She was the first black woman to serve in the US congress and she said if they don't invite you to the table, bring your own chair and pull up a seat. I LOVE bringing my own chair and crashing the party.

4. What did you learn through your personal journey?

I SWAAYed the narrative by having key individuals (a strong mom, teachers, community members) that nourished my talent and told me I could do ANYTHING I worked for. I was never talked to about glass ceilings or limitations...only personal ambition. Narratives are all about social norms and "rules." In a world of other people's "rules" I've always elected to be my own exception.

5. What’s your number one piece of advice to women discouraged by preconceived notions and society’s limitations?

Bet on yourself. Don't concern yourself with a million "no's" only focus on the one "YES" that you need. Society might have its rules and expectations of you, reject them at every turn and insist upon your own exceptionalism.

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Help! My Friend Is a No Show

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Help! My Friend Is a No Show

Dear Armchair Psychologist,

I have a friend who doesn't reply to my messages about meeting for dinner, etc. Although, last week I ran into her at a local restaurant of mine, it has always been awkward to be friends with her. Should I continue our friendship or discontinue it? We've been friends for a total four years and nothing has changed. I don't feel as comfortable with her as my other close friends, and I don't think I'll ever be able to reach that comfort zone in pure friendship.

-Sadsies

Dear Sadsies,

I am sorry to hear you've been neglected by your friend. You may already have the answer to your question, since you're evaluating the non-existing bond between yourself and your friend. However, I'll gladly affirm to you that a friendship that isn't reciprocated is not a good friendship.



I have had a similar situation with a friend whom I'd grown up with but who was also consistently a very negative person, a true Debby Downer. One day, I just had enough of her criticism and vitriol. I stopped making excuses for her and dumped her. It was a great decision and I haven't looked back. With that in mind, it could be possible that something has changed in your friend's life, but it's insignificant if she isn't responding to you. It's time to dump her and spend your energy where it's appreciated. Don't dwell on this friend. History is not enough to create a lasting bond, it only means just that—you and your friend have history—so let her be history!



- The Armchair Psychologist

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