Tips For Overcoming A Difficult Birthing Experience

"Women with trauma may feel fear, helplessness or horror about their experience and suffer recurrent, overwhelming memories, flashbacks, thoughts and nightmares about the birth, feel distressed, anxious or panicky… and avoid anything that reminds them of the trauma," says maternal mental health expert, Patrick O'Brien, highlighting the long-term effect that a difficult birthing experience can have. One study published in the journal Psychology, Health & Medicine found that over 30% of mothers who have a traumatic delivery go on to develop PTSD. If you regularly have vivid images of the birth, you feel anxious, or you frequently worry about harm coming to your baby or your family, getting professional help is the first step towards feeling empowered and positive once again.

What Are The Risk Factors For Undergoing Traumatic Childbirth?
Sometimes the factors that make birth traumatic are out of a mother's control. This is the case, for instance, if the cause for trauma involved hospital negligence. There are risk factors, however, which can increase the likelihood of traumatic birth. These include having limited support from a partner, having feared for a baby's safety at some point during the labor, having been through previous trauma, and having a tendency to experience anxiety.

Dealing With A Complex Birthing Experience Mentally
Some mothers choose to process and grow from difficult experiences using natural or alternative therapies, including mindfulness meditation and yoga - both of which have proven to be helpful for stress and PTSD. One study by H Sheydaei et al found that mindfulness training was effective at reducing postpartum depression in mothers. Yoga is also a good choice for new mothers experiencing anxiety and depression after a tough birthing process. Working on self-acceptance, growth as a couple, and recognizing (over time) that birth is just the first step in a relationship with a child can itself help to lessen the effects of a tough birth. Sometimes, however, professional treatment is required.

The Practical Importance Of Getting Help
The most important reason for obtaining help for traumatic birth, is to preserve your mental health. However, during the months or years following the birth, you may decide to take legal action if any injuries were caused by negligence or improper medical care. There are many examples of birth trauma, including cerebral palsy and Erbs palsy. While not all injuries involve the breach of a standard of care, when they do, you may decide to file a lawsuit. Legal processes are complicated and can be stressful. Therefore, getting the upper hand on any mental issues can be critical when it comes to fighting for your and your child's rights.

Professional Treatment For Women Experiencing Postnatal Depression, PTSD Or Anxiety
Mothers who find that their symptoms are severe or persistent should obtain a diagnosis and embark upon a treatment plan so as to nip the problem in the bud. Treatment can vary from medication to cognitive behavioral therapy, or even couples therapy. A qualified therapist will help you identify any possible condition and help you build an effect strategy that will help you get back on track.

Having a difficult birth can have consequences - both in the short and long-term. These can range from anxiety to PTSD, and require professional help if they are severe or long-lasting. Having a baby is challenging and rewarding in equal measures for many women, and enjoying good mental health can help you focus on the relationship you are building day to day with your baby in a positive, fruitful way.

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Five Essential Lessons to Keep in Mind When You're Starting Your Own Business

"How did you ever get into a business like that?" people ask me. They're confounded to hear that my product is industrial baler wire—a very unfeminine pursuit, especially in 1975 when I founded my company in the midst of a machismo man's world. It's a long story, but I'll try to shorten it.

I'd never been interested to enter the "man's" world of business, but when I discovered a lucrative opportunity to become my own boss, I couldn't pass it up—even if it involved a non-glamorous product. I'd been fired from my previous job working to become a ladies' clothing buyer and was told at my dismissal, "You just aren't management or corporate material." My primary goal then was to find a career in which nobody had the power to fire me and that provided a comfortable living for my two little girls and myself.

Over the years, I've learned quite a few tough lessons about how to successfully run a business. Below are five essential elements to keep in mind, as well as my story on how I learned them.

Find A Need And Fill It

I gradually became successful at selling various products, which unfortunately weren't profitable enough to get me off the ground, so I asked people what they needed that they couldn't seem to get. One man said, "Honey, I need baler wire. Even the farmers can't get it." I saw happy dollar signs as he talked on and dedicated myself to figuring out the baler wire industry.

I'd never been interested to enter the "man's" world of business, but when I discovered a lucrative opportunity to become my own boss, I couldn't pass it up.

Now forty-five years later, I'm proud to be the founder of Vulcan Wire, Inc., an industrial baler wire company with $10 million of annual sales.

Have Working Capital And Credit

There were many pitfalls along the way to my eventual success. My daughters and I were subsisting from my unemployment checks, erratic alimony and child-support payments, and food stamps. I had no money stashed up to start up a business.

I paid for the first wire with a check for which I had no funds, an illegal act, but I thought it wouldn't matter as long as I made a deposit to cover the deficit before the bank received the check. My expectation was that I'd receive payment immediately upon delivery, for which I used a rented truck.

Little did I know that this Fortune 500 company's modus operandi was to pay all bills thirty or more days after receipts. My customer initially refused to pay on the spot. I told him I would consequently have to return the wire, so he reluctantly decided to call corporate headquarters for this unusual request.

My stomach was in knots the whole time he was gone, because he said it was iffy that corporate would come through. Fifty minutes later, however, he emerged with a check in hand, resentful of the time away from his busy schedule. Stressed, he told me to never again expect another C.O.D. and that any future sale must be on credit. Luckily, I made it to the bank with a few minutes to spare.

Know Your Product Thoroughly

I received a disheartening phone call shortly thereafter: my wire was breaking. This horrible news fueled the fire of my fears. Would I have to reimburse my customer? Would my vendor refuse to reimburse me?

My customer told me to come over and take samples of his good wire to see if I might duplicate it. I did that and educated myself on the necessary qualities.

My primary goal then was to find a career in which nobody had the power to fire me and that provided a comfortable living for my two little girls and myself.

Voila! I found another wire supplier that had the right specifications. By then, I was savvy enough to act as though they would naturally give me thirty-day terms. They did!

More good news: My customer merely threw away all the bad wire I'd sold him, and the new wire worked perfectly; he then gave me leads and a good endorsement. I rapidly gained more wire customers.

Anticipate The Dangers Of Exponential Growth

I had made a depressing discovery. My working capital was inadequate. After I purchased the wire, I had to wait ten to thirty days for a fabricator to get it reconfigured, which became a looming problem. It meant that to maintain a good credit standing, I had to pay for the wire ten to thirty days before my customers paid me.

I was successful on paper but was incredibly cash deprived. In other words, my exponentially growing business was about to implode due to too many sales. Eventually, my increasing sales grew at a slower rate, solving my cash flow problem.

Delegate From The Bottom Up

I learned how to delegate and eventually delegated myself out of the top jobs of CEO, President, CFO, and Vice President of Finance. Now, at seventy-eight years old, I've sold all but a third of Vulcan's stock and am semi-retired with my only job currently serving as Vice President of Stock and Consultant.

In the interim, I survived many obstacles and learned many other lessons, but hopefully these five will get you started and help prevent some of you from having the same struggles that I did. And in the end, I figured it all out, just like you will.