People 01 June 2018
It’s no secret that being a woman in sports feels like an inherent disadvantage. Surrounded by stereotypes that men are stronger and faster, women have to do more in order to break through those stereotypes and shine in any sport they play.
When it comes to my sport, polo, I get to face those issues head-on and shatter them. Polo is one of the few sports where men and women are on the field together. Each gender is held to the same standards when playing and discrepancies in gender ability are not a factor.
"Confidence in yourself is the number one key to success. Once you can achieve self-confidence, anything is possible"
Fortunately for me, riding horses has been a passion of mine since I was five years old. Getting the chance to combine that with my naturally competitive spirit is a blessing.
But, as happy as playing makes me and as incredible as it is that gender barriers are not as prominent in polo, being a representative for women’s equality in athletics is a responsibility I do not take lightly.
"I strive to make a difference in everything I do, that is just the nature of my competitive attitude."
During matches, I make sure I realize the significance of what it means to be on the same field as men playing in the same game. Many women do not have that opportunity in their sports. The fact that it is considered a privilege in my game is a facet of society that needs to change. Athletics do not need to be segregated.
I strive to make a difference in everything I do, that is just the nature of my competitive attitude. One of my main focuses is working harder and ensuring I am always at the top of my game to prove my skills.
That would be my best advice for other women in sports. More times than not, the wind is going to be blowing in your face, pushing you away from your goal. But, if you go out there with the thoughts, “I can do it” and “I am better”, then you’ll be able to leap over any obstacles that stand in your way. Confidence in yourself is the number one key to success. Once you can achieve self-confidence, anything is possible. A quote that has always stuck with me is, “Those who say they can, and those who say they can’t, are both usually right”. Believe in yourself, and never let anything hold you back!
I hope that women continue to make tremendous strides in achieving their dreams!
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Help! My Friend Is a No Show
Dear Armchair Psychologist,
I have a friend who doesn't reply to my messages about meeting for dinner, etc. Although, last week I ran into her at a local restaurant of mine, it has always been awkward to be friends with her. Should I continue our friendship or discontinue it? We've been friends for a total four years and nothing has changed. I don't feel as comfortable with her as my other close friends, and I don't think I'll ever be able to reach that comfort zone in pure friendship.
Dear Sadsies,I am sorry to hear you've been neglected by your friend. You may already have the answer to your question, since you're evaluating the non-existing bond between yourself and your friend. However, I'll gladly affirm to you that a friendship that isn't reciprocated is not a good friendship.
I have had a similar situation with a friend whom I'd grown up with but who was also consistently a very negative person, a true Debby Downer. One day, I just had enough of her criticism and vitriol. I stopped making excuses for her and dumped her. It was a great decision and I haven't looked back. With that in mind, it could be possible that something has changed in your friend's life, but it's insignificant if she isn't responding to you. It's time to dump her and spend your energy where it's appreciated. Don't dwell on this friend. History is not enough to create a lasting bond, it only means just that—you and your friend have history—so let her be history!
- The Armchair Psychologist