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What The Super Blue Moon Eclipse Means For Your Horoscope This Month

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This month comes in with a bang due to the Super Blue Moon Eclipse happening on January 31st in Leo. Think of this eclipse as your emotional pot boiling over. Things pertaining to relationships, whether personally or at work, finally come to a breaking point for lots of people.


It's an opportunity to lean into the positive emotional aspects of Leo which are courage, independence, self-esteem and fearlessness. In other words, it's a time to lead with your heart. This is easier for some than others.

Are you already living in a functional partnership or work environment built on passion and commitment? Then double down. If not, time to put your well-being first and make some changes.

Aquarius

(January 20- February 18)

“A Very Merry Unbirthday to You!" (Yes you, Aquarius!)

I love this month for the water bearers! With Mercury and Venus both in Aquarius, communication and love should be easier for you. The tribe around you finally understands your point of view, especially loved ones. It's also a good time to pitch that idea or start that company or project. Resources are flowing more than usual. Renovate something and make it more beautiful….it doesn't matter if it's your house, your wardrobe or your vision board. Watch overdoing alcohol, sweets or anything that distracts you from your emotions. This could be your best valentines day ever. Don't miss it because you were trying to communicate with aliens in your garage. February 23-24: take a trip.

Pisces

(February 19- March 20)

“Come sail away..."

Congratulations Pisces! You survived the flame thrower of a Blue Moon on January 31st. Now you are feeling good in your own skin. Your emotions are strong but not running your show. They are fueling your desire to execute your plans with discipline and focus. You've got wind in your sails and a smile on your face. Don't look back. Keep your eye on the horizon. After February 11 you'll have the gift of gab. Feb 25-26: stay home and feather the nest.

Aries

(March 21- April 19)

“A little less conversation"

An Aries always wants a little more action and a little less talk. Not this month. This February is all about listening, discussing and dreaming. Encourage the qualities of democracy in your family, your company or on your team. Everyone's opinion matters. It's time to think about how to improve or reinvent yourself or something that you love. Because Venus will be in Pisces after February 11, extra patience with an emotional partner will be a necessity. Blow off steam by getting out and competing this month...whether in sports, business or HQ. You can win right now. Feb 28-29: good days for love.

Scorpio

(October 23- November 21)

“Snorkeling through your Waterloo"

Try to stay as calm as you can the first part of February. Emotions and frustrations will

be at times hard to manage. Just when you feel like you just can't take anymore, around

February 11 things shift into a much welcomed pink emotional cloud.

Don't be hard on yourself for the fact that not much work has been accomplished during this sentient rollercoaster. Let it go. You aren't that far behind. In fact, you are just resting up for a major move forward.

Taurus

(April 20- May 20)

“'Twas brillig and the slithy toves..."

This month you may be feeling like you are not understanding what people are saying. Or if you do understand, you may feel like it's a bunch of jabberwocky. If you have a partner, you may not understand who they are right now. They are just being weird or different. Don't try to figure any of this out; just keep your head down and do your work, whatever that is. Set goals, create strategies, plan your power moves. Then go execute. You've got this. Feb 2-3: clean out your closets and reorganize.

Gemini

(May 21- June 20)

“Go greased lightning"

This is such a turbo month for you. Everything goes faster than normal without losing any quality. You can do or think five things at once. Make a list of goals for February. Revisit them every day to stay focused. Clarity and energy like this shouldn't be scattered about with no direction. With Jupiter still in Libra at the first of the month, you still have luck on your side so get out there and go after it. You also have Cupid working on your behalf to help create one of your best Valentines Days ever. It is almost not fair how good this month could be for you. Enjoy!

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Cancer

(June 21- July 22)

“Swimming in your own lane"

Let's get the tough stuff out the way first. Communication for you may be difficult this month. People close to you may seem too stubborn about their crazy visions and not grounded in the practical where you like to live. Please summon patience and just listen. You won't win these battles. On a positive note, productivity could be amazing for you as well as a keen sense of increased self-understanding. Stick to your list and your own self-improvement and you will see rewards. Feb 16-18: seek out music or theatre.

Leo

(July 23- August 22)

“If you can't say something nice"

Please please please watch what you say this February. The big full moon eclipse at the beginning of the month along with some other aspects all add up to mounting frustrations that do not need to be verbalized in haste. It's a great month to start or increase your workout regimen.

Also, many good inspirational visions or inventions could come to you. Write them down! You are an idea factory. Feb 19-20: have a good fight and then make up.

Virgo

(August 23- September 22)

“I hear the mermaids singing"

How can you create an artist's retreat within that busy, buttoned-up schedule of yours? The answer is just do it. The muses are all within earshot; find a quiet place with a note pad and listen. They are singing inspiration to you. What's even more wonderful is that you have the ability to execute these visions more than ever before. Feb 6-7: good love. Feb 21-22: productivity.

Libra

(September 23- October 22)

“Putting off a scent"

It is time to do what you do best, dear Libra: attract. No one is better than you at making it look so effortless to be irresistible. This month all you have to do is show up. Conversation will be interesting, love interests will put you on a pedestal, and you will have boundless energy as well. Everyone will be eating out of your hand, so have mercy on us all. Feb 14-15: time to reveal your manifesto.

Sagittarius

(November 22- December 21)

“Making hay"

You have so many stars aligned right now. Even that big Leo moon that rained havoc down on everyone else smiled on you instead. Place your bets, buy a lottery ticket, take the risk, make the move...all before February 11. The clouds will start to gather then and a benevolent rain will come to dampen your parade. Feb 19-20: play to win and you will.

Capricorn

(December 22- January 19)

“A bird in the hand"

I always like to give the bad news first if I can. You don't really have luck on your side right now. The good news is that no one is more equipped to create their own luck through hard work than you dear Capricorn. Minimize risk, keep to the plan, stick to the health regimen and keep taking your own inventory. Notice those little moments where love creeps in to remind you that you are awesome; a child's hug, your dog's nuzzle, a thank you from a co-worker.

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Patriarchy Stress Disorder is A Real Thing and this Psychologist Is Helping Women Overcome It

For decades, women have been unknowingly suffering from PSD and intergenerational trauma, but now Dr. Valerie Rein wants women to reclaim their power through mind, body and healing tools.


As women, no matter how many accomplishments we have or how successful we look on the outside, we all occasionally hear that nagging internal voice telling us to do more. We criticize ourselves more than anyone else and then throw ourselves into the never-ending cycle of self-care, all in effort to save ourselves from crashing into this invisible internal wall. According to psychologist, entrepreneur and author, Dr. Valerie Rein, these feelings are not your fault and there is nothing wrong with you— but chances are you definitely suffering from Patriarchy Stress Disorder.


Patriarchy Stress Disorder (PSD) is defined as the collective inherited trauma of oppression that forms an invisible inner barrier to women's happiness and fulfillment. The term was coined by Rein who discovered a missing link between trauma and the effects that patriarchal power structures have had on certain groups of people all throughout history up until the present day. Her life experience, in addition to research, have led Rein to develop a deeper understanding of the ways in which men and women are experiencing symptoms of trauma and stress that have been genetically passed down from previously oppressed generations.

What makes the discovery of this disorder significant is that it provides women with an answer to the stresses and trauma we feel but cannot explain or overcome. After being admitted to the ER with stroke-like symptoms one afternoon, when Rein noticed the left side of her body and face going numb, she was baffled to learn from her doctors that the results of her tests revealed that her stroke-like symptoms were caused by stress. Rein was then left to figure out what exactly she did for her clients in order for them to be able to step into the fullness of themselves that she was unable to do for herself. "What started seeping through the tears was the realization that I checked all the boxes that society told me I needed to feel happy and fulfilled, but I didn't feel happy or fulfilled and I didn't feel unhappy either. I didn't feel much of anything at all, not even stress," she stated.

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This raised the question for Rein as to what sort of hidden traumas women are suppressing without having any awareness of its presence. In her evaluation of her healing methodology, Rein realized that she was using mind, body and trauma healing tools with her clients because, while they had never experienced a traumatic event, they were showing the tell-tale symptoms of trauma which are described as a disconnect from parts of ourselves, body and emotions. In addition to her personal evaluation, research at the time had revealed that traumatic experiences are, in fact, passed down genetically throughout generations. This was Rein's lightbulb moment. The answer to a very real problem that she, and all women, have been experiencing is intergenerational trauma as a result of oppression formed under the patriarchy.

Although Rein's discovery would undoubtably change the way women experience and understand stress, it was crucial that she first broaden the definition of trauma not with the intention of catering to PSD, but to better identify the ways in which trauma presents itself in the current generation. When studying psychology from the books and diagnostic manuals written exclusively by white men, trauma was narrowly defined as a life-threatening experience. By that definition, not many people fit the bill despite showing trauma-like symptoms such as disconnections from parts of their body, emotions and self-expression. However, as the field of psychology has expanded, more voices have been joining the conversations and expanding the definition of trauma based on their lived experience. "I have broadened the definition to say that any experience that makes us feel unsafe psychically or emotionally can be traumatic," stated Rein. By redefining trauma, people across the gender spectrum are able to find validation in their experiences and begin their journey to healing these traumas not just for ourselves, but for future generations.

While PSD is not experienced by one particular gender, as women who have been one of the most historically disadvantaged and oppressed groups, we have inherited survival instructions that express themselves differently for different women. For some women, this means their nervous systems freeze when faced with something that has been historically dangerous for women such as stepping into their power, speaking out, being visible or making a lot of money. Then there are women who go into fight or flight mode. Although they are able to stand in the spotlight, they pay a high price for it when their nervous system begins to work in a constant state of hyper vigilance in order to keep them safe. These women often find themselves having trouble with anxiety, intimacy, sleeping or relaxing without a glass of wine or a pill. Because of this, adrenaline fatigue has become an epidemic among high achieving women that is resulting in heightened levels of stress and anxiety.

"For the first time, it makes sense that we are not broken or making this up, and we have gained this understanding by looking through the lens of a shared trauma. All of these things have been either forbidden or impossible for women. A woman's power has always been a punishable offense throughout history," stated Rein.

Although the idea of having a disorder may be scary to some and even potentially contribute to a victim mentality, Rein wants people to be empowered by PSD and to see it as a diagnosis meant to validate your experience by giving it a name, making it real and giving you a means to heal yourself. "There are still experiences in our lives that are triggering PSD and the more layers we heal, the more power we claim, the more resilience we have and more ability we have in staying plugged into our power and happiness. These triggers affect us less and less the more we heal," emphasized Rein. While the task of breaking intergenerational transmission of trauma seems intimidating, the author has flipped the negative approach to the healing journey from a game of survival to the game of how good can it get.

In her new book, Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Barrier to Women's Happiness and Fulfillment, Rein details an easy system for healing that includes the necessary tools she has sourced over 20 years on her healing exploration with the pioneers of mind, body and trauma resolution. Her 5-step system serves to help "Jailbreakers" escape the inner prison of PSD and other hidden trauma through the process of Waking Up in Prison, Meeting the Prison Guards, Turning the Prison Guards into Body Guards, Digging the Tunnel to Freedom and Savoring Freedom. Readers can also find free tools on Rein's website to help aid in their healing journey and exploration.

"I think of the book coming out as the birth of a movement. Healing is not women against men– it's women, men and people across the gender spectrum, coming together in a shared understanding that we all have trauma and we can all heal."

https://www.drvalerie.com/