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What Does Your Business Horoscope Reveal For November?

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While some may shrug off astrology as a hoax, there is actually a lot of thought and practice that goes into the making of your daily horoscopes. Astrology is known to help people shape their decisions and help them make the most of everyday work situations, romantic encounters, and friendship problems based on the alignment of celestial bodies at any given time.

Unlike other websites, we did not have an intern write our astrology column (yes, one of our editors had the prestigious task of doing so at her first internship). SWAAY asked an expert, who knows how to read the alignment of the stars and the moon to create the most accurate business horoscope for your month.

Scorpio (October 23- November 21)

"Rise and Shine"

Happy Birthday Scorpio! This is your month to shine for so many reasons... Creativity, inspiration and intuition are always your friends but this month the volume is turned up in these departments. Pay attention to your dreams during this time period because they could contain important ideas. I'm not kidding...keep a journal by your bed and write them down. This is a big month for money. You could get a bonus or commission check early. Watch out for those office romances...all of the sexual tension that has been building up with a coworker may be too much to resist this month and things could suddenly go from fantasy to reality.

Sagittarius (November 22-December 21)

"Werk it girl!"

November will be one of the most productive months for you this year. This is the time for you to communicate your vision, pitch to the huge client, convince your boss that you need a promotion or win that case! Sagittarian lawyers will score big this month and our non-lawyer archers could win lawsuits and contracts. Take a break from November 10-12 and have a romantic weekend. November 29-30, take action and/or say what you've been holding back this whole year!

Capricorn (December 22- January 19)

"Boss lady"

Capricorns have been feeling a Pluto conjunction for a while now and this month it will especially effect those born from January 3- 10. The P in Pluto stands for POWER. Are you in the seat of power or are you having power wielded over you? Either scenario could be happening. If you are in the latter camp I suggest that you EM-POWER yourself and make a change. November 4-5: good vibrations. November 8-9: call your mom. Just do it.

Aquarius (January 20- February 18)

"Buckle up and hang on!"

Woohoo! Aquarians are going to have a wild ride this month (especially those water-bearers born between February 11- 18.) You will be winning arguments and having the chips fall where you want them to. Take risks this month; you have luck on your side and the energy to pull it off. November 22-24: good vibrations. November 11 - 12: watch out for that temper.

Pisces (February 19 - March 20)

"You gorgeous mermaid muse"

You are swimming in a sea of creativity, spirituality and intuition. Don't waste this time in a dreamy haze. Create! Write it down, film it, photograph it, do a flow chart of it and show your boss! You are the inspired genius strategist. Let everyone know. November 1-5: make your pitch. November 8 -30: focus on investments and put some money into assets for the future.

Aries (March 21- April 19)

"The snake charmer"

This month nobody can say no to you so sell, sell, sell! Surprises abound at work; even if they seem terrible on the surface, ultimately they are lucky for you. Right now, all you have to do is show up to do well but that's not the Aries way...you need to kill it and you will! Maximize this good fortune and take risks...play the lottery in every sense. Ask for the promotion, make the trade, buy the option, stand up to "the man." Good vibrations: November 19-21.

Taurus (April 21-May 21)

"Calm the f*#& down"

That famous Taurus stubbornness and tenacity serves you well most of the time. During this month that bullishness can get you into trouble. It's time to stop pushing against things for the time being. Go with the flow. If it feels like a struggle, stop. Focus on where you want to go and not so much on how you get there. Most importantly, progress is going to slow down this month so don't worry about how long it takes to get there either.

Take a breather and acquiesce. Your good vibration days are during Thanksgiving so do what Taureans do best: eat, drink and be merry!

Gemini (May 21- June 21)

"Drive it like you stole it"

You already aren't the person to sit still for long but this month you are kicking into warp speed. You'll have a burst of energy over the next few weeks that serves you well. You also may have extra work trips- some may be international or regarding an international client. You will be a team builder this month by organizing meetings, projects or pulling the perfect group together to solve the challenge. November 1-7: good money flow.

Cancer (June 22- July 22)

"Come on you little fighter"

It's time to bring those creative ideas into your job. Don't keep them tucked away in your very roomy memory bank. If you are born between July 13-18, don't let a setback slow you down...get back up again. There will be lots of opportunities to overdo it this month so get plenty of rest and don't stress eat or work too much. Quit complaining and work your program...whatever it is. Just do it.

Leo (July 23- August 22)

"Sing a song"

You should see some progress this month after a long spell with no reward. Finally, your tenacity and hard work pays off! Now it's time for some work/life balance so schedule the spa appointments and pampering. Most of this month (November 6- 30) is the time for you to use your voice. Write, speak, blog or sing! People are ready to hear from you. Every Leo is an inventor this month so take your ideas to the patent office.

Virgo (August 23- September 22)

"We all put our pants on, one leg at a time"

You are the queen of self-control and calculation. You've been meditating and looking inward- an enviable example of mindfulness. That's why it's so shocking to you and those around you when you start to unravel this month. Frazzled and anxious from some unusually intense hyper-focusing, you say the wrong thing at the wrong time more than once.

You may even lose your temper and composure (“What, her? I've NEVER seen her do that!") Permission granted to be human, dear Virgo. This too shall pass.

Libra (September 23- October 22)

"Hear me ROAR"

Librans are the great balancers. They weigh options carefully, research solutions and try ideas on like high-end designer dresses (the only kind of dress a Libra would wear, obviously.) Because of this, they are famous for their indecisiveness and the propensity to stay stuck when making a decision.

Not this month. In November, Librans are large, in charge and ready to go with a plan. Libras will be the horse to bet on...try to keep up.

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Patriarchy Stress Disorder is A Real Thing and this Psychologist Is Helping Women Overcome It

For decades, women have been unknowingly suffering from PSD and intergenerational trauma, but now Dr. Valerie Rein wants women to reclaim their power through mind, body and healing tools.


As women, no matter how many accomplishments we have or how successful we look on the outside, we all occasionally hear that nagging internal voice telling us to do more. We criticize ourselves more than anyone else and then throw ourselves into the never-ending cycle of self-care, all in effort to save ourselves from crashing into this invisible internal wall. According to psychologist, entrepreneur and author, Dr. Valerie Rein, these feelings are not your fault and there is nothing wrong with you— but chances are you definitely suffering from Patriarchy Stress Disorder.


Patriarchy Stress Disorder (PSD) is defined as the collective inherited trauma of oppression that forms an invisible inner barrier to women's happiness and fulfillment. The term was coined by Rein who discovered a missing link between trauma and the effects that patriarchal power structures have had on certain groups of people all throughout history up until the present day. Her life experience, in addition to research, have led Rein to develop a deeper understanding of the ways in which men and women are experiencing symptoms of trauma and stress that have been genetically passed down from previously oppressed generations.

What makes the discovery of this disorder significant is that it provides women with an answer to the stresses and trauma we feel but cannot explain or overcome. After being admitted to the ER with stroke-like symptoms one afternoon, when Rein noticed the left side of her body and face going numb, she was baffled to learn from her doctors that the results of her tests revealed that her stroke-like symptoms were caused by stress. Rein was then left to figure out what exactly she did for her clients in order for them to be able to step into the fullness of themselves that she was unable to do for herself. "What started seeping through the tears was the realization that I checked all the boxes that society told me I needed to feel happy and fulfilled, but I didn't feel happy or fulfilled and I didn't feel unhappy either. I didn't feel much of anything at all, not even stress," she stated.

Photo Courtesy of Dr. Valerie Rein

This raised the question for Rein as to what sort of hidden traumas women are suppressing without having any awareness of its presence. In her evaluation of her healing methodology, Rein realized that she was using mind, body and trauma healing tools with her clients because, while they had never experienced a traumatic event, they were showing the tell-tale symptoms of trauma which are described as a disconnect from parts of ourselves, body and emotions. In addition to her personal evaluation, research at the time had revealed that traumatic experiences are, in fact, passed down genetically throughout generations. This was Rein's lightbulb moment. The answer to a very real problem that she, and all women, have been experiencing is intergenerational trauma as a result of oppression formed under the patriarchy.

Although Rein's discovery would undoubtably change the way women experience and understand stress, it was crucial that she first broaden the definition of trauma not with the intention of catering to PSD, but to better identify the ways in which trauma presents itself in the current generation. When studying psychology from the books and diagnostic manuals written exclusively by white men, trauma was narrowly defined as a life-threatening experience. By that definition, not many people fit the bill despite showing trauma-like symptoms such as disconnections from parts of their body, emotions and self-expression. However, as the field of psychology has expanded, more voices have been joining the conversations and expanding the definition of trauma based on their lived experience. "I have broadened the definition to say that any experience that makes us feel unsafe psychically or emotionally can be traumatic," stated Rein. By redefining trauma, people across the gender spectrum are able to find validation in their experiences and begin their journey to healing these traumas not just for ourselves, but for future generations.

While PSD is not experienced by one particular gender, as women who have been one of the most historically disadvantaged and oppressed groups, we have inherited survival instructions that express themselves differently for different women. For some women, this means their nervous systems freeze when faced with something that has been historically dangerous for women such as stepping into their power, speaking out, being visible or making a lot of money. Then there are women who go into fight or flight mode. Although they are able to stand in the spotlight, they pay a high price for it when their nervous system begins to work in a constant state of hyper vigilance in order to keep them safe. These women often find themselves having trouble with anxiety, intimacy, sleeping or relaxing without a glass of wine or a pill. Because of this, adrenaline fatigue has become an epidemic among high achieving women that is resulting in heightened levels of stress and anxiety.

"For the first time, it makes sense that we are not broken or making this up, and we have gained this understanding by looking through the lens of a shared trauma. All of these things have been either forbidden or impossible for women. A woman's power has always been a punishable offense throughout history," stated Rein.

Although the idea of having a disorder may be scary to some and even potentially contribute to a victim mentality, Rein wants people to be empowered by PSD and to see it as a diagnosis meant to validate your experience by giving it a name, making it real and giving you a means to heal yourself. "There are still experiences in our lives that are triggering PSD and the more layers we heal, the more power we claim, the more resilience we have and more ability we have in staying plugged into our power and happiness. These triggers affect us less and less the more we heal," emphasized Rein. While the task of breaking intergenerational transmission of trauma seems intimidating, the author has flipped the negative approach to the healing journey from a game of survival to the game of how good can it get.

In her new book, Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Barrier to Women's Happiness and Fulfillment, Rein details an easy system for healing that includes the necessary tools she has sourced over 20 years on her healing exploration with the pioneers of mind, body and trauma resolution. Her 5-step system serves to help "Jailbreakers" escape the inner prison of PSD and other hidden trauma through the process of Waking Up in Prison, Meeting the Prison Guards, Turning the Prison Guards into Body Guards, Digging the Tunnel to Freedom and Savoring Freedom. Readers can also find free tools on Rein's website to help aid in their healing journey and exploration.

"I think of the book coming out as the birth of a movement. Healing is not women against men– it's women, men and people across the gender spectrum, coming together in a shared understanding that we all have trauma and we can all heal."

https://www.drvalerie.com/