While some may shrug off astrology as a hoax, there is actually a lot of thought and practice that goes into the making of your daily horoscopes. Astrology is known to help people shape their decisions and help them make the most of everyday work situations, romantic encounters, and friendship problems based on the alignment of celestial bodies at any given time.
Unlike other websites, we did not have an intern write our astrology column (yes, one of our editors had the prestigious task of doing so at her first internship). SWAAY asked an expert, who knows how to read the alignment of the stars and the moon to create the most accurate business horoscope for your month.
Scorpio (October 23- November 21)
"Rise and Shine"
Happy Birthday Scorpio! This is your month to shine for so many reasons... Creativity, inspiration and intuition are always your friends but this month the volume is turned up in these departments. Pay attention to your dreams during this time period because they could contain important ideas. I'm not kidding...keep a journal by your bed and write them down. This is a big month for money. You could get a bonus or commission check early. Watch out for those office romances...all of the sexual tension that has been building up with a coworker may be too much to resist this month and things could suddenly go from fantasy to reality.
Sagittarius (November 22-December 21)
"Werk it girl!"
November will be one of the most productive months for you this year. This is the time for you to communicate your vision, pitch to the huge client, convince your boss that you need a promotion or win that case! Sagittarian lawyers will score big this month and our non-lawyer archers could win lawsuits and contracts. Take a break from November 10-12 and have a romantic weekend. November 29-30, take action and/or say what you've been holding back this whole year!
Capricorn (December 22- January 19)
Capricorns have been feeling a Pluto conjunction for a while now and this month it will especially effect those born from January 3- 10. The P in Pluto stands for POWER. Are you in the seat of power or are you having power wielded over you? Either scenario could be happening. If you are in the latter camp I suggest that you EM-POWER yourself and make a change. November 4-5: good vibrations. November 8-9: call your mom. Just do it.
Aquarius (January 20- February 18)
"Buckle up and hang on!"
Woohoo! Aquarians are going to have a wild ride this month (especially those water-bearers born between February 11- 18.) You will be winning arguments and having the chips fall where you want them to. Take risks this month; you have luck on your side and the energy to pull it off. November 22-24: good vibrations. November 11 - 12: watch out for that temper.
Pisces (February 19 - March 20)
"You gorgeous mermaid muse"
You are swimming in a sea of creativity, spirituality and intuition. Don't waste this time in a dreamy haze. Create! Write it down, film it, photograph it, do a flow chart of it and show your boss! You are the inspired genius strategist. Let everyone know. November 1-5: make your pitch. November 8 -30: focus on investments and put some money into assets for the future.
Aries (March 21- April 19)
"The snake charmer"
This month nobody can say no to you so sell, sell, sell! Surprises abound at work; even if they seem terrible on the surface, ultimately they are lucky for you. Right now, all you have to do is show up to do well but that's not the Aries way...you need to kill it and you will! Maximize this good fortune and take risks...play the lottery in every sense. Ask for the promotion, make the trade, buy the option, stand up to "the man." Good vibrations: November 19-21.
Taurus (April 21-May 21)
"Calm the f*#& down"
That famous Taurus stubbornness and tenacity serves you well most of the time. During this month that bullishness can get you into trouble. It's time to stop pushing against things for the time being. Go with the flow. If it feels like a struggle, stop. Focus on where you want to go and not so much on how you get there. Most importantly, progress is going to slow down this month so don't worry about how long it takes to get there either.
Take a breather and acquiesce. Your good vibration days are during Thanksgiving so do what Taureans do best: eat, drink and be merry!
Gemini (May 21- June 21)
"Drive it like you stole it"
You already aren't the person to sit still for long but this month you are kicking into warp speed. You'll have a burst of energy over the next few weeks that serves you well. You also may have extra work trips- some may be international or regarding an international client. You will be a team builder this month by organizing meetings, projects or pulling the perfect group together to solve the challenge. November 1-7: good money flow.
Cancer (June 22- July 22)
"Come on you little fighter"
It's time to bring those creative ideas into your job. Don't keep them tucked away in your very roomy memory bank. If you are born between July 13-18, don't let a setback slow you down...get back up again. There will be lots of opportunities to overdo it this month so get plenty of rest and don't stress eat or work too much. Quit complaining and work your program...whatever it is. Just do it.
Leo (July 23- August 22)
"Sing a song"
You should see some progress this month after a long spell with no reward. Finally, your tenacity and hard work pays off! Now it's time for some work/life balance so schedule the spa appointments and pampering. Most of this month (November 6- 30) is the time for you to use your voice. Write, speak, blog or sing! People are ready to hear from you. Every Leo is an inventor this month so take your ideas to the patent office.
Virgo (August 23- September 22)
"We all put our pants on, one leg at a time"
You are the queen of self-control and calculation. You've been meditating and looking inward- an enviable example of mindfulness. That's why it's so shocking to you and those around you when you start to unravel this month. Frazzled and anxious from some unusually intense hyper-focusing, you say the wrong thing at the wrong time more than once.
You may even lose your temper and composure (“What, her? I've NEVER seen her do that!") Permission granted to be human, dear Virgo. This too shall pass.
Libra (September 23- October 22)
"Hear me ROAR"
Librans are the great balancers. They weigh options carefully, research solutions and try ideas on like high-end designer dresses (the only kind of dress a Libra would wear, obviously.) Because of this, they are famous for their indecisiveness and the propensity to stay stuck when making a decision.
Not this month. In November, Librans are large, in charge and ready to go with a plan. Libras will be the horse to bet on...try to keep up.
In 2016, I finally found my voice. I always thought I had one, especially as a business owner and mother of two vocal toddlers, but I had been wrong.
For more than 30 years, I had been struggling with the fear of being my true self and speaking my truth. Then the repressed memories of my childhood sexual abuse unraveled before me while raising my 3-year-old daughter, and my life has not been the same since.
Believe it or not, I am happy about that.
The journey for a survivor like me to feel even slightly comfortable sharing these words, without fear of being shamed or looked down upon, is a long and often lonely one. For all of the people out there in the shadows who are survivors of childhood sexual abuse, I dedicate this to you. You might never come out to talk about it and that's okay, but I am going to do so here and I hope that in doing so, I will open people's eyes to the long-term effects of abuse. As a survivor who is now fully conscious of her abuse, I suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and, quite frankly, it may never go away.
It took me some time to accept that and I refuse to let it stop me from thriving in life; therefore, I strive to manage it (as do many others with PTSD) through various strategies I've learned and continue to learn through personal and group therapy. Over the years, various things have triggered my repressed memories and emotions of my abuse--from going to birthday parties and attending preschool tours to the Kavanaugh hearing and most recently, the"Leaving Neverland" documentary (I did not watch the latter, but read commentary about it).
These triggers often cause panic attacks. I was angry when I read Barbara Streisand's comments about the men who accused Michael Jackson of sexually abusing them, as detailed in the documentary. She was quoted as saying, "They both married and they both have children, so it didn't kill them." She later apologized for her comments. I was frustrated when one of the senators questioning Dr. Christine Blasey Ford (during the Kavanaugh hearing) responded snidely that Dr. Ford was still able to get her Ph.D. after her alleged assault--as if to imply she must be lying because she gained success in life.We survivors are screaming to the world, "You just don't get it!" So let me explain: It takes a great amount of resilience and fortitude to walk out into society every day knowing that at any moment an image, a sound, a color, a smell, or a child crying could ignite fear in us that brings us back to that moment of abuse, causing a chemical reaction that results in a panic attack.
So yes, despite enduring and repressing those awful moments in my early life during which I didn't understand what was happening to me or why, decades later I did get married; I did become a parent; I did start a business that I continue to run today; and I am still learning to navigate this "new normal." These milestones do not erase the trauma that I experienced. Society needs to open their eyes and realize that any triumph after something as ghastly as childhood abuse should be celebrated, not looked upon as evidence that perhaps the trauma "never happened" or "wasn't that bad. "When a survivor is speaking out about what happened to them, they are asking the world to join them on their journey to heal. We need love, we need to feel safe and we need society to learn the signs of abuse and how to prevent it so that we can protect the 1 out of 10 children who are being abused by the age of 18. When I state this statistic at events or in large groups, I often have at least one person come up to me after and confide that they too are a survivor and have kept it a secret. My vehicle for speaking out was through the novella The Survivors Club, which is the inspiration behind a TV pilot that my co-creator and I are pitching as a supernatural, mind-bending TV series. Acknowledging my abuse has empowered me to speak up on behalf of innocent children who do not have a voice and the adult survivors who are silent.
Remembering has helped me further understand my young adult challenges,past risky relationships, anger issues, buried fears, and my anxieties. I am determined to thrive and not hide behind these negative things as they have molded me into the strong person I am today.Here is my advice to those who wonder how to best support survivors of sexual abuse:Ask how we need support: Many survivors have a tough exterior, which means the people around them assume they never need help--we tend to be the caregivers for our friends and families. Learning to be vulnerable was new for me, so I realized I needed a check-off list of what loved ones should ask me afterI had a panic attack.
The list had questions like: "Do you need a hug," "How are you feeling," "Do you need time alone."Be patient with our PTSD". Family and close ones tend to ask when will the PTSD go away. It isn't a cold or a disease that requires a finite amount of drugs or treatment. There's no pill to make it miraculously disappear, but therapy helps manage it and some therapies have been known to help it go away. Mental Health America has a wealth of information on PTSD that can help you and survivors understand it better. Have compassion: When I was with friends at a preschool tour to learn more about its summer camp, I almost fainted because I couldn't stop worrying about my kids being around new teenagers and staff that might watch them go the bathroom or put on their bathing suit. After the tour, my friends said,"Nubia, you don't have to put your kids in this camp. They will be happy doing other things this summer."
In that moment, I realized how lucky I was to have friends who understood what I was going through and supported me. They showed me love and compassion, which made me feel safe and not judged.