We all have hopes and dreams. While it might seem scary to actually go after them, Steph Adams fully believes it's a must.
Beginning her career as a model, Adams knew this was not what she wanted to do; She was destined for more. As of 2017, Adams is now an art director, editor and founder of LAQUA Magazine and also a best selling author.
The Game Changer, co-written with Samantha Brett, is a New York Times best selling novel tips, how-to's, and advice for women around the world. It also contains interviews with females we all look up to.
We asked our favorite new author some questions to help us motivate our own dreams like she had done. Here are her tips and a few details on what motivated her.
Good to Glow is the ultimate bible for the healthy obsessed! It features recipes hand picked from around the world from different celebrities, hotels and cafes.
What made you decide to write a food book? What is your favorite recipe from it?
I had just published a coffee table book on the best hotels around the world for a client when a friend approached me about producing a healthy recipe book of different celebrities and hotels around the world. Good to Glow is the ultimate bible for the healthy obsessed! It features recipes hand picked from around the world from different celebrities, hotels and cafes. Myself, along with my co-author Tali Shine, had this book published with Teneuse and is now available all over the world from most book shops.
I had just found out I was pregnant at the time with my first child so it was a great new project to be focusing on in a new direction in my career as a first time Author. My favorite recipe is Melissa Odabash's protein balls - they are delicious!
What are your keys to success in the ever-changing influencer world?
Post High quality photos
Keep it authentic and unique and true to your style.
Vary your images from flat-lays and portraits to full body shots, landscapes and things that you love.
Change from black and white to color
Try to offer inspiration - an image tells a lot about who you are. You should aim to inspire.
What inspired you to write 'The Game Changers'? How did you pick the women you featured?
My co-Author; Samantha Brett and I would often take a lot of walks discussing ideas and concepts and we thought it would be great to bring a book of successful women together.
It was just before the whole wave of women's rights was really coming in to the forefront, so we hit it at the right time. We were probably a little ahead of our time. We chose women that we loved and who inspired us. We were very lucky when we interviewed Meghan Markle as we had no idea she was dating Prince Harry when we interviewed her, so when news hit, the book took the wave of the media along with Meghan and it was featured in over 100 newspapers across the globe. I remember we were in Sydney over Christmas and we were contacted by the Producers of Good Morning America. It was a great and proud moment for us. Part of the proceeds of the book were also going to the breast cancer charity; Pink Hope after we lost our dear friend to breast cancer.
What does it feel like to be a best-selling author?
The reason we wrote the book was to inspire and support a charity and when a book does well it gives you a sense of achievement that you can continue to publish more books whilst also helping more charities.
Can you tell us a little about the charities you have worked with?
I have worked with various charities over the course of my career, supporting different initiatives. Most of these have been very close to my heart. Charities I have worked with have been: Pink Hope, The Royal Institute for Deaf and Blind Children, Global Goals Australia, Barnardos x Sass & Bide, Fashion Targets Breast Cancer, Belvedere x Red and Jeans for Genes.
As the editor and founder of LAQUA how do you think the media industry is changing?
It's rapidly changing now into much more of a digital space. Being a digital magazine you can see how many people are clicking on different items, purchasing each product, clicking on each page etc. Its the way of the future now.
What is your next book going to be about?
Myself and my co-Author Samantha Brett are still in the middle of putting our next book together which will support another charity close to our hearts. I feel this next one will be a great inspiration to many.
What advice do you have for aspiring authors and influencers?
To follow your heart and inspire!
Which celebrity has been the most exciting to work with?
Every celebrity is different in their own unique way, but its really nice when they feel strongly about reaching out and giving to others. That really makes an impact.
If you could interview anyone, who would you pick?
I've always admired the work of Oprah and Amal Clooney, so they would be very inspirational to bring to the readers!
For decades, women have been unknowingly suffering from PSD and intergenerational trauma, but now Dr. Valerie Rein wants women to reclaim their power through mind, body and healing tools.
As women, no matter how many accomplishments we have or how successful we look on the outside, we all occasionally hear that nagging internal voice telling us to do more. We criticize ourselves more than anyone else and then throw ourselves into the never-ending cycle of self-care, all in effort to save ourselves from crashing into this invisible internal wall. According to psychologist, entrepreneur and author, Dr. Valerie Rein, these feelings are not your fault and there is nothing wrong with you— but chances are you definitely suffering from Patriarchy Stress Disorder.
Patriarchy Stress Disorder (PSD) is defined as the collective inherited trauma of oppression that forms an invisible inner barrier to women's happiness and fulfillment. The term was coined by Rein who discovered a missing link between trauma and the effects that patriarchal power structures have had on certain groups of people all throughout history up until the present day. Her life experience, in addition to research, have led Rein to develop a deeper understanding of the ways in which men and women are experiencing symptoms of trauma and stress that have been genetically passed down from previously oppressed generations.
What makes the discovery of this disorder significant is that it provides women with an answer to the stresses and trauma we feel but cannot explain or overcome. After being admitted to the ER with stroke-like symptoms one afternoon, when Rein noticed the left side of her body and face going numb, she was baffled to learn from her doctors that the results of her tests revealed that her stroke-like symptoms were caused by stress. Rein was then left to figure out what exactly she did for her clients in order for them to be able to step into the fullness of themselves that she was unable to do for herself. "What started seeping through the tears was the realization that I checked all the boxes that society told me I needed to feel happy and fulfilled, but I didn't feel happy or fulfilled and I didn't feel unhappy either. I didn't feel much of anything at all, not even stress," she stated.
Photo Courtesy of Dr. Valerie Rein
This raised the question for Rein as to what sort of hidden traumas women are suppressing without having any awareness of its presence. In her evaluation of her healing methodology, Rein realized that she was using mind, body and trauma healing tools with her clients because, while they had never experienced a traumatic event, they were showing the tell-tale symptoms of trauma which are described as a disconnect from parts of ourselves, body and emotions. In addition to her personal evaluation, research at the time had revealed that traumatic experiences are, in fact, passed down genetically throughout generations. This was Rein's lightbulb moment. The answer to a very real problem that she, and all women, have been experiencing is intergenerational trauma as a result of oppression formed under the patriarchy.
Although Rein's discovery would undoubtably change the way women experience and understand stress, it was crucial that she first broaden the definition of trauma not with the intention of catering to PSD, but to better identify the ways in which trauma presents itself in the current generation. When studying psychology from the books and diagnostic manuals written exclusively by white men, trauma was narrowly defined as a life-threatening experience. By that definition, not many people fit the bill despite showing trauma-like symptoms such as disconnections from parts of their body, emotions and self-expression. However, as the field of psychology has expanded, more voices have been joining the conversations and expanding the definition of trauma based on their lived experience. "I have broadened the definition to say that any experience that makes us feel unsafe psychically or emotionally can be traumatic," stated Rein. By redefining trauma, people across the gender spectrum are able to find validation in their experiences and begin their journey to healing these traumas not just for ourselves, but for future generations.
While PSD is not experienced by one particular gender, as women who have been one of the most historically disadvantaged and oppressed groups, we have inherited survival instructions that express themselves differently for different women. For some women, this means their nervous systems freeze when faced with something that has been historically dangerous for women such as stepping into their power, speaking out, being visible or making a lot of money. Then there are women who go into fight or flight mode. Although they are able to stand in the spotlight, they pay a high price for it when their nervous system begins to work in a constant state of hyper vigilance in order to keep them safe. These women often find themselves having trouble with anxiety, intimacy, sleeping or relaxing without a glass of wine or a pill. Because of this, adrenaline fatigue has become an epidemic among high achieving women that is resulting in heightened levels of stress and anxiety.
"For the first time, it makes sense that we are not broken or making this up, and we have gained this understanding by looking through the lens of a shared trauma. All of these things have been either forbidden or impossible for women. A woman's power has always been a punishable offense throughout history," stated Rein.
Although the idea of having a disorder may be scary to some and even potentially contribute to a victim mentality, Rein wants people to be empowered by PSD and to see it as a diagnosis meant to validate your experience by giving it a name, making it real and giving you a means to heal yourself. "There are still experiences in our lives that are triggering PSD and the more layers we heal, the more power we claim, the more resilience we have and more ability we have in staying plugged into our power and happiness. These triggers affect us less and less the more we heal," emphasized Rein. While the task of breaking intergenerational transmission of trauma seems intimidating, the author has flipped the negative approach to the healing journey from a game of survival to the game of how good can it get.
In her new book, Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Barrier to Women's Happiness and Fulfillment, Rein details an easy system for healing that includes the necessary tools she has sourced over 20 years on her healing exploration with the pioneers of mind, body and trauma resolution. Her 5-step system serves to help "Jailbreakers" escape the inner prison of PSD and other hidden trauma through the process of Waking Up in Prison, Meeting the Prison Guards, Turning the Prison Guards into Body Guards, Digging the Tunnel to Freedom and Savoring Freedom. Readers can also find free tools on Rein's website to help aid in their healing journey and exploration.
"I think of the book coming out as the birth of a movement. Healing is not women against men– it's women, men and people across the gender spectrum, coming together in a shared understanding that we all have trauma and we can all heal."