Lifestyle 02 September 2018
School is back in session and it's not just the kids who will be required to take classes this month. With a T-square in the fixed signs and the Earth signs holding court in the major planets, EVERYONE is going to be pushed to delay gratification and take notes in September.
Fall is the physical and therefore metaphorical time for harvest. Energetically and spiritually that is NOT the case this year. These transits call on all of us to assess our mistakes and miss-judgements, learn from them, and plan a more effective course to more efficiently reach our goals as individuals and as a society. This is not a doom and gloom time…but it is a time of correction. You will notice this all over the world. Situations that were neglected and dormant suddenly become combustible. Irresponsible choices reveal painful consequences. True motives are revealed. Check in with your integrity. Check in with your motives. Remain independent and strong in your individual character. That is all you need to follow this cleansing and yet painful current. The false and extraneous are being removed. Progress is too important for the Universe to sit stagnant right now.
This is not a doom and gloom time…but it is a time of correction. You will notice this all over the world. Situations that were neglected and dormant suddenly become combustible.
Aug 24th- Sep 23rd
“I told you so"
Happy birthday Virgo! We love your commitment to doing everything “100." We love your discernment and your bull*%#^ meter. This truly is your month to shine with all of the major planets harmoniously rewarding your consistency and excellence. You are so good at the routine and the dailyness…but I would like to suggest that you veer from that hyper focus on the mundane a little bit this month. Look up from the detail and into your future. Can you see how big you can be? They are trying to show you. It's time for faith without facts and certainty of vision without clarity or guarantees. Take a cue from our Fire sign friends and let your heart lead you right now. Let your emotions show you the direction. You are meticulously prepared for what is in store for you. I promise.
Sep 24th- Oct 23rd
I love this month for you. The first week of September please make sure that you take time for your relationship. If you aren't in a romantic relationship spend time on a friendship or partnership that means a lot to you. On and after September 11th you get your mojo back. The heaviness that has weighted you down over the last few months lifts and your energy to start new projects kicks in. It is also a time to invent new ways of doing things or to revamp or add to an invention or job description. Travel is also favored this month, especially with friends.
Oct 24th- Nov 22nd
“Seat belts on?"
Virgo season is always a quiet time for you. You are harmonious with the routine and discernment that this mutable earth sign brings. This September, however, the universe has a “T-square" obstacle course planned for our fixed signs including Scorpio. These challenges will have to do with relationships of all kinds. It includes lessons regarding the balance of power, gender equality and it will test to see how strong or weak a relationship's foundation is. You may also have some surprises thrown your way, reminding you that you are not always in control.
Nov 23rd- Dec 22nd
“All action, less talk"
The fire signs that will weather this month beautifully will have one trait that they will lean on heavily; humility. Because this trait is virtually nonexistent in our Leos and Aries friends, my bet is on you dear Sagittarius. It just isn't the time for boastfulness, bravado or blustering. It's a time for perseverance and hard work. Your time to shine will come I promise. There is a wonderful gift for you this month however, in the form of a new moon in your archer's sign on September 16th. That is the night that you should plant your magic beans.
Dec 23rd- Jan 20th
“End of the affair"
The fixed sign T-square this month will be affecting everyone but with Saturn trining Uranus in your earth signs, you get a softer version of the challenge. It will probably show up in the form of relationship strain or surprise. Your spouse could get a job offer in another city. Unspoken grievances suddenly surface. A stagnant romance ends abruptly. As tough as it is, it will be for the better. On a happier note your career and/or asset portfolio should be soaring right now. Remember with the retrogrades, it could be a good time to sell.
Jan 21st- Feb 19th
“Pardon our progress"
I'll give you the good news first. The first week of September should be great for romance so set a date night with your love. The other good news is a boost of energy and momentum going forward with Mars moving into your sign on September 11th. Here is the caveat…watch your frustration and temper. The fixed sign T-square is going to push you to your last nerve. Then, when you are at your stress breaking point, there may be a few surprises thrown into the mix. Calm heads will prevail. Make sure that you keep yours the coolest. Read the intro paragraph again please and lean into the reason why: progress. Aquarians want progress more than ANYONE else, whatever the cost.
Feb 20th- Mar 20th
“Here comes the rain again"
Just when you thought everything was barreling towards resolution…a speedbump. Along with that speedbump is a feeling of sadness or depression, but you just can't quite put your finger on why. I chose the word speedbump carefully. I didn't say stop sign. You are still moving forward you just need to slow down. And the heaviness is just your antennae picking up everyone else's stress and drama from the fixed sign T-Square. It's not yours. Give it back. You're just sensitive to the world in general. All is well. Keep going.
Mar 21st- Apr 20th
“The beauty of negative ions"
I know it isn't your birthday this month but I do hope that you will make a wish on September 16th when the new moon is in Sagittarius. This could be a very powerful and lucky day for you. I would even light a candle or meditate on the first fire of the season because it's a good bet this dream will come true. Mars is moving into your copasetic sign Aquarius but it is squaring Venus and Uranus so get ready for some combustion in your relationship. Nevermind. You are always ready for a fight…in fact you even enjoy an argument so this will be easier for you than most. You understand the value and spirit of clearing the air.
Apr 21st- May 20th
“Slide, slide, slippety slide"
This could be a beautiful month for you if you just MANAGE YOUR TEMPER. There are two types of Taurus: loud ones and quiet ones. Either type could suffer severe frustration this month if they study setbacks from a micro perspective. The loud Taurus folks could do further damage by mouthing off. Our quiet Taurus friends can do internal damage to their blood pressure or worse by internalizing anger. A piece of advice- go big. Think about the big picture. Even the setbacks right now are setting you up for something better. I know it's a cliché but this month don't sweat the small stuff. Slide along with it and you will be fine.
May 21st- Jun 21st
“Now you see me…"
There are so many big forces batting you and everyone else around this month. Gemini natives are better at weathering storms than most because of their mutable nature. The fixed T-square this month isn't easy for anyone but it is harder for those that push back. Geminis never push back. Please do not mistake their passivity in the face of impossible odds for weakness. Their mercurial adaptability is their secret weapon and admirable strength. And with Mars moving into Aquarius on September 11th, our Twin sign friends will be able to shuck and jive around adversity faster than anyone.
Jun 22nd- Jul 23rd
“Joy in the Purpose"
This month will be challenging for everyone but I believe that the Virgo sun will take the edge off for our Cancer friends. Cancer finds a home in Virgo. It's a time to rest in the routine. Cancers love the consistency of duty that Virgo brings. Yes the squares could bring surprise setbacks or the proverbial wrench in the machine but Cancer can lean into the peacefulness in the commitment to their cause or project. There is also a profitable money release that could happen on or around September 10th. This Venus trine could also bring sweet moments with a loved one. Take notes because Cancer is one of the best signs to teach us what to focus on in adversity. It's not WHAT we are having to fight against that matters. It's the joy that we have a family, company, organization or cause that we love dearly to fight FOR.
July 24- Aug 23rd
“Oh captain my captain"
Happy Fall dear Leos! I have some good news and some bad news. The good news is that you are going to be at the center of many things this month (and you love that.) The bad news is that the center that I am referring to is that of a big storm. It could be family dynamics coming to a combustible head. It could be that the foundation of your relationship will be tested. It could be that surprise challenges are thrown into your best made plans. Like the dignified monarch that you are: KEEP CALM AND CARRY ON. Your kingdom depends on it. Your subjects are looking to you for leadership. This isn't your darkest hour, this is a time of preparation and correction so that your dreams will have the right fertile ground from which to flourish.
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During a recent meeting on Microsoft Teams, I couldn't seem to get a single word out.
When I tried to chime in, I kept getting interrupted. At one point two individuals talked right over me and over each other. When I thought it was finally my turn, someone else parachuted in from out of nowhere. When I raised and waved my hand as if I was in grade school to be called on (yes, I had my camera on) we swiftly moved on to the next topic. And then, completely frustrated, I stayed on mute for the remainder of the meeting. I even momentarily shut off my camera to devour the rest of my heavily bruised, brown banana. (No one needed to see that.)
This wasn't the first time I had struggled to find my voice. Since elementary school, I always preferring the back seat unless the teacher assigned me a seat in the front. In high school, I did piles of extra credit or mini-reports to offset my 0% in class participation. In college, I went into each lecture nauseous and with wasted prayers — wishing and hoping that I wouldn't be cold-called on by the professor.
By the time I got to Corporate America, it was clear that if I wanted to lead, I needed to pull my chair up (and sometimes bring my own), sit right at the table front and center, and ask for others to make space for me. From then on, I found my voice and never stop using it.
But now, all of a sudden, in this forced social experiment of mass remote working, I was having trouble being heard… again. None of the coaching I had given myself and other women on finding your voice seemed to work when my voice was being projected across a conference call and not a conference room.
I couldn't read any body language. I couldn't see if others were about to jump in and I should wait or if it was my time to speak. They couldn't see if I had something to say. For our Microsoft teams setting, you can only see a few faces on your screen, the rest are icons at the bottom of the window with a static picture or even just their name. And, even then, I couldn't see some people simply because they wouldn't turn their cameras on.
If I did get a chance to speak and cracked a funny joke, well, I didn't hear any laughing. Most people were on mute. Or maybe the joke wasn't that funny?
At one point, I could hear some heavy breathing and the unwrapping of (what I could only assume was) a candy bar. I imagined it was a Nestle Crunch Bar as my tummy rumbled in response to the crinkling of unwrapped candy. (There is a right and a wrong time to mute, people.)
At another point, I did see one face nodding at me blankly.
They say that remote working will be good for women. They say it will level the playing field. They say it will be more inclusive. But it won't be for me and others if I don't speak up now.
- Start with turning your camera on and encouraging others to do the same. I was recently in a two-person meeting. My camera was on, but the other person wouldn't turn theirs on. In that case, ten minutes in, I turned my camera off. You can't stare at my fuzzy eyebrows and my pile of laundry in the background if I can't do the same to you. When you have a willing participant, you'd be surprised by how helpful it can be to make actual eye contact with someone, even on a computer (and despite the fuzzy eyebrows).
- Use the chatbox. Enter in your questions. Enter in your comments. Dialogue back and forth. Type in a joke. I did that recently and someone entered back a laughing face — reaffirming that I was, indeed, funny.
- Designate a facilitator for the meeting: someone leading, coaching, and guiding. On my most recent call, a leader went around ensuring everyone was able to contribute fairly. She also ensured she asked for feedback on a specific topic and helped move the discussion around so no one person took up all the airtime.
- Unmute yourself. Please don't just sit there on mute for the entire meeting. Jump in and speak up. You will be interrupted. You will interrupt others. But don't get frustrated or discouraged — this is what work is now — just keep showing up and contributing.
- Smile, and smile big. Nod your head in agreement. Laugh. Give a thumbs up; give two! Wave. Make a heart with your hands. Signal to others on the call who are contributing that you support and value them. They will do the same in return when your turn comes to contribute.
It's too easy to keep your camera turned off. It's too easy to stay on mute. It's too easy to disappear. But now is not the time to disappear. Now is the time to stay engaged and networked within our organizations and communities.
So please don't put yourself on mute.
Well, actually, please do put yourself on mute so I don't have to hear your heavy breathing, candy bar crunching, or tinkling bathroom break.
But after that, please take yourself off mute so you can reclaim your seat (and your voice) at the table.