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Recent College Grads: Adulting On A Budget

When you finally graduate from college, it can be the start of your new life. Of course, you might not secure yourself a high-paying job right away and so you will have to figure out how to live your life within a stricter budget. Many people struggle with this, especially when it comes to paying back loans for college tuition.


In this article, we are going to help you through this and give you some tips for adulting on a budget. Keep reading if you are a recent college graduate and want to find out more.

Purchasing A Car

As a recent college graduate, you might be thinking about investing in your first car. This is often a priority for many people who want to be able to get to and from their new job. Of course, buying your first car after college is going to be expensive, if you are planning on buying it new. Consider choosing a used car that offers better value for money. You should be able to afford a Ford Fusion or another similar model on an entry-level salary.

Planning Your Meals

One of the things that you are going to need to get into the habit of doing if you are an adult is cooking healthy meals that are within your budget. Your college days are over, so you won't be catered for and takeaways aren't going to cut it. To achieve this on a budget, try to plan your meals and buy only the ingredients that you need each week. This will ensure that you are eating healthy food and that you are saving some cash in the meantime.

Couponing

Have you ever heard of couponing? This is the perfect way to act like an adult after college even when you are on a tight budget. You simply collect some coupons from your local store or even get your hands on a store card. You can then receive discounts off your weekly grocery shop, and you can stay on track with your budget. Make sure to look at some tips for doing this online.

Skipping Social Events

One of the costliest things that you can do when you are a recent college grad is socialise too often. Yes, you will want to catch up with your college friends and make new friends at your new job but a few drinks every couple of nights is going to add up. To adult on a budget, you should consider skipping at least one social event every few weeks. This will help you stick to your budget in the long run.

Final Verdict

Recent college graduates typically find it difficult to stick to a tight budget when they are just starting out in their adult life. If you are in this position, then make sure to try out some of the tips that we have given you here in this article. Think about buying a used car for your first vehicle and planning your meals.

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Tempted To Dial Your Ex: 5 Ways To Know Whether Or Not You Should Contact An Old Flame

Thinking of ringing up your ex during these uncertain times? Maybe you want an excuse to contact your ex, or maybe you genuinely feel the need to connect with someone on an emotional level. As a matchmaker and relationship expert, I was surprised at the start of the coronavirus quarantine when friends were telling me that they were contacting their exes! But as social distancing has grown to be more than a short-term situation, we must avoid seeking short-term solutions—and resist the urge to dial an ex.

It stands to reason that you would contact an ex for support. After all, who knows you and your fears better than an ex? This all translates into someone who you think can provide comfort and support. As a matchmaker, I already know that people can spark and ignite relationships virtually that can lead to offline love, but lonely singles didn't necessarily believe this or understand this initially, which drives them straight back to a familiar ex. You only need to tune into Love Is Blind to test this theory or look to Dina Lohan and her virtual boyfriend.

At the start of lockdown, singles were already feeling lonely. There were studies that said as much as 3 out of 4 people were lonely, and that was before lockdown. Singles were worried that dating someone was going to be off limits for a very long time. Now when you factor in a widespread pandemic and the psychological impact that hits when you have to be in isolation and can't see anyone but your takeout delivery person, we end up understanding this urge to contact an ex.

So, what should you do if you are tempted to ring up an old flame? How do you know if it's the wrong thing or the right thing to do in a time like this? Check out a few of my points before deciding on picking up that phone to text, much less call an ex.

Before You Dial The Ex...

First, you need to phone a friend! It's the person that got you through this breakup to begin with. Let them remind you of the good, the bad and the ugly before taking this first step and risk getting sucked back in.

What was the reason for your breakup? As I mentioned before, you could get sucked back in… but that might not be a bad thing. It depends; when you phoned that friend to remind you, did she remind you of good or bad things during the breakup? It's possible that you both just had to take jobs in different cities, and the breakup wasn't due to a problem in the relationship. Have these problems resolved if there were issues?

You want to come from a good place of reflection and not let bad habits make the choice for you.

Depending on the reason for the breakup, set your boundaries for how much contact beforehand. If there was abuse or toxic behaviors in the relationship, don't even go there. You can't afford to repeat this relationship again.

If you know you shouldn't be contacting this ex but feel lonely, set up a support system ahead of time. Set up activities or things to fall back on to resist the urge. Maybe you phone a different friend, join a virtual happy hour for singles, or binge watch Netflix. Anything else is acceptable, but don't phone that ex.

Write down your reasons for wanting to contact the ex. Ask yourself if this is worth the pain. Are you flea-bagging again, or is there a friendship to be had, which will provide you with genuine comfort? If it's the latter, it's okay to go there. If it's an excuse to go back together and make contact, don't.

Decide how far you are willing to take the relationship this time, without it being a rinse and repeat. If you broke up for reasons beyond your control, it's okay. If your ex was a serial cheater, phone a friend instead.

If there was abuse or toxic behaviors in the relationship, don't even go there. You can't afford to repeat this relationship again.

As life returns to a more normal state and you adjust to the new normal, we will slowly begin to notice more balance in our lives. You want to come from a good place of reflection and not let bad habits make the choice for you. Some do's and don'ts for this time would be:

  • Do: exercise ⁠— taking care of you is important during this time. It's self-care and maintaining a healthy lifestyle.
  • Do: shower, brush your teeth, and get out of your sweats.
  • Don't: be a couch potato.
  • Don't: drink or eat excessively during this time. Again, remember to maintain a healthy lifestyle.
  • Do: think positive thoughts everyday and write down the 3 things you are grateful for. Look at the impact of John Krasinksi's SGN. It's uplifting and when you feel good, you won't want to slide backwards.
  • Don't: contact a toxic ex. It's a backward move in a moment of uncertainty that could have a long term impact. Why continue flea bagging yourself?