Delivery Service Dinner Parties: One Woman's Tasty Idea


The food subscription business is a well-fed market, ask anyone on either coast and much of middle America and they'll say they've at least heard of meal services that deliver the exactly amount of ingredients you need for meals every single week at your door. For many young professionals and busy, over-worked families that are simply stretched too thin to find time to cook a meal and sit together to enjoy it, companies like Blue Apron and Plated have made it simple, seamless and easy. But previous food writer, Debbie Soo, realized what another hole in the meal market: dinner parties.

Though arguably, the appeal of her start-up, Feastive is likely more for New Yorkers who have a bit more time to experiment in the kitchen, the idea is simple: plan your dinner menu online, have the ingredients delivered (based on your party size) and whip it up, all while sippin' on champagne and greeting your guest as they arrive.

With an emphasis on more exotic, international flavors (likely inspired by Soo's upbringing in Asia), Feastive might be the excuse your squad needs to finally put Doodle to good use and find a time when you can all nom.

Here, Soo shares her story, her success and what's next:

1. Have you always loved food? How has it been a part of your life?

Debbie Soo: “I have always been a food lover. My mother is an amazing cook and instilled in us a lifelong appreciation for food (along with very, very healthy appetites). I moved to New York two years ago from Hong Kong, where I worked as a food editor for a local gourmet magazine.

It was an amazing experience, and I spent the better part of four years sampling the culinary highlights of the region. After relocating to the U.S. and setting my sights on the food scene in New York, I found myself missing Asia – not just the food, but the family-style dining and ease of sharing that is so prevalent over there. It made me think about how I could bring people together more often, with food as the vehicle."

2. How did the idea for Feastive come about?

DS: “The idea for Feastive actually came about during the polar vortex of 2014. We were trapped at home during a crazy snowstorm, and I got hit with an intense craving for sukiyaki. I sat there all day thinking about melt-in-your-mouth tender beef, the sweet-savory broth and just how fun and comforting the entire experience is. I would have paid anything for somebody to bring it to me, but no service like that existed!"

3. What inspired you to start the company?

DS: “While I had been in food writing for a good number of years, I was looking for the right opportunity to expand my knowledge and skillset in the industry. I realized that while there were plenty of meal kits in the delivery space that catered to solving the weeknight dinner conundrum, there was nothing that solely focused on special occasions and fun get-togethers.

For me, cooking during the week isn't a problem as I usually just throw together the contents of my fridge and dig in – there's no one there to judge me if my meal isn't 'gourmet.' It's when I add guests into the mix that things get stressful! In the past when I had a traditional 9 to 5, I'd torment myself over what to cook, where to buy ingredients, and especially when to prep everything.

Feastive is a delicious and fun solution for busy New Yorkers who want to entertain more often. By taking the planning, shopping and prep out of the equation, we make it possible (and enjoyable) to host guests for dinner. All of our menus are created based on principles of interaction, togetherness and experience – we emphasize exotic fare because we want to make dinner parties about shared discovery."

4. What's next for Feastive? How's business now?

DS: We are slowly but steadily getting onto people's radar, and now the challenge is convincing people who have heard about Feastive to try it. People often think a dinner party involves a very large number of people, but our meals are made for a minimum group size of four, which could be as easy to coordinate as a double date.

We have also been steadily unveiling new additions to our menu, including a super-fun DIY Dumpling Kit and our exclusive Raclette Party in a box. In the next few months, we hope to roll out a series of menu experiences that will be perfect for warmer weather and getting people outside.

We are also exploring fun partnerships with other start-ups in order to offer more of a well-rounded experience for our customers (think drinks and dessert)."

5. What is your goal from Feastive?

“I hope that we become the go-to service for fun and creative gatherings in New York City. What we are offering might be a niche product, but we want to own this niche – not just in New York, but in other cities as well where busy people are hungry for new experiences."

6. We have to know: what's your favorite thing to cook for a dinner party?

DS: “The Dumpling Kit has made me obsessed with dumplings lately. I can't seem to make enough of them! I cook a lot of Chinese food when I have friends over too, mostly because a lot of them miss it just as much as I do. There's just something so comforting about a home-cooked Chinese meal. Also, (besides Feastive!) anything Ottolenghi is usually a home run on the dinner party front."

7. What have you learned by becoming a female entrepreneur?

DS: “I have never learned so much so fast. I have learned to appreciate and respect just how backbreaking working in a kitchen is. I have learned that there is an amazing network of fellow female entrepreneurs who just want to help you succeed. And ultimately, I've learned first-hand how difficult it is to start a business, but how rewarding it can be."

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The G-spot Exists Even When Junk Science Tries To Con Women Into Thinking It Doesn’t

Yes, there is a G-spot. Of course there's a G-spot.

There's always been a G-spot.

And while we're on the subject, it's not a spot. It's not a little button or dot. It's an area. While we're on the subject, we really should rename it all together. A man “discovered it." Uh, huh. And he named it after himself. Of course. But I digress. The point is, the G-spot very much exists.

How do I know? Because I've touched my share of them. I've touched them and stimulated them, and the women to whom those G-spots belonged had delicious orgasms from the said touching of them. Ask them. Go ahead. You don't have to believe me because the G-spot is not the Easter Bunny or Santa Claus or even God for that matter. It's not something to “believe in." It's something that exists because it's there and you can touch it.

As the author of two books on women's sexuality, “O Wow: Discovering Your Ultimate Orgasm" and “The Ultimate Guide to Solo Sex," I have talked to hundreds of women; researched and spoken to the experts; and read, read, read everything I could get my hands on. I know the G-spot exists because it exists. That is how you know something exists. You do not however, deny the existence of something because, well, it's self-serving.

And in case you're thinking, “You've written some sex books and slept with some women. You're no doctor." You're right. But Juliana Morris, PhD, LMFT, LPC is. She's a credentialed therapist, academic, and a bona fide (s)expert, with decades of experience “counseling and supporting thousands of individuals and couples on their paths to discover and own their sexual agency."

Her thoughts on the G-Spot? “Yes, it exists. Better stated….every (biologically identified) woman has the potential for pleasure in an area within her vaginal cavity. That is how I describe it. An area of potential. I am confident it exists because of hundreds of interviews and work with women. Women who have experienced pleasure in an area within her 'accidently,' women who have made purposeful efforts to find pleasure in this area as a solo or partnered endeavor using specific techniques to maximize the potential of pleasure for her and hearing both groups describe the difference of pleasure from other orgasmic experiences."

The fact that some folks who have the audacity to call themselves “researchers" when they only had thirteen women in their study – THIRTEEN – decided there is no G-spot because they couldn't find one is idiocy. I have touched more than thirteen of them personally. Just all by myself, no research study – OR DOLLARS – required. Morris adds, “That study is inaccurate and is inherently flawed. In large part because of the belief that it functions like other pleasure organs. Mainly, however, because it is asking the wrong questions and using inadequate parameters to prove or disprove it."

I'll tell you what outranks that study by a zillion – reality. I have touched the G-spots of women I have loved, women I have hooked up with, and even women with whom I have taken Body Dodson's famed masturbation workshop Body Sex. Of course there's a G-spot. Don't be ridiculous.

This is just another chapter in the on-going saga of “men who don't want to learn about women's bodies or have women know about their own bodies so let's just call women frigid or broken or too complicated." We and our bodies are none of those things. Women who don't want to have sex aren't frigid. They are tired of showing up for an activity that feeds male pleasure and leaves them hanging because too many men have no idea how to work the equipment.

Women aren't broken. We don't have penises. We don't want or need penises. We have something WAY better. We have clitorises with 8,000 plus nerve endings and no other job other than to give us pleasure. And, no, our bodies aren't too complicated. All you have to do is ask. Believe me, if you care enough to ask, she'll be happy to tell you what rocks her world.

The thing is, men, who are in charge of the budgets and the research and the media and the message, get nothing for themselves – zero, zilch, nada – from teaching and promoting the truth about women's bodies and sexuality. Not to mention is that all men want to do is measure and quantify. No can do with the G-spot. But that doesn't matter one bit.

Morris explains, “I do believe the reason behind the quest to invalidate the G-spot area is heavily rooted in the misguided notion that a woman's pleasure experience cannot be measured or seen and thusly cannot exist. The antiquated medical and scientific views of research do not apply to the variance and contextual nuisances of womanhood and female pleasure. And that difference-from the male, medical model is threatening and challenging and for some in that world, easily dismissed. Or must be dismissed. Unexplained + variance +can't be seen/measure= bad, crazy, non-existent. And frankly…the scientific and medical world, especially male practitioners in general still exhibit a level of discomfort if not distaste for female pleasure."

On the other hand, straight men gain plenty from creating and feeding the myths. They can keep women feeling less-than and self-conscious and dirty and broken and thinking that they need a man, that they are lucky to even have one since they are so broken. Then men don't have to learn or put in any effort in the bedroom or anywhere else for that matter because they are, all puns intended, cock of the walk. Well, fuck that.

Listen up, ladies. There is nothing wrong with you. Not one damn thing. Your body and your clitoris and your vagina and your very much existing G-spot are all perfect and they are all yours. And while we're on the subject, you have every right to enjoy them on your own, with a partner, with many partners, within a loving relationship, just for fun, whatever.

Masturbate, make love, hook up, you do you. Literally. You don't need a man. You can want one. But you do not – I repeat, do not – in any way need a man for sexual pleasure. The penis is completely and totally unnecessary for female sexual pleasure. COMPLETELY UNNECESSARY. There are mouths and fingers and toys and even vegetables that are actually far better suited for the job.

Too much of this “there's no G-spot" nonsense comes from the fact that most folks don't even know the truth about the clitoris. That tiny little bud on the outside is the tip of the iceberg. The clitoris has long, internal legs. Think inverted wishbone.

Women have just as much – if not more – erectile tissue than men.

Women have just as much – if not more – erectile tissue than men. Women can experience gobs of pleasure when some penis isn't just using the vagina like some sort of masturbation sleeve, banging away until said penis is done. And – side note – when it's done it's done, unlike the mighty clitoris which requires zero recoup time. ZERO. Sure the G-stop is a relative of the clitoris. Regardless of who or what it's related to - it exists. Not every woman goes wild when her G-spot is stimulated. That is true. Not every women can identify her G-spot. That is true. But every woman does have a G-spot. You simply have be enough of a human being to care about women and their bodies and their pleasure to know that. People can tell you about Game of Thrones in minute detail but they don't know the difference between a vagina and a vulva. (The vagina is the internal canal. The vulva is the external bits.)

This is getting so idiotic. We don't need any more studies. We need people to start talking to and LISTENING to women. The very pussy owning humans themselves. Want to know the truth about women's bodies? Pay attention to the ones you are insanely lucky to be intimate with. This is all verifiable info. This is not some Lochness shit here. Come on.

Women need to know their bodies. Human need to know about women's bodies. “I think it is crucial for women to understand, deeply, the implications of our variance in anatomy and pleasure," says Morris. "Our variance needs to be acknowledged, understood, celebrated and validated. Our variance is indeed beautiful. Normal. Expected. No big deal. Some of our variance is rooted in evolutionary brilliance. Some of it is evolutionary irrelevance, and it just is. We all need a roadmap to examine our sexuality and pleasure and medical studies like this just distract us from the REAL research."

"That dream aside, pleasure is our birthright. We have the right to seek, enhance and experience pleasure. On our own terms and in our own way. Validating the existence for the potential for pleasure in this area is one area where women can choose to claim this collectively." -Juliana Morris

If you're a woman, grab a mirror and have a look. Masturbate, please. Insert your own fingers into your own vagina, curve it upwards, and two inches in, toward the front of your body, you will feel a patch of tissue with ridges on it. Play with it and it will expand. That's your G-spot. Insert a toy that vibrates to stimulate it. Insert the classic and most reliable toy on earth for masturbation, the Betty Dodson Barbell, and try out her Rock and Rock Method of masturbation. (You can thank me later.) And once you have done that, you will smack the face of anyone who tells you what body parts you don't have. And if someone argues with you, make a note to never, ever, ever have sex with them. Ever. And to those “researchers," get a real job. Women don't need anyone else telling us that we don't have body parts that we clearly do. We don't need anyone else chipping away at our self-esteem. We don't need any more sex shaming. And thirteen people? Really? Thirteen? Shame on you. You and your practices and your findings are ridiculous.

And to anyone who has the honor of engaging with a woman and her body, be respectful, pay attention, put your own pleasure on the back burner, remember that just because it feels good to you doesn't mean it does a damn thing for her, and for God's sake, listen – listen, listen, listen.

Yes, Virginia, there is a G-spot.