#SWAAYthenarrative

"Too Fat," "Too Short," "Too Pretty": This New Campaign Proves Sexist Stereotypes Won't Stop Us

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#SWAAYthenarrative

It's a new world. Women are no longer relegated to enduring the traumas and upsets they historically had to in order to get ahead. The revelations of the year have marked a new age for women, who no longer feel caged in by their experiences and instead are willing to share, despite the consequences, their difficult stories.Inspired by this movement, and hoping to fuel the fire with some of the amazing female entrepreneurs we've featured, we're launching our first campaign, and it's called #SWAAYthenarrative. Through this initiative, we ask women to open up about the most damaging criticism they've faced throughout their career journeys, sharing how they worked harder to overcome it. The resulting editorial spread is beautiful, emotional, and moving.

“As women, we tend to internalize the harsh words of others, even when they are incorrect, unfair or incorrigibly sexist," says SWAAY Founder, Iman Oubou. “As we are seeing, women are no longer going to stand for being treated differently from our male counterparts-in the business world or anywhere else. #SWAAYthenarrative is our moment to look boldly into the faces of those who have tried to bring us down and let them know that we have thrived in spite of their judgements. Each woman that we feature brings her own story of perseverance and internal strength, both qualities women have enjoyed for millennia."

Through this initiative, we ask women to open up about the most damaging criticism they've faced throughout their career journeys, sharing how they worked harder to overcome it.

#SWAAYthenarrative comes exactly one year after the launch of SWAAY, which occurred after a wholly fortuitous and highly productive meeting last November when Iman sat down with our Managing Editor, Belisa Silva for a New York happy hour. The drink of choice: wine, the topic of conversation: SWAAY - a not-yet-launched digital publication that would elevate and centralize women in business, and make female entrepreneurs the new cover girls.

Between Iman and Belisa, they had years' worth of content ideas for a future site that would seek to expose the untold stories of women of business. Such unsung female heroes had been mostly ignored by bigger publications, who have historically focused on the merits of men in business over their female counterparts.

All it takes is a glance at today's newsstands to see the disparity in how genders are portrayed across magazine covers: men in power suits behind desks, and women frolicking in fields giving fashion advice.

“SWAAYing the narrative means that we get to be the author of our own rules in our lives. It means that we no longer need to allow others to dictate to us what is possible, or appropriate or expected. SWAAYing the narrative means that we are holding the pen when writing the story of our lives and not handing it to someone else. This campaign highlights a series of different women from different backgrounds who are SWAAYing the narrative in their own unique way. This campaign is a celebration of confidence, courage and the power of owning our voices."

-Heather Monahan

For campaigns such as this; bootstrapped by a concept and rooted in real, moving stories, there must be a personal element involved, and this came in 2016 when Iman was raising capital to build the site. Walking into an investor meeting last year while SWAAY was in its Beta phase, the former Miss New York US, who also happens to be a scientist was told directly by the man leering behind his desk that she was “too pretty to be a CEO." The catch for Iman ultimately came down to: do I take this man's money and fund my start-up, pay my employees, and launch the site - or walk away from his $250K dollars and struggle on with investment insomnia? She chose to struggle on.

"As women, we tend to internalize the harsh words of others, even when they are incorrect, unfair or incorrigibly sexist," says SWAAY Founder, Iman Oubou.

She wrote about her experience in an unfiltered Harper's Bazaar op-ed earlier this year and received a flood of support, as well as countless stories from women around the world that told similar tales. While this prospective investor's capital never made its way into the SWAAY coffers, his words served as the most provocative, engaging and enabling to fuel our start-up. “I was told I was too X to be Y" thus became the foundation for our campaign.

Fast forward to a year later, and we've interviewed upwards of 700 women, from CEOs to CFOs, activists, athletes, and philanthropists, who are redefining modern businesses. Fusing their unique vantage points as multidimensional individuals with issues close to their hearts and a relentless determination to make a difference through everything from sexual harassment to gender disparities, female entrepreneurs are on the cutting edge of some of our world's most exciting companies and initiatives. #SWAAYthenarrative cover girl, Heather Monahan, for one, was a corporate juggernaut, before leaving her high roller position to become her own boss. Now, she champions her initiative #bossinheels which aims to destroy the male-oriented vision of what being a “boss" means.

“After getting to know Iman and her mission to empower and aid female entrepreneurs in their work, I felt compelled to be involved in the #STN campaign," says Heather, who was once told "You can't be a strong female without being a bitch." “Being a part of this campaign means that we get to highlight what we have learned along the way and share these insights with others so they can leapfrog the challenges that may be lying in front of them with ease. When one woman shares her unique voice and story there is a domino effect that occurs allowing women to share their story in their circle. The STN movement is creating a larger platform to allow for this momentum to pick up and impact a much larger audience."

Marilyn Goldstein

Iman Oubou

"I was so proud to be in the company of the next feminist generation. Meeting so many smart, accomplished and self-directed young women cheered me more than even a hot stone massage." -Marilyn Goldstein

Laying the groundwork for this movement meant reaching out to women from all corners of business to discover their “I was told I was too…" stories, none of which were easy to hear but all of which proved to us the value of what we were doing. There has never been a better or more appropriate time to own and embrace the modern businesswoman's endeavors.

And so we rounded up women from our network - women we've profiled, bosses pushing the boundaries in their fields, and talked at length about the adversities they've faced in their careers. With misogyny factoring as one of the driving forces for many of their careers, these women each proved testament to a larger issue at play in the workforce: that regardless of the work they're doing, and the display of their capabilities, they still aren't being taken seriously.

Among the women we are launching the campaign with are trailblazers like Evy Poumpouras and Lindsay Coke. Both were judged for their physical prowess and both proved their naysayers wrong by dominating their respective fields. Then there's Marilyn Goldstein; a journalist and activist who had to sue her employer in order to gain the promotion that was kept from her because of her gender. There is also Sydney Magruder, a professional ballerina who was told her short, muscly physique wouldn't meet the stringent requirements for entry into the industry. In short, our debut batch of women are nothing short of exceptional, especially in the face of a challenge.

Over the coming weeks and months we will be publishing the stories from our campaign and accepting stories of women from around the world, of which we will select the most impactful to publish under the STN part of the the site.

For those who've been with us from the start, thank you for making this possible and sharing your incredible stories with us for the last year. And for those new to the site, welcome to SWAAY, a digital world where the future depends on the promise of women.

How to Learn Much More From the Books You Read

It is one thing to read and another thing to understand what you are reading. Not only do you want to understand, but also remember what you've read. Otherwise, we can safely say that if we're not gaining anything from what we read, then it's a big waste of time.

Whatever you read, there are ways to do so in a more effective manner to help you understand better. Whether you are reading by choice, for an upcoming test, or work-related material, here are a few ways to help you improve your reading skills and retain that information.

Read with a Purpose

Never has there been a shortage of great books. So, someone recommended a great cookbook for you. You start going through it, but your mind is wandering. This doesn't mean the cookbook was an awful recommendation, but it does mean it doesn't suit nor fulfill your current needs or curiosity.

Maybe your purpose is more about launching a business. Maybe you're a busy mom and can't keep office hours, but there's something you can do from home to help bring in more money, so you want information about that. At that point, you won't benefit from a cookbook, but you could gain a lot of insight and find details here on how-to books about working from home. During this unprecedented year, millions have had to make the transition to work from home, and millions more are deciding to do that. Either way, it's not a transition that comes automatically or easily, but reading about it will inform you about what working from home entails.

Pre-Read

When you pre-read it primes your brain when it's time to go over the full text. We pre-read by going over the subheadings, for instance, the table of contents, and skimming through some pages. This is especially useful when you have formal types of academic books. Pre-reading is a sort of warm-up exercise for your brain. It prepares your brain for the rest of the information that will come about and allows your brain to be better able to pick the most essential pieces of information you need from your chosen text.

Highlight

Highlighting essential sentences or paragraphs is extremely helpful for retaining information. The problem, however, with highlighting is that we wind up highlighting way too much. This happens because we tend to highlight before we begin to understand. Before your pages become a neon of colored highlights, make sure that you only highlight what is essential to improve your understanding and not highlight the whole page.

Speed Read

You might think there have been no new ways to read, but even the ancient skill of reading comes up with innovative ways; enter speed reading. The standard slow process shouldn't affect your understanding, but it does kill your enthusiasm. The average adult goes through around 200 to 250 words per minute. A college student can read around 450 words, while a professor averages about 650 words per minute, to mention a few examples. The average speed reader can manage 1,500 words; quite a difference! Of course, the argument arises between quality and quantity. For avid readers, they want both quantity and quality, which leads us to the next point.

Quality Reading

Life is too short to expect to gain knowledge from just one type of genre. Some basic outcomes of reading are to expand your mind, perceive situations and events differently, expose yourself to other viewpoints, and more. If you only stick to one author and one type of material, you are missing out on a great opportunity to learn new things.

Having said that, if there's a book you are simply not enjoying, remember that life is also too short to continue reading it. Simply, close it, put it away and maybe give it another go later on, or give it away. There is no shame or guilt in not liking a book; even if it's from a favorite author. It's pretty much clear that you won't gain anything from a book that you don't even enjoy, let alone expect to learn something from it.

Summarize

If you're able to summarize what you have read, then you have understood. When you summarize, you are bringing up all the major points that enhance your understanding. You can easily do so chapter by chapter.

Take a good look at your life and what's going on in it. Accordingly, you'll choose the material that is much more suitable for your situation and circumstances. When you read a piece of information that you find beneficial, look for a way to apply it to your life. Knowledge for the sake of knowledge isn't all that beneficial. But the application of knowledge from a helpful book is what will help you and make your life more interesting and more meaningful.