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Kick Off The New Year With A Morning Routine That Sticks

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The new year is here and it undoubtedly leaves us with lots of looming questions. (What are our goals? What is our plan? How are we going to make our dreams come true?) We know that you are thinking all of these things and that you are ready to make big things happen in 2017, but it has to start somewhere - like with a killer morning routine that truly energizes your day.


Whenever you adopt a morning practice that you love, that fuels you completely, it will stick and become a driving force for all those goals you have tucked away in your favorite planner.

Bring it on 2017!

Focus on what you love.

Truth: the most successful people in history have claimed starting their day with an effective routine has been the key to their successes. Seriously, Benjamin Franklin, Anna Wintour and Steve Jobs all have routines that invigorated them and started with doing things that they loved - because it got them excited to start their day.

Steve Jobs was even quoted saying “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” Ask yourself that. Focus on starting your day doing something that you love, that will make you want to get out of bed and get those creative juices flowing.

But in all seriousness, you will never be excited to start your day if you don’t begin it with doing something that you love. So whether it is spending some time with God, making your favorite green juice, stopping in your nearest Starbucks and morning yoga - make it the first thing and get up and do it.

Track how you’re spending your mornings.

If you feel like you’ve been having unproductive mornings then you need to stop what you’re doing and start taking notes. There’s no better way to swap out the bad habits for good ones than being able to pinpoint exactly where they have gone awry. Are you spending too much time scrolling Instagram? Catching up on the news? Or maybe you need to cut back on your workout routine a bit? Whatever it is that is holding you back from achieving those new year goals needs to be cut and modified.

Start with one change each day to figure out what fits.

Sometimes you just have to play with your morning routine a little until you figure out what works. Perhaps you need to change the order that you are doing things or wake up a little bit earlier to fit in a routine that works before the madness of your day takes over. Either way, it’s super helpful to jot down some ideas of things that you know you want to change and one way you can implement that change each day. You’ll know what works because it will hit you...hard!

Get started the night before.

I can’t stress this anymore. Never go into tomorrow without a plan. Waking up with a to-do list already ready to go will save you time in the morning. Need to get out the door for a big meeting? Have your outfit picked out already. It’s this simple modification that will leave you so refreshed and calm the day of.

Don’t be afraid to break “the rules.”

Once you have set a morning routine that works for you, don’t be afraid to mix things up every once in awhile. Sometimes, you just need that little bit of switching things up in the a.m. to be able to go back to your routine more refreshed than ever.

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Help! My Friend Is a No Show

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Help! My Friend Is a No Show

Dear Armchair Psychologist,

I have a friend who doesn't reply to my messages about meeting for dinner, etc. Although, last week I ran into her at a local restaurant of mine, it has always been awkward to be friends with her. Should I continue our friendship or discontinue it? We've been friends for a total four years and nothing has changed. I don't feel as comfortable with her as my other close friends, and I don't think I'll ever be able to reach that comfort zone in pure friendship.

-Sadsies

Dear Sadsies,

I am sorry to hear you've been neglected by your friend. You may already have the answer to your question, since you're evaluating the non-existing bond between yourself and your friend. However, I'll gladly affirm to you that a friendship that isn't reciprocated is not a good friendship.



I have had a similar situation with a friend whom I'd grown up with but who was also consistently a very negative person, a true Debby Downer. One day, I just had enough of her criticism and vitriol. I stopped making excuses for her and dumped her. It was a great decision and I haven't looked back. With that in mind, it could be possible that something has changed in your friend's life, but it's insignificant if she isn't responding to you. It's time to dump her and spend your energy where it's appreciated. Don't dwell on this friend. History is not enough to create a lasting bond, it only means just that—you and your friend have history—so let her be history!



- The Armchair Psychologist

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