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Is Online Dating a Good Choice for You?

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Dating can be very difficult for some people and this can be for a variety of reasons. Some people are nervous because they have been out of the dating game for so long.


Others do not have the confidence to speak to new people in person. There are also those who have such busy schedules, they simply don't get the time to go out and socialize.

If you are in any of these situations but you are interested in meeting someone with a view to a relationship, online dating could be the ideal solution for you. More and more people have used this method of meeting new people and dating over recent years, and it is something that has gained a lot of popularity as well as a high level of success. In this article, we will look at some of the fantastic benefits that come with online dating.

Why So Many People Choose Online Dating

So, why do so many people choose online dating rather than going out and about to try to meet new people. Well, there are all sorts of reasons why people do this, and with the rise in the number of people using these sites, there has also been an increase in the number of sites available. In fact, you will find sites for all sorts of people these days, from LGBT dating sites and senior dating sites through to interracial dating sites, uniform dating, and more.

One of the many reasons why people decide to use a dating site to meet someone special is because it enables them to hook up with someone likeminded and who wants the same sorts of experiences. Some people are more interested in meeting someone for casual dates and fun, new experiences including fun in the bedroom using products like sex toys, and a bit of fun. Others are more into long-term loving relationships with the chance of marriage. Whatever your aims and goals, you can find the ideal site online.

Another key benefit of using dating sites is that they are ideal if you have a really busy schedule and lifestyle, which leaves you unable to go out and meet new people on a regular basis. If you want to get into the dating game, you won't get very far if you are constantly working and then at home. However, if you use online dating, you don't have to worry about finding the time to go out on the town in order to meet someone. Instead, you can simply meet new people, strike up conversations, and arrange to meet up from the comfort and privacy of your own home. In addition, you can do this at a time that suits you, which means you won't have to compromise on your other commitments in order to meet someone new.

For those that lack confidence or having been out of the dating game for a while, online dating is also an ideal solution. When you go online to meet new people, you have the chance to get to know them from the safety of your keyboard and computer or smart device. This means that you don't have to pluck up the courage to go up to them and you can slowly build your confidence as you get to know them online. If you decide that you are compatible, and you are interested in meeting up, you can even arrange a video call beforehand so you can speak to them in person but on a screen. By the time you actually meet up face to face, you will already feel as though you know them to a degree, so the experience will be nowhere near as daunting or difficult.

The excellent choice of dating sites coupled with the number of people that use each one provides yet another benefits. It means that you are far more likely to meet the partner you are looking for, as you will find many people with the same interests and relationship goals. This means that you can speed up the time it takes for you to meet the right person.

Creating a Solid Profile

One of the things you will need to do if you want to benefit from success on these dating sites is to get up a good online dating profile. This is what will attract other people to you, which is why you need to make sure it is good but also that it is honest. Don't be tempted to lie or put on old photos, as this will all come to light if and when you get together. It is best to be open and honest upfront so people can get to know you and like you for who you are.

There are plenty of tips online to help you create the ideal profile, so this should not prove to be a problem for you. If you have friends or family members you have confided in about joining online dating sites, it is worth getting them to run their eye over your profile before you make it live. Getting some advice from another party can help you to improve your profile and iron our any issues that could affect your success levels when on the site.

Get Your Love Life Back on Track

One thing you can be sure of is that with the right dating site, the right profile, and the right attitude, you can get your love life back on track with far greater ease. You don't have to go to the expense and time of getting dressed up to go out in the hope of meeting someone. You won't have to worry about overcoming your nerves to go and speak to a complete stranger in person. In short, you can get to know people in a relaxed atmosphere (your own home) and at your own pace. This can make all the difference when it comes to meeting the right person for you.

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Does Victoria Have The Secret to Gender Equality in The Workplace?

Victoria's Secret is best known for what it has to offer women. However, a few days ago as I was strolling around the flagship store on Bond Street, I discovered that the store also has a lot to offer men as well. Just not exactly what you'd think.


My experience began like many other shopping excursions, casually browsing for a few practical items. The store was bustling with women who were relaxed but focused on their own purchases. The women in the store all displayed a quiet confidence in knowing what to do and how to do it. My browsing journey took me into another room where I noticed a man behaving quite awkwardly while being guided around by one of the many well-trained twenty-something shop assistants. My first thought was: "Good for him coming in here alone! I imagine it isn't the most comfortable experience for a man." It was clear he felt out of place. His discomfort was obvious by the way he was shuffling around and avoiding eye contact with any women nearby.

This otherwise unremarkable experience sent a spark through my mind. This man was professional and smartly dressed; perhaps he could have worked for one of the many private equity, hedge fund or banking firms in the nearby area. I imagined that he was confident in his own world of work, but in this female haven he was not. He was the only man in the room, and it showed.

This world - that of Victoria's Secret - was not created to make someone like him feel comfortable. In this environment—a store catering to women, filled by women and selling feminine merchandise—the familiar patriarchal dynamics of the world had completely shifted.

This was a world that can transform an otherwise confident professional into an introverted, self-conscious and indecisive man who needed the help of a twenty-something female to make one simple purchase.

I have seen this story play out with the gender roles reversed many times throughout my career in the corporate world. Today, the culture of many companies are built and sustained by men, for men. Traditional male characteristics are still encouraged, rewarded and expected from female professionals, especially if they expect to reach the executive suite. Being the only woman in the room is still an everyday reality for so many women in business; most men do not understand how corrosive this situation can be to a person's confidence.

I have often heard men say that they believe gender inequality is not an issue in their firm. They hire women and now even have some women on their teams. Well, on those terms this man should not have experienced any issue either. There is no sign at the door of Victoria's Secret barring men from entry. Men are allowed to freely enter and buy whatever they choose. No woman in there would tell them to leave or suggest that to get to the front of the queue they must behave in a certain way. So, what was the problem? Why did this man appear so uncomfortable? Why did he suddenly lack the confidence he seemed to have in the outside world?

It's all in the numbers. If that store catered towards the needs of men, or if there were simply more men in the store (either equivalent to or greater than the number of women), then it is likely that man would have felt a greater sense of belonging.

Just because women are allowed into the workplace now, does not mean their experiences are equivalent to those of their male peers. Women, as the minority, simply do not have the same sense of freedom to be their true authentic selves in many corporate environments, even today.

Just like that Victoria's Secret shop assistant guiding the lone man through an ostensibly unwelcoming environment, so, too, do women benefit from the guidance of sponsors, helping them navigate the male dominated corporate world.

Before a man talks about gender parity, perhaps he first needs to take a trip to a lingerie store and experience what it is like to be the only one in the room. Maybe if more men had experiences like this, they may begin to understand what it is to feel so out of place. Maybe they would join us in creating greater gender equality in the workplace.