It's really easy to feel a little bit stuck. We all know the proper ways to act in a business environment – how to network, how to seek out new business and make those crucial connections.
But what if all that is simply not working? Sometimes, you have to get a little creative to get the job done. These female business leaders took matters into their own hands and thought up some brilliant ways to get through the front door. And in each and every case, it worked!
Cassandra Rosen, FK Interactive
“Here's how I made a massive career change-from financial advisor and fighting 'glass ceilings' to owning a luxury brand consulting agency. In the late nineties and early 2000's, I worked as a financial advisor and hedge fund consultant. In financial services, especially the advisory world at the time, the glass ceiling was very much alive and rather unbreakable. Approximately one year after September 11th, I was beyond frustrated with the business, and knew it was time for a change. Design and brand development had been a passion of mine since I was a child, and after taking a short-term college course, I realized I had a talent-one I'd been using for years, without even realizing it. Through a few connections, I found a local consulting agency that was hiring. I had no experience, but they gave me a name of someone in management, and his direct line. The next day, I called him. Of course, as any good employer would do, Dave asked if I had experience. I said no, but I was willing to learn. He responded in a rather cranky tone that they were, “Only looking for people with real experience and talent", that I should go back to school, and then hung up on me.
What normal people would do is probably just that-go back to school, then start looking for internships, and work their way up. Instead, I called him back, leaving a voicemail that 'I had talent, was a fast learner, and either he should hire me, or I'd start my own firm'. Looking back, this probably wasn't the brightest move, but he called me back, and a week later, hired me. (I also learned that the 'tone' was his normal voice-unless he was belting out show tune lyrics around the office) I did go back to school, and eventually started my own firm, but Dave and I stayed friends until he passed. Having the courage to stick my 'foot in the door' back then gave me the opportunity to make a massive career change, to learn from an incredible talent, and eventually to find my own path into something I truly love to do-helping other entrepreneurs succeed at FK Interactive.
Motto founders, Sunny Bonnell and Ashleigh Hansberger
“In 2006, Motto was a year into business and struggling to keep the doors open. Nobody knew us, the phone wasn't ringing, and we had a few hundred bucks left in the bank. We were eating ketchup sandwiches for lunch and dinner and sleeping on the floor of our 14x14 office. That classic struggling-to-survive startup fairy tale? Well, it sucks when it's happening to you. We were weeks away from closing the doors, shutting off the Internet and slinking away in defeat. Conventional wisdom said maybe things would turn around. But luck isn't a business strategy, and we've never been conventional. We knew our only hope was to do rebel against the ordinary and do something unexpected to get clients. We took $50 and purchased a list of businesses from within a 500-mile radius of our office. We then designed a die cut, three-dimensional mailer in the shape of a trashcan. When you pulled the lid, the inner panel said four things, “Trash the Ordinary," a link to our website, phone number, and address. We emptied our bank account, printed as many as we could, and sent them to everyone on that list. It was our last gasp, our Hail Mary pass. Within 24 hours, we had people showing up at our studio with the mailer in hand, wanting to talk about how we could help them build their brands. That moment completely turned our business around."
Eloise Bune, founder and CEO of ScribbleChat
Eloise Bune Of Handwriting.io
Eloise Bune, founder and CEO of ScribbleChat, has always had an appreciation for handwritten notes. It all started after she wrote hundreds of thank you notes following her wedding and realized her passion for personalization. In 2011 Eloise took her passion to the next level and developed a handwriting replication software— Handwriting.io, a patentedAPI that enables customers like 1-800 Flowers, Hallmark and Bloomingdales to incorporate the company's proprietary digital handwriting technology into existing mobile apps, desktop applications and websites. Following the success of Handwriting.io, Eloise launched ScribbleChat in early 2017—a consumer version of Handwriting.io that allows individuals to send “emotions" through text message, instead of plain text responses. The advanced messaging platform allows you to customize "handwritten" text offering emojis and interactive animations to more accurately convey emotions in text discussions.
In March 2017, ScribbleChat partnered with Facebook Messenger and launched their ScribbleChat bot for Messenger. Partnerships have since taken off from there. In our digital driven age, Eloise utilizes the basic concept of human “touch" and customization, in addition to her own innovative and personalized ways to communicate with new business prospects, investors and additionally friends and family which she believes has made her successful today. She believes part of both ScribbleChat and Handwriting.io's successes lie in her continued process of sending hand-written notes to every new business prospect and investor. So far so good!
Nikkia T. McClain, President, Tene Nicole, Marketing and Public Relations
“When I first started my firm, I was having a hard time connecting with editors, freelance writers, bloggers or producers who didn't pay my pitches or clients any attention. I knew it would take time but I also knew I needed to think outside of the box if I wanted to get a foot in the door of getting both my firm and clients notice. I came up with the idea of creating a signature series where I partnered with an event space to deliver a three-part event: A gifting suite, private media dinner and a charitable mix and mingle. The three-part series center around NFL Draft Week (when it was in NYC) and NBA Draft Week. The gifting suite and private media dinner was the hook, as media guest where strategically picked (mainly lifestyle editors) to attend. During the gifting suite, I would make sure my clients had on-site activation.
This opportunity allowed their brands to get coverage from media and photo-ops with players and celebrities. The media dinner was very intimate as it was designed for twenty-five people and was always hosted by either the number one or number two draft pick (a small investment to host), Super Bowl Champions, notable players, one or two celebrities, about five to six media people and of course myself! It was the perfect setting for everyone in the room. The media got to ask questions without fishing for a story, the players and celebrities got publicity and most importantly I got the opportunity to establish a relationship with the media guest I invited, relationships that have blossomed into wonderful friendships over the years. As an entrepreneur in the public relations sector, public relations has shifted from traditional PR (press releases, media alerts, cold calling, pitching) and creating my signature series was what help me get that foot in the door."
Diane Elizabeth, Founder, Skincare Ox
“I was running an education start up at the time (fresh out of Tech Stars, Chicago) and I really wanted to prove myself by getting a meeting with a certain popular VC. I researched him and found out that he had a daughter who was just about to enter her senior year in high school. Well, it just so happens that I fancied myself the Queen of Scholarships because I paid for my entire private education on private scholarships. So, I emailed him and offered to teach his daughter everything that I knew about winning hundreds of thousands of dollars in scholarships and getting into any college that I wanted---in exchange for a meeting of course. What parent could say no to that? No one, that's who. It certainly landed me the meeting!"
Sophie Kahn and Bouchra Ezzahraoui, Co-founders at AUrate New York
“We've more than once offered our jewelry as a way to get in the door, including to men (who then could gift it along). Luckily it's proven highly effective - the power of gold."
“We research the people we want to meet and use that when reaching out to them. If we find they have a favorite coffee shop or fitness class, we'll suggest meeting up there. This helps us in setting some common ground aside from business."
Lauren Farleigh, founder and CEO of the shopping app Dote
“Lauren and Dote were just featured (last week) on an episode of Apple Music's new series Planet of the Apps, where she secure a $5 million investment for her company. I applied for a reality TV show where I rode down an escalator and pitched my company, the shopping app Dote. I also made this embarrassing audition tape. Fortunately, it worked out, because I got Gwyneth Paltrow as my mentor and a $5 million investment from Lightspeed Venture Partners! Our first institutional investor, Michael Dearing, actually said no to us the first time I pitched Dote to him. I asked if he would meet me for breakfast the next day, and he reluctantly agreed at 8am at a diner in Woodside. I then ordered the most aggressive item on the menu (a sausage scramble) and ran him through every single number I had. It worked. So my advice would be, No is not always no."
Meghan Ely, Owner, OFD Consulting, www.ofdconsulting.com
“Several years ago, I was eager to really dive into the national speaking market for my industry. I had been submitting topics up to that point, but never turned any heads. Then, at one of the major conferences, I stepped into the shoes of a cancelled speaker with just 2 hours notice. I recycled the topic from my own presentations and spoke to a sold out room. After that experience, I sent the director of education a small mailer, thanking them for the opportunity. I called it an "emergency kit" in case they ran into the issue again. The highlights included a small bottle of a liquor, and then an elaborate box that stated "for emergency use only" on the outside. Once opened, it contained my new letterpress business card. The strategy went over very well and I'm been selected for the conference for many years since. “
Kristy Rice, Momental Designs
Entrepreneur Kristy Rice started building her art empire 14 years ago. What started with Kristy's personal obsession with paint and paper has evolved into her bespoke, high end stationery business called Momental Designs. Her brand garners global attention from media, celebrities, and some of the world's most creative individuals. Sean Parker (Napster/Facebook), Jessica Simpson, Katy Perry and Alexis Bledel (Gilmore Girls) selected Kristy to create art for their events. Along with a team of eight inspiring women, Kristy continues to innovate in the worlds of styling, stationery, design, and art licensing. She is the author of the best-selling book series Painterly Days, the World's first ever WATERcoloring Books for adults. Her newest 4-part coloring book series Kristy's Cutting Garden officially releases today!
Constantly show your work: Kristy gifted custom fashion sketch notecards to Mindy Weiss, a very well respected wedding planner because Kristy liked Mindy's energy and style. Mindy later recommended Kristy to potential clients, and they eventually worked together on Jessica Simpson's wedding, which led to major media mentions.. Kristy created artful note sets with individually painted brushstrokes to coordinate with a recently attended luxury wedding conference color palette and theme. All magazine editors, who met at the conference, received the painted notecard gifts. As a result, her work has since been featured in every major bridal magazine. Stand out with unique ideas. When developing a book pitch, Kristy knew she needed to stand out from the countless pdf's emailed to publishers every single hour. Her book pitch was hardbound and made to look and feel like a real, quality book. The interior covers were lined with Kristy's artwork, and she made the pages out of luxe stock. Kristy even commissioned a custom calligraphy style for the cover. Kristy had a signed book deal within two weeks of sending her first pitch book! Together Kristy and her publisher have created seven books with an eighth in the planning stages.
In 2016, I finally found my voice. I always thought I had one, especially as a business owner and mother of two vocal toddlers, but I had been wrong.
For more than 30 years, I had been struggling with the fear of being my true self and speaking my truth. Then the repressed memories of my childhood sexual abuse unraveled before me while raising my 3-year-old daughter, and my life has not been the same since.
Believe it or not, I am happy about that.
The journey for a survivor like me to feel even slightly comfortable sharing these words, without fear of being shamed or looked down upon, is a long and often lonely one. For all of the people out there in the shadows who are survivors of childhood sexual abuse, I dedicate this to you. You might never come out to talk about it and that's okay, but I am going to do so here and I hope that in doing so, I will open people's eyes to the long-term effects of abuse. As a survivor who is now fully conscious of her abuse, I suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and, quite frankly, it may never go away.
It took me some time to accept that and I refuse to let it stop me from thriving in life; therefore, I strive to manage it (as do many others with PTSD) through various strategies I've learned and continue to learn through personal and group therapy. Over the years, various things have triggered my repressed memories and emotions of my abuse--from going to birthday parties and attending preschool tours to the Kavanaugh hearing and most recently, the"Leaving Neverland" documentary (I did not watch the latter, but read commentary about it).
These triggers often cause panic attacks. I was angry when I read Barbara Streisand's comments about the men who accused Michael Jackson of sexually abusing them, as detailed in the documentary. She was quoted as saying, "They both married and they both have children, so it didn't kill them." She later apologized for her comments. I was frustrated when one of the senators questioning Dr. Christine Blasey Ford (during the Kavanaugh hearing) responded snidely that Dr. Ford was still able to get her Ph.D. after her alleged assault--as if to imply she must be lying because she gained success in life.We survivors are screaming to the world, "You just don't get it!" So let me explain: It takes a great amount of resilience and fortitude to walk out into society every day knowing that at any moment an image, a sound, a color, a smell, or a child crying could ignite fear in us that brings us back to that moment of abuse, causing a chemical reaction that results in a panic attack.
So yes, despite enduring and repressing those awful moments in my early life during which I didn't understand what was happening to me or why, decades later I did get married; I did become a parent; I did start a business that I continue to run today; and I am still learning to navigate this "new normal." These milestones do not erase the trauma that I experienced. Society needs to open their eyes and realize that any triumph after something as ghastly as childhood abuse should be celebrated, not looked upon as evidence that perhaps the trauma "never happened" or "wasn't that bad. "When a survivor is speaking out about what happened to them, they are asking the world to join them on their journey to heal. We need love, we need to feel safe and we need society to learn the signs of abuse and how to prevent it so that we can protect the 1 out of 10 children who are being abused by the age of 18. When I state this statistic at events or in large groups, I often have at least one person come up to me after and confide that they too are a survivor and have kept it a secret. My vehicle for speaking out was through the novella The Survivors Club, which is the inspiration behind a TV pilot that my co-creator and I are pitching as a supernatural, mind-bending TV series. Acknowledging my abuse has empowered me to speak up on behalf of innocent children who do not have a voice and the adult survivors who are silent.
Remembering has helped me further understand my young adult challenges,past risky relationships, anger issues, buried fears, and my anxieties. I am determined to thrive and not hide behind these negative things as they have molded me into the strong person I am today.Here is my advice to those who wonder how to best support survivors of sexual abuse:Ask how we need support: Many survivors have a tough exterior, which means the people around them assume they never need help--we tend to be the caregivers for our friends and families. Learning to be vulnerable was new for me, so I realized I needed a check-off list of what loved ones should ask me afterI had a panic attack.
The list had questions like: "Do you need a hug," "How are you feeling," "Do you need time alone."Be patient with our PTSD". Family and close ones tend to ask when will the PTSD go away. It isn't a cold or a disease that requires a finite amount of drugs or treatment. There's no pill to make it miraculously disappear, but therapy helps manage it and some therapies have been known to help it go away. Mental Health America has a wealth of information on PTSD that can help you and survivors understand it better. Have compassion: When I was with friends at a preschool tour to learn more about its summer camp, I almost fainted because I couldn't stop worrying about my kids being around new teenagers and staff that might watch them go the bathroom or put on their bathing suit. After the tour, my friends said,"Nubia, you don't have to put your kids in this camp. They will be happy doing other things this summer."
In that moment, I realized how lucky I was to have friends who understood what I was going through and supported me. They showed me love and compassion, which made me feel safe and not judged.