How to Throw an Awesome Halloween Party


With Halloween now nearly upon us, there will be many people thinking about arranging a party to celebrate this macabre yet fun occasion. Going out and buying tickets to a Halloween event can be fun but expensive, which is why many people now decide to arrange their own parties at home. Whether you are hosting a Halloween party for the kids to enjoy or whether it is an adult only event, there are plenty of great ideas that will ensure your party goes with a bang.

From costumes and themes through to apple bobbing and Halloween cocktails, there are many different aspects you have to think about when it comes to arranging a Halloween party. Making sure you plan well ahead will enable you to plan something really spectacular and ensure you get the invites out in time for your special event.

Tips to help you plan your event

There are various tips that can help with the planning of your Halloween party. First off, you need to determine whether it will be a party for all ages or an evening event for adults looking to have some fun on Halloween night. Deciding on ages will enable you to more effectively organize your entertainment, as you will want simple games and treats for a kids' party while for an adult party the music, theme, and other aspects of the party will be quite different.

You should also make sure you send out proper invitations, and send them in plenty of time so your guests don't end up agreeing to go elsewhere in the meantime. You should also start writing lists of the items you will need for your party from the decorations through to the alcohol and soft drinks, food, and anything else you need to purchase for the event. You might want to look at buying new decorations such as spooky fairy lights, fake cobwebs, and spooky mannequins to place strategically around your home. You could even get online and look at making some spooky homemade decorations for your event. If it is a kids' party, get them involved in making decorations and let them reveal their creative side.

When your guests arrive for the party on the big day, make sure the atmosphere is right. Have some spooky Halloween songs playing – you can create a playlist with ease in advance so you have the music sorted. Make sure everyone comes in fancy dress, of course, as this will add to the overall ambiance and setting. In addition, greet each of your guests with an alcoholic or virgin cocktail depending on their age and preferences. However, take some time to go online and look up cocktails that can be made to really look the part with smoke coming out and decorated with Halloween accessories.

With some forward planning, the right food and drink, and great entertainment, you can ensure your Halloween party goes with a real bang and that it is remembered for all the right reasons. You can delight everyone that attends your function by making sure you have everything sorted out well in advance and that you have paid attention to the finer details such as the décor.

What to consider when you are planning a Halloween party

When you are planning your Halloween party, there are a number of different things you need to take into consideration. The first thing you should do is go through your budget to determine how much you can afford to spend on the bash, as this will directly impact the other steps you have to take. Remember, you should never spend more than you can afford to otherwise you could end up paying the price over the course of the year because of debt you have built up for a one night event.

So, be sensible with your budget and work out how much you can realistically afford in total for everything including your fancy dress outfit if applicable.

Once you know how much you can afford to spend, you can start making lists of things you need to buy. First off, think about the number of people you will be inviting, as this will also impact on the amount you spend in other areas.

You can purchase invitations online or if you are creative you could even make your own and print them out. If you do buy then, you won't have to spend a lot, so it won't make too much of an impact on your budget.

You then need to think about the food you will be serving up at the event, as this could cost a fair bit depending on how many you are inviting. With this in mind, you should try to keep the food simple so it saves you both time and money in terms of purchase and preparation. In addition, if the party is for kids, they will be far better off with a finger buffet, which will make things simpler and cheaper for you. Make a list of the different food items you will be serving up at your party so you know exactly what you need to purchase and how much of it you will need.

Another thing you will need to consider is what drinks you will be serving up and, again, this will depend on the number and ages of those you are inviting. If you are having a family event, make sure you get a good mix of both soft drinks and alcohol for the adults. Some adults will also be on soft drinks due to driving or being teetotal, so factor this into the equation when working out how much of each drink to buy.

If you are going to be making cocktails, look up recipes online beforehand so you know what you will need to purchase to make them. You can then write a comprehensive list of all drinks you need for your party.

So, be sensible with your budget and work out how much you can realistically afford in total for everything including your fancy dress outfit if applicable.

Once you know how much you can afford to spend, you can start making lists of things you need to buy. First off, think about the number of people you will be inviting, as this will also impact on the amount you spend in other areas.

You can purchase invitations online or if you are creative you could even make your own and print them out. If you do buy then, you won't have to spend a lot, so it won't make too much of an impact on your budget.

One more thing you need to consider is the decorations for your Halloween party, which can make all the difference when it comes to atmosphere and the success of the event. You don't have to spend a fortune on decorations, as there are plenty of low cost ones available to purchase online. If you are having a party for kids, you could even get them involved in creating homemade decorations, which will be fun for them and cheaper for you. Make sure you consider decorating the outside of your home and the garden as well as the interior. This means that your guests will be able to enjoy the décor as they arrive and even if they spend time in your garden.

Finally, you should think about the entertainment you will be offering at your event, as this is part and parcel of a great Halloween bash. Again, this is something that will depend on the ages and numbers of guests you are inviting. If you will be hosting a kids' party, games such as apple bobbing are very popular.

For an adults party, there are plenty of games that are ideal for older people – some even decide to do things such as hold a séance! If you prefer, you can keep things very simple and just play music for entertainment but make sure you download a suitable playlist.

With all of these factors in place, you can arrange a party that goes with a bang and impresses all who attend.

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What Sexual Abuse Survivors Want You to Know

In 2016, I finally found my voice. I always thought I had one, especially as a business owner and mother of two vocal toddlers, but I had been wrong.

For more than 30 years, I had been struggling with the fear of being my true self and speaking my truth. Then the repressed memories of my childhood sexual abuse unraveled before me while raising my 3-year-old daughter, and my life has not been the same since.

Believe it or not, I am happy about that.

The journey for a survivor like me to feel even slightly comfortable sharing these words, without fear of being shamed or looked down upon, is a long and often lonely one. For all of the people out there in the shadows who are survivors of childhood sexual abuse, I dedicate this to you. You might never come out to talk about it and that's okay, but I am going to do so here and I hope that in doing so, I will open people's eyes to the long-term effects of abuse. As a survivor who is now fully conscious of her abuse, I suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and, quite frankly, it may never go away.

It took me some time to accept that and I refuse to let it stop me from thriving in life; therefore, I strive to manage it (as do many others with PTSD) through various strategies I've learned and continue to learn through personal and group therapy. Over the years, various things have triggered my repressed memories and emotions of my abuse--from going to birthday parties and attending preschool tours to the Kavanaugh hearing and most recently, the"Leaving Neverland" documentary (I did not watch the latter, but read commentary about it).

These triggers often cause panic attacks. I was angry when I read Barbara Streisand's comments about the men who accused Michael Jackson of sexually abusing them, as detailed in the documentary. She was quoted as saying, "They both married and they both have children, so it didn't kill them." She later apologized for her comments. I was frustrated when one of the senators questioning Dr. Christine Blasey Ford (during the Kavanaugh hearing) responded snidely that Dr. Ford was still able to get her Ph.D. after her alleged assault--as if to imply she must be lying because she gained success in life.We survivors are screaming to the world, "You just don't get it!" So let me explain: It takes a great amount of resilience and fortitude to walk out into society every day knowing that at any moment an image, a sound, a color, a smell, or a child crying could ignite fear in us that brings us back to that moment of abuse, causing a chemical reaction that results in a panic attack.

So yes, despite enduring and repressing those awful moments in my early life during which I didn't understand what was happening to me or why, decades later I did get married; I did become a parent; I did start a business that I continue to run today; and I am still learning to navigate this "new normal." These milestones do not erase the trauma that I experienced. Society needs to open their eyes and realize that any triumph after something as ghastly as childhood abuse should be celebrated, not looked upon as evidence that perhaps the trauma "never happened" or "wasn't that bad. "When a survivor is speaking out about what happened to them, they are asking the world to join them on their journey to heal. We need love, we need to feel safe and we need society to learn the signs of abuse and how to prevent it so that we can protect the 1 out of 10 children who are being abused by the age of 18. When I state this statistic at events or in large groups, I often have at least one person come up to me after and confide that they too are a survivor and have kept it a secret. My vehicle for speaking out was through the novella The Survivors Club, which is the inspiration behind a TV pilot that my co-creator and I are pitching as a supernatural, mind-bending TV series. Acknowledging my abuse has empowered me to speak up on behalf of innocent children who do not have a voice and the adult survivors who are silent.

Remembering has helped me further understand my young adult challenges,past risky relationships, anger issues, buried fears, and my anxieties. I am determined to thrive and not hide behind these negative things as they have molded me into the strong person I am today.Here is my advice to those who wonder how to best support survivors of sexual abuse:Ask how we need support: Many survivors have a tough exterior, which means the people around them assume they never need help--we tend to be the caregivers for our friends and families. Learning to be vulnerable was new for me, so I realized I needed a check-off list of what loved ones should ask me afterI had a panic attack.

The list had questions like: "Do you need a hug," "How are you feeling," "Do you need time alone."Be patient with our PTSD". Family and close ones tend to ask when will the PTSD go away. It isn't a cold or a disease that requires a finite amount of drugs or treatment. There's no pill to make it miraculously disappear, but therapy helps manage it and some therapies have been known to help it go away. Mental Health America has a wealth of information on PTSD that can help you and survivors understand it better. Have compassion: When I was with friends at a preschool tour to learn more about its summer camp, I almost fainted because I couldn't stop worrying about my kids being around new teenagers and staff that might watch them go the bathroom or put on their bathing suit. After the tour, my friends said,"Nubia, you don't have to put your kids in this camp. They will be happy doing other things this summer."

In that moment, I realized how lucky I was to have friends who understood what I was going through and supported me. They showed me love and compassion, which made me feel safe and not judged.