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How to Relax when You Have Some Time Off

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These days, many people lead such busy lives that they barely get time to breathe never mind take time out for themselves. A lot of people have to juggle work, family commitment, financial issues, social lives, and more, which means that they are on the go pretty much all the time. It is little wonder, therefore, that so many of us want to find simple ways to relax when we finally do get a little time to ourselves.


Today's fast pace of life can lead to high stress levels, which in turn can lead to a lot of health problems as well as reducing quality of life. This is why it is important to ensure you take time out for yourself from time to time, and that you find ways to pamper yourself a little and enjoy some well-earned relaxation. In this article, we will explore some of the simple and convenient methods you can use in order to relax when you get spare time.

Some Solutions to Help You De-Stress

The good news is that there are various solutions you can try in order to help you to de-stress and unwind during those rare few hours you have to yourself. One of the things you can do is treat yourself to a wonderful spa day where you can indulge in a range of treatments and use the various facilities. If you go to a high end day spa, you can look forward to an incredibly relaxing day where you can enjoy being pampered and really unwind. If you rarely get time to yourself and you feel constantly stressed, this is definitely something that is worth looking into.

Another option for those on a tighter budget is to enjoy a pamper day at home. You can relax with a face treatment and hair conditioning treatment that you apply yourself, sink into a bath full of aromatherapy bubbles coupled with some scented candles and soft music. You can then simply lie back, close your eyes, and relax as you let your treatments get to work and let the stress ooze out of you. Once you have finished your bath and rinsed away the treatments, apply some rich skin moisturizer all over to nourish your skin and then give yourself a manicure and pedicure. If your partner is on hand, you could even get them to massage your back with some essential oils to make you feel really relaxed.

If you like to get out and about and you love nature, another way in which you can relax when you have a little time to yourself is taking a long walk in a naturally beautiful area. If there is nowhere within walking distance, you can always drive or cycle to the nearest park or beach, where you can stroll along and take in the natural beauty, take a seat and people watch, and enjoy the health benefits of being out in the fresh air. These are just some of the simple ideas you can look at if you want to enjoy some relaxation.

Enjoy Some Time Away

If you have a little extended time off work, it is well worth booking a trip away in order to unwind and relax. They say that a change of scenery can be great for beating stress and recharging the batteries, so this is definitely something worth doing if you want to really de-stress. You can get some great deals on short breaks and weekends, so it needn't cost you a huge amount.

One of the trips you could look at taking in order to relax and de-stress is a camping trip. You can go with friends, your partner, or other family members and enjoy getting out in the great outdoors and taking in plenty of fresh air. Being out in the fresh air has been proven to help with mental health and stress relief, so this is the ideal type of break to take. You can look forward to a range of exciting activities and new adventures, the chances to get some exercise and fresh air, and the ability to do things you don't normally do.

If you don't fancy camping for a change of scenery, there are other options you can look at. A beach break is the perfect way to relax and enjoy some time out if you feel stressed and have a few days off. You can enjoy sunshine and relaxation, book a nice hotel for a few days, and enjoy being pampered and look after. You can spend your days relaxing on the beach and taking in the gorgeous scenery or laying around by the pool at your hotel sipping a cocktail.

Another option is to book at cabin or cottage by the lakes, where you can take in the peace and tranquility as you unwind and relax. You can get some excellent deals on cabins and being away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life and work can really help with your stress levels. You can look forward to eating al fresco while you take in the stunning scenery, getting close to nature, perhaps even wildlife watching while you are there.

These are just a few of the options you can consider if you want to enjoy getting away from it all for a few days.

Taking Steps to Get the Relaxation You Deserve

One key thing to remember is that no matter which of the above options you try in order to relax, it is important that you take time out to chill out from time to time. When you work all day, have family to look after, and have to deal with the stresses of day to day life, it can really take its toll on your health. However, taking steps and finding time to relax and unwind can help to counteract the effects of everyday stress. All you need to do is decide on the best relaxation methods for you.

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The G-spot Exists Even When Junk Science Tries To Con Women Into Thinking It Doesn’t

Yes, there is a G-spot. Of course there's a G-spot.


There's always been a G-spot.

And while we're on the subject, it's not a spot. It's not a little button or dot. It's an area. While we're on the subject, we really should rename it all together. A man “discovered it." Uh, huh. And he named it after himself. Of course. But I digress. The point is, the G-spot very much exists.

How do I know? Because I've touched my share of them. I've touched them and stimulated them, and the women to whom those G-spots belonged had delicious orgasms from the said touching of them. Ask them. Go ahead. You don't have to believe me because the G-spot is not the Easter Bunny or Santa Claus or even God for that matter. It's not something to “believe in." It's something that exists because it's there and you can touch it.

As the author of two books on women's sexuality, “O Wow: Discovering Your Ultimate Orgasm" and “The Ultimate Guide to Solo Sex," I have talked to hundreds of women; researched and spoken to the experts; and read, read, read everything I could get my hands on. I know the G-spot exists because it exists. That is how you know something exists. You do not however, deny the existence of something because, well, it's self-serving.

And in case you're thinking, “You've written some sex books and slept with some women. You're no doctor." You're right. But Juliana Morris, PhD, LMFT, LPC is. She's a credentialed therapist, academic, and a bona fide (s)expert, with decades of experience “counseling and supporting thousands of individuals and couples on their paths to discover and own their sexual agency."

Her thoughts on the G-Spot? “Yes, it exists. Better stated….every (biologically identified) woman has the potential for pleasure in an area within her vaginal cavity. That is how I describe it. An area of potential. I am confident it exists because of hundreds of interviews and work with women. Women who have experienced pleasure in an area within her 'accidently,' women who have made purposeful efforts to find pleasure in this area as a solo or partnered endeavor using specific techniques to maximize the potential of pleasure for her and hearing both groups describe the difference of pleasure from other orgasmic experiences."

The fact that some folks who have the audacity to call themselves “researchers" when they only had thirteen women in their study – THIRTEEN – decided there is no G-spot because they couldn't find one is idiocy. I have touched more than thirteen of them personally. Just all by myself, no research study – OR DOLLARS – required. Morris adds, “That study is inaccurate and is inherently flawed. In large part because of the belief that it functions like other pleasure organs. Mainly, however, because it is asking the wrong questions and using inadequate parameters to prove or disprove it."

I'll tell you what outranks that study by a zillion – reality. I have touched the G-spots of women I have loved, women I have hooked up with, and even women with whom I have taken Body Dodson's famed masturbation workshop Body Sex. Of course there's a G-spot. Don't be ridiculous.

This is just another chapter in the on-going saga of “men who don't want to learn about women's bodies or have women know about their own bodies so let's just call women frigid or broken or too complicated." We and our bodies are none of those things. Women who don't want to have sex aren't frigid. They are tired of showing up for an activity that feeds male pleasure and leaves them hanging because too many men have no idea how to work the equipment.

Women aren't broken. We don't have penises. We don't want or need penises. We have something WAY better. We have clitorises with 8,000 plus nerve endings and no other job other than to give us pleasure. And, no, our bodies aren't too complicated. All you have to do is ask. Believe me, if you care enough to ask, she'll be happy to tell you what rocks her world.

The thing is, men, who are in charge of the budgets and the research and the media and the message, get nothing for themselves – zero, zilch, nada – from teaching and promoting the truth about women's bodies and sexuality. Not to mention is that all men want to do is measure and quantify. No can do with the G-spot. But that doesn't matter one bit.

Morris explains, “I do believe the reason behind the quest to invalidate the G-spot area is heavily rooted in the misguided notion that a woman's pleasure experience cannot be measured or seen and thusly cannot exist. The antiquated medical and scientific views of research do not apply to the variance and contextual nuisances of womanhood and female pleasure. And that difference-from the male, medical model is threatening and challenging and for some in that world, easily dismissed. Or must be dismissed. Unexplained + variance +can't be seen/measure= bad, crazy, non-existent. And frankly…the scientific and medical world, especially male practitioners in general still exhibit a level of discomfort if not distaste for female pleasure."

On the other hand, straight men gain plenty from creating and feeding the myths. They can keep women feeling less-than and self-conscious and dirty and broken and thinking that they need a man, that they are lucky to even have one since they are so broken. Then men don't have to learn or put in any effort in the bedroom or anywhere else for that matter because they are, all puns intended, cock of the walk. Well, fuck that.

Listen up, ladies. There is nothing wrong with you. Not one damn thing. Your body and your clitoris and your vagina and your very much existing G-spot are all perfect and they are all yours. And while we're on the subject, you have every right to enjoy them on your own, with a partner, with many partners, within a loving relationship, just for fun, whatever.

Masturbate, make love, hook up, you do you. Literally. You don't need a man. You can want one. But you do not – I repeat, do not – in any way need a man for sexual pleasure. The penis is completely and totally unnecessary for female sexual pleasure. COMPLETELY UNNECESSARY. There are mouths and fingers and toys and even vegetables that are actually far better suited for the job.

Too much of this “there's no G-spot" nonsense comes from the fact that most folks don't even know the truth about the clitoris. That tiny little bud on the outside is the tip of the iceberg. The clitoris has long, internal legs. Think inverted wishbone.

Women have just as much – if not more – erectile tissue than men.

Women have just as much – if not more – erectile tissue than men. Women can experience gobs of pleasure when some penis isn't just using the vagina like some sort of masturbation sleeve, banging away until said penis is done. And – side note – when it's done it's done, unlike the mighty clitoris which requires zero recoup time. ZERO. Sure the G-stop is a relative of the clitoris. Regardless of who or what it's related to - it exists. Not every woman goes wild when her G-spot is stimulated. That is true. Not every women can identify her G-spot. That is true. But every woman does have a G-spot. You simply have be enough of a human being to care about women and their bodies and their pleasure to know that. People can tell you about Game of Thrones in minute detail but they don't know the difference between a vagina and a vulva. (The vagina is the internal canal. The vulva is the external bits.)

This is getting so idiotic. We don't need any more studies. We need people to start talking to and LISTENING to women. The very pussy owning humans themselves. Want to know the truth about women's bodies? Pay attention to the ones you are insanely lucky to be intimate with. This is all verifiable info. This is not some Lochness shit here. Come on.

Women need to know their bodies. Human need to know about women's bodies. “I think it is crucial for women to understand, deeply, the implications of our variance in anatomy and pleasure," says Morris. "Our variance needs to be acknowledged, understood, celebrated and validated. Our variance is indeed beautiful. Normal. Expected. No big deal. Some of our variance is rooted in evolutionary brilliance. Some of it is evolutionary irrelevance, and it just is. We all need a roadmap to examine our sexuality and pleasure and medical studies like this just distract us from the REAL research."

"That dream aside, pleasure is our birthright. We have the right to seek, enhance and experience pleasure. On our own terms and in our own way. Validating the existence for the potential for pleasure in this area is one area where women can choose to claim this collectively." -Juliana Morris

If you're a woman, grab a mirror and have a look. Masturbate, please. Insert your own fingers into your own vagina, curve it upwards, and two inches in, toward the front of your body, you will feel a patch of tissue with ridges on it. Play with it and it will expand. That's your G-spot. Insert a toy that vibrates to stimulate it. Insert the classic and most reliable toy on earth for masturbation, the Betty Dodson Barbell, and try out her Rock and Rock Method of masturbation. (You can thank me later.) And once you have done that, you will smack the face of anyone who tells you what body parts you don't have. And if someone argues with you, make a note to never, ever, ever have sex with them. Ever. And to those “researchers," get a real job. Women don't need anyone else telling us that we don't have body parts that we clearly do. We don't need anyone else chipping away at our self-esteem. We don't need any more sex shaming. And thirteen people? Really? Thirteen? Shame on you. You and your practices and your findings are ridiculous.

And to anyone who has the honor of engaging with a woman and her body, be respectful, pay attention, put your own pleasure on the back burner, remember that just because it feels good to you doesn't mean it does a damn thing for her, and for God's sake, listen – listen, listen, listen.

Yes, Virginia, there is a G-spot.