These days, many people lead such busy lives that they barely get time to breathe never mind take time out for themselves. A lot of people have to juggle work, family commitment, financial issues, social lives, and more, which means that they are on the go pretty much all the time. It is little wonder, therefore, that so many of us want to find simple ways to relax when we finally do get a little time to ourselves.
Today's fast pace of life can lead to high stress levels, which in turn can lead to a lot of health problems as well as reducing quality of life. This is why it is important to ensure you take time out for yourself from time to time, and that you find ways to pamper yourself a little and enjoy some well-earned relaxation. In this article, we will explore some of the simple and convenient methods you can use in order to relax when you get spare time.
Some Solutions to Help You De-Stress
The good news is that there are various solutions you can try in order to help you to de-stress and unwind during those rare few hours you have to yourself. One of the things you can do is treat yourself to a wonderful spa day where you can indulge in a range of treatments and use the various facilities. If you go to a high end day spa, you can look forward to an incredibly relaxing day where you can enjoy being pampered and really unwind. If you rarely get time to yourself and you feel constantly stressed, this is definitely something that is worth looking into.
Another option for those on a tighter budget is to enjoy a pamper day at home. You can relax with a face treatment and hair conditioning treatment that you apply yourself, sink into a bath full of aromatherapy bubbles coupled with some scented candles and soft music. You can then simply lie back, close your eyes, and relax as you let your treatments get to work and let the stress ooze out of you. Once you have finished your bath and rinsed away the treatments, apply some rich skin moisturizer all over to nourish your skin and then give yourself a manicure and pedicure. If your partner is on hand, you could even get them to massage your back with some essential oils to make you feel really relaxed.
If you like to get out and about and you love nature, another way in which you can relax when you have a little time to yourself is taking a long walk in a naturally beautiful area. If there is nowhere within walking distance, you can always drive or cycle to the nearest park or beach, where you can stroll along and take in the natural beauty, take a seat and people watch, and enjoy the health benefits of being out in the fresh air. These are just some of the simple ideas you can look at if you want to enjoy some relaxation.
Enjoy Some Time Away
If you have a little extended time off work, it is well worth booking a trip away in order to unwind and relax. They say that a change of scenery can be great for beating stress and recharging the batteries, so this is definitely something worth doing if you want to really de-stress. You can get some great deals on short breaks and weekends, so it needn't cost you a huge amount.
One of the trips you could look at taking in order to relax and de-stress is a camping trip. You can go with friends, your partner, or other family members and enjoy getting out in the great outdoors and taking in plenty of fresh air. Being out in the fresh air has been proven to help with mental health and stress relief, so this is the ideal type of break to take. You can look forward to a range of exciting activities and new adventures, the chances to get some exercise and fresh air, and the ability to do things you don't normally do.
If you don't fancy camping for a change of scenery, there are other options you can look at. A beach break is the perfect way to relax and enjoy some time out if you feel stressed and have a few days off. You can enjoy sunshine and relaxation, book a nice hotel for a few days, and enjoy being pampered and look after. You can spend your days relaxing on the beach and taking in the gorgeous scenery or laying around by the pool at your hotel sipping a cocktail.
Another option is to book at cabin or cottage by the lakes, where you can take in the peace and tranquility as you unwind and relax. You can get some excellent deals on cabins and being away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life and work can really help with your stress levels. You can look forward to eating al fresco while you take in the stunning scenery, getting close to nature, perhaps even wildlife watching while you are there.
These are just a few of the options you can consider if you want to enjoy getting away from it all for a few days.
Taking Steps to Get the Relaxation You Deserve
One key thing to remember is that no matter which of the above options you try in order to relax, it is important that you take time out to chill out from time to time. When you work all day, have family to look after, and have to deal with the stresses of day to day life, it can really take its toll on your health. However, taking steps and finding time to relax and unwind can help to counteract the effects of everyday stress. All you need to do is decide on the best relaxation methods for you.
Sometimes the person you have to stand up to is you! There I was, rewatching the Miss Universe 2019 competition. Which I do for inspiration from time to time. (No, seriously!) There is something about seeing women on stage, in full-on glam mode, and speaking with confident assuredness that really lights my fire!
I have seen this Zozibini Tunzi of South Africa win this crown so many times before, but something about this particular viewing, her delivery or her words, touched something inside me a little differently. At that moment, I truly believed, with complete conviction, that she lives what she speaks.
The announcement was made, the audience cheered, and the crown was awarded. The light was dazzling,, she looked stunning, almost blessed. The judges made the right call with 2019's queen.
Reflecting On Myself
Suddenly, the YouTube video ended. And I was left looking at a black screen. In the darkness of that screen, I saw my reflection and I began assessing what I saw, asking myself, "What have I been doing with my life?" It may seem like an overly dramatic question, but at that moment, I had to ask myself seriously… What have you done? The fact that I couldn't come up with a solid, confident answer gave my inner-cynic license to quickly spiral into self-criticism.
This went on for quite some time, until I got up. I stood up and walked to my mirror to have some serious one-on-one "Queen Talk." I needed to get out of that self-critical mindset, and I know that physical movement is something that help disrupt a way of thinking. I needed to remind myself of who I really was. The negative feelings I was experiencing at that moment were not reality.
Here are a few reminders for whenever you need some Queen Talk!
1.) Comparison is truly the thief of joy.
This saying feels like a cliché. That is, until it's applicable to you. At that moment, this "cliché, becomes self-evident. Comparing myself to someone on a stage with years of experience in an area I know nothing about is not only unfair but straight-up mean. A part of my comparison comes from me wondering, "Would I have the ability, if put in that position, to perform at such a level?" The answer is totally and without question, yes. I excel in the field I work in now, and I know that if I put that same energy towards something else, with practice, I could do just as well. No joy can come from comparing yourself to someone in a completely different field!
2.) Never forget the blessings that have been bestowed upon you.
Every single day, I am blessed to have the opportunity to wake up with all ten fingers and toes and choose to create the kind of life I want to live. There is so much power in that alone, but sometimes it's easy to take it for granted. Let us not forget those who are unable to make that same decision every day of their lives.
3.) Appreciate how far you have come!
I've been very intentional for some time to be kinder and gentler to myself. I need to realize that I am human. Being human means that I will not know everything, and I will continue to make mistakes.But I must let go of the need to always be right. I feel empowered when I can see the growth that I've made, regardless of the mistakes that may come in the future. I don't react to every little thing that bothers me, because I have learned boundaries when it comes to dealing with others and myself. I truly value my time and my energy, and, for that, I am proud.
4.) You Can Be Who You Want To Be
If you can see it in your mind, you can achieve it in reality. I saw myself when I looked at the women on stage, when she smiled, the way she talked, her elegant walk. For a moment, in my self-criticism spiral, I forgot that we are all connected. Debasish Mridha has said "I may not know you, but I don't see any difference between you and me. I see myself in you; we are one." I will not sit in the mentality of lack, there is more than enough opportunity and good fortune to go around for everyone. Her win was not a loss for me, but it can be a nudge from the universe for me to go ahead and dream big!
This Queen Talk was not easy. There may have been some tissues and tears involved but giving myself an honest yet compassionate talk is sometimes what I need to bring myself out of some bad head space. In these moments of doubt, you truly need to be your own best friend.When times get rough, criticism won't always come from outside sources. How you speak about yourself internally is crucial to how you see and feel about yourself. As Beyoncé once sang, "I've got Me, Myself, and I." We must put forth every effort to be there for ourselves. I look forward to more Queen Talks when some negative emotions arise. I am grateful for the person I am today, but I am excited to see the women I become.