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How to Go On a Luxury Getaway With Friends

Are you bored of staying in hostels and flying economy when you travel abroad with friends? Going on holiday is the perfect time to add a little bit of luxury to your life, and this is no different when you are travelling with friends than if you were travelling with family or a partner. Read this guide to find out how you can add luxury to large group holidays, and you will be jetting off to your dream holiday in no time!


Rent a Villa

Rather than opt for traveller's hostels or budget hotels, which are popular options for groups of friends, exchange these for a private villa in your ideal destination. Villas are perfect for large groups of friends as they are spacious enough to allow everyone to have privacy and space to breathe while ensuring that you can all stay together. Not only this, but villas are a high-end accommodation option for groups, with the opportunity to stay in a secluded and tranquil location outside of bustling resorts and use luxury facilities such as private swimming pools which come included. James Villas Holidays provide a selection of luxury villas for large groups such as villas in Puerto del Carmen, Lanzarote, giving you the opportunity to enjoy some of the most sought-after destinations for groups of friends with a luxury twist.

Choose a Picturesque Destination

The location of your trip is important to any luxury destination, however, and it can be difficult to come to a group agreement on your perfect location. For instance, destinations such as the Canary and Balearic Islands are popular with large groups of friends and are known for their vibrant nightlife and relaxing beachside destinations. However, for those in your friendship group that are not interested in these popular pastimes, these destinations also have other amazing things to do, including trips to Timanfaya National Park, snorkelling and dolphin trips, and even luxury attractions like boat trips around the astonishing coastline.

Hire a Private Guide

If you don't know your way around, you can heighten the luxury of your trip by hiring a local to help you to see the best that the country has to offer. These guides will show you around the local area and find you the best places to perform all the activities that you have dreamed of, whether that is finding the best destinations shopping destinations or finding the most glam beachside bar.

Book Business Class

Although you may have thought that booking business class flights were only an option if you won the lottery, it is possible to upgrade your group's flights by being flexible with when you leave, booking far in advance or finding last-minute deals, and by booking with budget carriers whose business class options are already generally cheaper. Business-class travel can give you more legroom, better meals, and even more space to allow you to sleep during the flight, which can be especially important if you are travelling long distances.
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Tempted To Dial Your Ex: 5 Ways To Know Whether Or Not You Should Contact An Old Flame

Thinking of ringing up your ex during these uncertain times? Maybe you want an excuse to contact your ex, or maybe you genuinely feel the need to connect with someone on an emotional level. As a matchmaker and relationship expert, I was surprised at the start of the coronavirus quarantine when friends were telling me that they were contacting their exes! But as social distancing has grown to be more than a short-term situation, we must avoid seeking short-term solutions—and resist the urge to dial an ex.

It stands to reason that you would contact an ex for support. After all, who knows you and your fears better than an ex? This all translates into someone who you think can provide comfort and support. As a matchmaker, I already know that people can spark and ignite relationships virtually that can lead to offline love, but lonely singles didn't necessarily believe this or understand this initially, which drives them straight back to a familiar ex. You only need to tune into Love Is Blind to test this theory or look to Dina Lohan and her virtual boyfriend.

At the start of lockdown, singles were already feeling lonely. There were studies that said as much as 3 out of 4 people were lonely, and that was before lockdown. Singles were worried that dating someone was going to be off limits for a very long time. Now when you factor in a widespread pandemic and the psychological impact that hits when you have to be in isolation and can't see anyone but your takeout delivery person, we end up understanding this urge to contact an ex.

So, what should you do if you are tempted to ring up an old flame? How do you know if it's the wrong thing or the right thing to do in a time like this? Check out a few of my points before deciding on picking up that phone to text, much less call an ex.

Before You Dial The Ex...

First, you need to phone a friend! It's the person that got you through this breakup to begin with. Let them remind you of the good, the bad and the ugly before taking this first step and risk getting sucked back in.

What was the reason for your breakup? As I mentioned before, you could get sucked back in… but that might not be a bad thing. It depends; when you phoned that friend to remind you, did she remind you of good or bad things during the breakup? It's possible that you both just had to take jobs in different cities, and the breakup wasn't due to a problem in the relationship. Have these problems resolved if there were issues?

You want to come from a good place of reflection and not let bad habits make the choice for you.

Depending on the reason for the breakup, set your boundaries for how much contact beforehand. If there was abuse or toxic behaviors in the relationship, don't even go there. You can't afford to repeat this relationship again.

If you know you shouldn't be contacting this ex but feel lonely, set up a support system ahead of time. Set up activities or things to fall back on to resist the urge. Maybe you phone a different friend, join a virtual happy hour for singles, or binge watch Netflix. Anything else is acceptable, but don't phone that ex.

Write down your reasons for wanting to contact the ex. Ask yourself if this is worth the pain. Are you flea-bagging again, or is there a friendship to be had, which will provide you with genuine comfort? If it's the latter, it's okay to go there. If it's an excuse to go back together and make contact, don't.

Decide how far you are willing to take the relationship this time, without it being a rinse and repeat. If you broke up for reasons beyond your control, it's okay. If your ex was a serial cheater, phone a friend instead.

If there was abuse or toxic behaviors in the relationship, don't even go there. You can't afford to repeat this relationship again.

As life returns to a more normal state and you adjust to the new normal, we will slowly begin to notice more balance in our lives. You want to come from a good place of reflection and not let bad habits make the choice for you. Some do's and don'ts for this time would be:

  • Do: exercise ⁠— taking care of you is important during this time. It's self-care and maintaining a healthy lifestyle.
  • Do: shower, brush your teeth, and get out of your sweats.
  • Don't: be a couch potato.
  • Don't: drink or eat excessively during this time. Again, remember to maintain a healthy lifestyle.
  • Do: think positive thoughts everyday and write down the 3 things you are grateful for. Look at the impact of John Krasinksi's SGN. It's uplifting and when you feel good, you won't want to slide backwards.
  • Don't: contact a toxic ex. It's a backward move in a moment of uncertainty that could have a long term impact. Why continue flea bagging yourself?