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How to Finance Your Honeymoon

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Honeymoons are a magical way to celebrate love and to spend time with your new spouse, but if your pockets are feeling a little light after the wedding, figuring out how to finance your honeymoon may seem a bit daunting. But, with some research and planning, it is certainly possible to celebrate marrying the person of your dreams with the honeymoon of your dreams without causing yourself a financial nightmare. Here are some tips on ways to save up for the big trip, and, if you're still looking for a little help, different methods for financing the honeymoon.


Ways To Save

Find the best destinations for your money

One of the most critical decisions in planning your honeymoon is of course where you will go! If you don't have one particular destination in mind, do some research as to where you might be able to have the best experience for the least amount of money. You may be able to find an off-the-beaten-path destination that is equally (if not more!) magical than the more touristy spots with a much more reasonable price tag. I'm sure you've also had friends or family members encouraging you to go the all-inclusive route as a way to get the most bang for your buck. All-inclusive trips can be a great way to get a good deal, but make sure you're reading the fine print. If you think something sounds too good to be true, chances are it is.

Consider the timing

Most destinations will be cheaper at certain times of the year. If you're set on taking your honeymoon right after the wedding, you may want to research destinations that are more cost effective at that time of year. Or, if you're set on a particular destination, consider waiting until prices are lower even if that means not going immediately after your nuptials.

Get cooking

A great way to save money once at your destination is to choose an accommodation with a kitchen or kitchenette. Preparing your own meals – particularly breakfast and lunch – can go a long way in cutting costs (and can also be a fun activity for you and partner!).

Put your points to work

Have a credit card with hotel or airline points? Consider looking into what airlines and hotels participate in your card's points program and where you may be able to go to use these points. Doing a little digging is key here – many hotel chains have sister properties in popular destinations that may not bare the more recognizable name.

Take a mini-moon

“Mini moons" – or going on a smaller trip right after your wedding while taking more time to save up for your bigger trip – have become increasingly popular lately. Taking a mini-moon can be something as simple as going on a weekend trip to a destination close to home or even a staycation, or it can still involve a flight or a more exotic destination, just for a shorter period of time. Whatever your pleasure, the perks of a mini-moon include getting to spend that quality time with your partner right after the wedding while also taking the time you need to save up for that pricier trip down the line.

How To Finance

Like with any foreseeable expense, the simplest and most effective way to save up for a honeymoon is to start including it in your monthly budget as soon as possible.

This can certainly be difficult, particularly if you and your partner are contributing to wedding costs, but even sticking $20 a week in a honeymoon jar can go a long way toward making your dream trip a reality.

Credit cards

Travel credit cards, in particular, can be a great way to finance your honeymoon. Research which cards may offer the best travel rewards or have sign-up bonuses so you can make the most of the money you're spending. But like loans or lines of credit, consider how quickly you will be able to pay off the debt. If the card offers an interest-free period, aim to pay off your balance before the interest kicks in. However, you have to be cautious not to overcharge more than you can afford. Just because you get to pay later doesn't mean you don't have to pay!

Honeymoon Registries

Honeymoon registries have become all the rage lately. Instead of the traditional gift registry, couples are asking for money toward their honeymoon from their guests. Some websites offer honeymoon registry platforms, which can allow your guests to contribute to specific expenses related to your trip. Some destinations and honeymoon providers also provide honeymoon registry sites.

Your honeymoon is a once-in-a-lifetime trip, and you and your partner deserve to make the most of it. The cost of travel, particularly after a significant expense like a wedding, can undoubtedly be disheartening, but it is indeed still possible to have a magical and memorable honeymoon without breaking the bank. The traditional path is not always the best or most cost-effective path, and that's okay! By looking into alternatives, planning ahead, and making sure you're getting the most bang for your buck, you and your partner can create memories that will last long after the trip is paid off!

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The G-spot Exists Even When Junk Science Tries To Con Women Into Thinking It Doesn’t

Yes, there is a G-spot. Of course there's a G-spot. There's always been a G-spot. And while we're on the subject, it's not a spot. It's not a little button or dot. It's an area. While we're on the subject, we really should rename it all together. A man “discovered it." Uh, huh. And he named it after himself. Of course. But I digress. The point is, the G-spot very much exists.


How do I know? Because I've touched my share of them. I've touched them and stimulated them, and the women to whom those G-spots belonged had delicious orgasms from the said touching of them. Ask them. Go ahead. You don't have to believe me because the G-spot is not the Easter Bunny or Santa Claus or even God for that matter. It's not something to “believe in." It's something that exists because it's there and you can touch it.

As the author of two books on women's sexuality, “O Wow: Discovering Your Ultimate Orgasm" and “The Ultimate Guide to Solo Sex," I have talked to hundreds of women; researched and spoken to the experts; and read, read, read everything I could get my hands on. I know the G-spot exists because it exists. That is how you know something exists. You do not however, deny the existence of something because, well, it's self-serving.

And in case you're thinking, “You've written some sex books and slept with some women. You're no doctor." You're right. But Juliana Morris, PhD, LMFT, LPC is. She's a credentialed therapist, academic, and a bona fide (s)expert, with decades of experience “counseling and supporting thousands of individuals and couples on their paths to discover and own their sexual agency."

Her thoughts on the G-Spot? “Yes, it exists. Better stated….every (biologically identified) woman has the potential for pleasure in an area within her vaginal cavity. That is how I describe it. An area of potential. I am confident it exists because of hundreds of interviews and work with women. Women who have experienced pleasure in an area within her 'accidently,' women who have made purposeful efforts to find pleasure in this area as a solo or partnered endeavor using specific techniques to maximize the potential of pleasure for her and hearing both groups describe the difference of pleasure from other orgasmic experiences."

The fact that some folks who have the audacity to call themselves “researchers" when they only had thirteen women in their study – THIRTEEN – decided there is no G-spot because they couldn't find one is idiocy. I have touched more than thirteen of them personally. Just all by myself, no research study – OR DOLLARS – required. Morris adds, “That study is inaccurate and is inherently flawed. In large part because of the belief that it functions like other pleasure organs. Mainly, however, because it is asking the wrong questions and using inadequate parameters to prove or disprove it."

I'll tell you what outranks that study by a zillion – reality. I have touched the G-spots of women I have loved, women I have hooked up with, and even women with whom I have taken Body Dodson's famed masturbation workshop Body Sex. Of course there's a G-spot. Don't be ridiculous.

This is just another chapter in the on-going saga of “men who don't want to learn about women's bodies or have women know about their own bodies so let's just call women frigid or broken or too complicated." We and our bodies are none of those things. Women who don't want to have sex aren't frigid. They are tired of showing up for an activity that feeds male pleasure and leaves them hanging because too many men have no idea how to work the equipment.

Women aren't broken. We don't have penises. We don't want or need penises. We have something WAY better. We have clitorises with 8,000 plus nerve endings and no other job other than to give us pleasure. And, no, our bodies aren't too complicated. All you have to do is ask. Believe me, if you care enough to ask, she'll be happy to tell you what rocks her world.

The thing is, men, who are in charge of the budgets and the research and the media and the message, get nothing for themselves – zero, zilch, nada – from teaching and promoting the truth about women's bodies and sexuality. Not to mention is that all men want to do is measure and quantify. No can do with the G-spot. But that doesn't matter one bit.

Morris explains, “I do believe the reason behind the quest to invalidate the G-spot area is heavily rooted in the misguided notion that a woman's pleasure experience cannot be measured or seen and thusly cannot exist. The antiquated medical and scientific views of research do not apply to the variance and contextual nuisances of womanhood and female pleasure. And that difference-from the male, medical model is threatening and challenging and for some in that world, easily dismissed. Or must be dismissed. Unexplained + variance +can't be seen/measure= bad, crazy, non-existent. And frankly…the scientific and medical world, especially male practitioners in general still exhibit a level of discomfort if not distaste for female pleasure."

On the other hand, straight men gain plenty from creating and feeding the myths. They can keep women feeling less-than and self-conscious and dirty and broken and thinking that they need a man, that they are lucky to even have one since they are so broken. Then men don't have to learn or put in any effort in the bedroom or anywhere else for that matter because they are, all puns intended, cock of the walk. Well, fuck that.

Listen up, ladies. There is nothing wrong with you. Not one damn thing. Your body and your clitoris and your vagina and your very much existing G-spot are all perfect and they are all yours. And while we're on the subject, you have every right to enjoy them on your own, with a partner, with many partners, within a loving relationship, just for fun, whatever.

Masturbate, make love, hook up, you do you. Literally. You don't need a man. You can want one. But you do not – I repeat, do not – in any way need a man for sexual pleasure. The penis is completely and totally unnecessary for female sexual pleasure. COMPLETELY UNNECESSARY. There are mouths and fingers and toys and even vegetables that are actually far better suited for the job.

Too much of this “there's no G-spot" nonsense comes from the fact that most folks don't even know the truth about the clitoris. That tiny little bud on the outside is the tip of the iceberg. The clitoris has long, internal legs. Think inverted wishbone.

Women have just as much – if not more – erectile tissue than men.

Women have just as much – if not more – erectile tissue than men. Women can experience gobs of pleasure when some penis isn't just using the vagina like some sort of masturbation sleeve, banging away until said penis is done. And – side note – when it's done it's done, unlike the mighty clitoris which requires zero recoup time. ZERO. Sure the G-stop is a relative of the clitoris. Regardless of who or what it's related to - it exists. Not every woman goes wild when her G-spot is stimulated. That is true. Not every women can identify her G-spot. That is true. But every woman does have a G-spot. You simply have be enough of a human being to care about women and their bodies and their pleasure to know that. People can tell you about Game of Thrones in minute detail but they don't know the difference between a vagina and a vulva. (The vagina is the internal canal. The vulva is the external bits.)

This is getting so idiotic. We don't need any more studies. We need people to start talking to and LISTENING to women. The very pussy owning humans themselves. Want to know the truth about women's bodies? Pay attention to the ones you are insanely lucky to be intimate with. This is all verifiable info. This is not some Lochness shit here. Come on.

Women need to know their bodies. Human need to know about women's bodies. “I think it is crucial for women to understand, deeply, the implications of our variance in anatomy and pleasure," says Morris. "Our variance needs to be acknowledged, understood, celebrated and validated. Our variance is indeed beautiful. Normal. Expected. No big deal. Some of our variance is rooted in evolutionary brilliance. Some of it is evolutionary irrelevance, and it just is. We all need a roadmap to examine our sexuality and pleasure and medical studies like this just distract us from the REAL research."

"That dream aside, pleasure is our birthright. We have the right to seek, enhance and experience pleasure. On our own terms and in our own way. Validating the existence for the potential for pleasure in this area is one area where women can choose to claim this collectively." -Juliana Morris

If you're a woman, grab a mirror and have a look. Masturbate, please. Insert your own fingers into your own vagina, curve it upwards, and two inches in, toward the front of your body, you will feel a patch of tissue with ridges on it. Play with it and it will expand. That's your G-spot. Insert a toy that vibrates to stimulate it. Insert the classic and most reliable toy on earth for masturbation, the Betty Dodson Barbell, and try out her Rock and Rock Method of masturbation. (You can thank me later.) And once you have done that, you will smack the face of anyone who tells you what body parts you don't have. And if someone argues with you, make a note to never, ever, ever have sex with them. Ever. And to those “researchers," get a real job. Women don't need anyone else telling us that we don't have body parts that we clearly do. We don't need anyone else chipping away at our self-esteem. We don't need any more sex shaming. And thirteen people? Really? Thirteen? Shame on you. You and your practices and your findings are ridiculous.

And to anyone who has the honor of engaging with a woman and her body, be respectful, pay attention, put your own pleasure on the back burner, remember that just because it feels good to you doesn't mean it does a damn thing for her, and for God's sake, listen – listen, listen, listen.

Yes, Virginia, there is a G-spot.