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Here’s Why Symon Is Our Musical Girl Crush Of the Moment

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In just one watch of Symon's impressive “Lonely Girl" lyric video on Youtube, it's safe to say that she is not your average aspiring pop sensation, especially since she incorporates American sign language in the video, something that's rarely done in pop music these days.


Her love for sign language isn't just a fad, or element she just incorporated in the lyric video to be edgy, as Symon says it's a language that got her through one of the darkest moments of her life, including high school.

“I went to a very demanding high school, and a lot of languages were mandatory there," Symon tells SWAAY over the phone. “I remember I was picking my third language, and I saw that sign language was an option and I thought: wow, how cool would that be."

Connecting instantly with her sign teacher, sign language definitely became Symon's emotional outlet back in her teenage years, as she faced bullies and experienced the loneliness and uncertainty many teenagers still experience to this very day. Signing also allowed her to bridge both passions of language and music together, something she would go on to do later on in life. “I fell in love with sign language in the midst of high school, especially since there were a couple of really nasty girls who were really horrible to me," she explains. “My outlet was sitting with my sign language teacher during lunch and just talking and learning sign. I became really fluent fast. I thought it would be really cool to bridge my two passions together (sign and music) and I knew at some point I would. I didn't know when."

Although sign language has not influenced her songwriting, Symon notes that it's something that continues to inspire her on a daily basis. The thing that draws her most to the language is that it's all about connecting, a skill this people-loving singer says she excels at. In addition, she notes that by incorporating ASL in the video, she hopes to shed a light on the deaf community, a community that is not much heard about or gains proper representation in mainstream media.

“Through my lyric video I wanted to shed a light on the deaf community," she says. “People always think deaf people are silent, and I wanted to prove them wrong and shed a light for the community."

Of course, writing “Lonely Girl" was also about showing the backstory of the dark periods (not limited to just high school) she has experienced. But instead of dwelling in sadness, she wants to remind and relate to others that there's always a light at the end of the tunnel, even when things seem grim.

“I hope this song resonates with people as it's not only about being a lonely girl, but it's about all of us," she explains. “Someone recently said to me you're not lonely, and I said let me tell you something, you can be in a room with a ton of people and still be the loneliest person. You can also be in a room by yourself and not feel lonely at all. I think each of us have moments in our life where we'll always be lonely, and there's a part of our hearts that always feel this way. That's what I want people to feel from it."

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The single has already achieved instant success, something Symon herself, never anticipated. The song currently is 47 on the pop chart, and the lyric video already has 200,000 plus views on Youtube. Symon never imagined the success she received through the video, as the song achieved 50,000 views in five hours. However, she feels the reliability of it, is what really struck a chord with viewers.

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“The reaction to Lonely Girl has been really interesting, as it's just me being me, straight from my heart, and as authentic and vulnerable as can be," she says. “I didn't know how people were going to react at first, and I was very terrified. However, I literally had 50,000 views in five hours, and my Youtube crashed. It's been refreshing to see that people truly want authentic things. I think people are honestly sick of bullshit."

“Lonely Girl" may be Symon's latest hit, but her other song “Say" is equally enticing, especially since it's the catchy pop single we all love when the weather gets a little warmer out. However, “Say" did not use ASL in the lyric video, making “Lonely Girl" a true gem on it's own.

Aside from taking the music world by storm, Symon also proves to be a double threat, as she also currently hosts SiriusXM's Hits 1 in Hollywood (the show has over 40 million viewers) alongside hosts Michael Yo and Tony Fly. However, instead of just limiting herself to one thing, Symon sees the opportunities in her future to be completely limitless, as TV and film is something she's currently looking into going forward.

“People always say where do you see yourself, and I tell them I honestly I see everything. I love the different formats of art and the way they make me feel whether that's going to be in TV and film. I know that I am ready to try anything and for things to come my way, and I'm definitely like bring it on." -Symon


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Tempted To Dial Your Ex: 5 Ways To Know Whether Or Not You Should Contact An Old Flame

Thinking of ringing up your ex during these uncertain times? Maybe you want an excuse to contact your ex, or maybe you genuinely feel the need to connect with someone on an emotional level. As a matchmaker and relationship expert, I was surprised at the start of the coronavirus quarantine when friends were telling me that they were contacting their exes! But as social distancing has grown to be more than a short-term situation, we must avoid seeking short-term solutions—and resist the urge to dial an ex.

It stands to reason that you would contact an ex for support. After all, who knows you and your fears better than an ex? This all translates into someone who you think can provide comfort and support. As a matchmaker, I already know that people can spark and ignite relationships virtually that can lead to offline love, but lonely singles didn't necessarily believe this or understand this initially, which drives them straight back to a familiar ex. You only need to tune into Love Is Blind to test this theory or look to Dina Lohan and her virtual boyfriend.

At the start of lockdown, singles were already feeling lonely. There were studies that said as much as 3 out of 4 people were lonely, and that was before lockdown. Singles were worried that dating someone was going to be off limits for a very long time. Now when you factor in a widespread pandemic and the psychological impact that hits when you have to be in isolation and can't see anyone but your takeout delivery person, we end up understanding this urge to contact an ex.

So, what should you do if you are tempted to ring up an old flame? How do you know if it's the wrong thing or the right thing to do in a time like this? Check out a few of my points before deciding on picking up that phone to text, much less call an ex.

Before You Dial The Ex...

First, you need to phone a friend! It's the person that got you through this breakup to begin with. Let them remind you of the good, the bad and the ugly before taking this first step and risk getting sucked back in.

What was the reason for your breakup? As I mentioned before, you could get sucked back in… but that might not be a bad thing. It depends; when you phoned that friend to remind you, did she remind you of good or bad things during the breakup? It's possible that you both just had to take jobs in different cities, and the breakup wasn't due to a problem in the relationship. Have these problems resolved if there were issues?

You want to come from a good place of reflection and not let bad habits make the choice for you.

Depending on the reason for the breakup, set your boundaries for how much contact beforehand. If there was abuse or toxic behaviors in the relationship, don't even go there. You can't afford to repeat this relationship again.

If you know you shouldn't be contacting this ex but feel lonely, set up a support system ahead of time. Set up activities or things to fall back on to resist the urge. Maybe you phone a different friend, join a virtual happy hour for singles, or binge watch Netflix. Anything else is acceptable, but don't phone that ex.

Write down your reasons for wanting to contact the ex. Ask yourself if this is worth the pain. Are you flea-bagging again, or is there a friendship to be had, which will provide you with genuine comfort? If it's the latter, it's okay to go there. If it's an excuse to go back together and make contact, don't.

Decide how far you are willing to take the relationship this time, without it being a rinse and repeat. If you broke up for reasons beyond your control, it's okay. If your ex was a serial cheater, phone a friend instead.

If there was abuse or toxic behaviors in the relationship, don't even go there. You can't afford to repeat this relationship again.

As life returns to a more normal state and you adjust to the new normal, we will slowly begin to notice more balance in our lives. You want to come from a good place of reflection and not let bad habits make the choice for you. Some do's and don'ts for this time would be:

  • Do: exercise ⁠— taking care of you is important during this time. It's self-care and maintaining a healthy lifestyle.
  • Do: shower, brush your teeth, and get out of your sweats.
  • Don't: be a couch potato.
  • Don't: drink or eat excessively during this time. Again, remember to maintain a healthy lifestyle.
  • Do: think positive thoughts everyday and write down the 3 things you are grateful for. Look at the impact of John Krasinksi's SGN. It's uplifting and when you feel good, you won't want to slide backwards.
  • Don't: contact a toxic ex. It's a backward move in a moment of uncertainty that could have a long term impact. Why continue flea bagging yourself?