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Happiness or Burden - The Truth Behind Owning a Pet

Everyone wants to get a pet at some point in their lives, what's there not to want, right? The unconditional love and bond you feel towards your animal of choice sound amazing - but you have to remember that a pet is not a toy! There are a lot of important factors that go into owning and taking care of an animal, getting a pet can usually feel like getting a child, so be prepared to consider a lot of stuff before you run to the shelter and grab every dog you can!

Depending on What You Want

So you finally decided that you are ready to become a pet owner, this means you already have a clue what kind of animal you want to get, right? Well, before getting anything, you should consider what kind of pet you like and what will go with your current lifestyle. If you are full of energy and like to take walks, a happy go lucky dog is a go-to, but if you prefer to be a bit distant and independent a cat would be a better pick! But pets don't just stop at cats and dogs, there is a whole world out there, maybe you'd like a bird the most, or a hamster, or even a snake or a lizard! It's important to first educate yourself on what that animal needs and what you can offer.

Responsibility Is Key

Once you find the exact kind of animal you want to get, you need to ask yourself honestly - can I handle taking care of this animal? When getting a pet, you need to put their needs first and your wishes second. Owning an animal means not just giving them a place to sleep or petting them regularly, it means understanding how complex it actually is to look after them, just like you care about yourself. Feeding them and keeping them hydrated and in good shape and then some. Experts at Paramount Pet Health state that additional supplements are also needed to ensure that your pet stays in the best shape possible. You need to look at your pet like it's your own kid - and take care of it like it actually is!

Know Your Limits First

You learned everything that there is to learn about how to take care of the pet, but other factors are important too. Look at the place you are living in, is it pet friendly? Is it big enough for that animal? What if that animal needs lots and lots of space to run? Also, how willing are you to actually adapt your household to said pet - or even better question, how much time do you think you can give them? Pets of all kinds need attention in every way possible, some are less physical than others, and some love to be cuddled at all times.

Regardless, you need to devote yourself to keeping that animal satisfied as much as possible if you are out of the house all the time, consider what pet doesn't need as much time instead of getting a pet that does - once again, put the animal's needs first, over your wishes to become a pet owner!

The Benefits

There are way too many benefits of owning a pet, every animal lover can agree on that. You create a special bond with your chosen animal, and they become your furry life companion! Animals can be extremely devoted to you, and they just fill up the household with joy. There are actually health benefits of owning a pet! So it's safe to say, if you think you can handle everything that goes along with having a pet - go for it, you won't regret it!

The Risks and Downsides

The unconditional love and affection that a pet can give you are priceless, we can all agree with that, but owning a pet also limits a lot of things as well. Having an animal will limit your traveling, you can always leave them with a friend or something, but some pets need specific care that not many people can provide. Also, if you are a renter, you have a limited pool of options, not a lot of apartment buildings or landlords let animals in, so you are obliged to search for a pet-friendly area. Money is another downside, as pets can get a bit pricey. Add the cost of food, additional supplies, grooming, possible emergencies, and you have a pretty big number - being a pet owner is not so kind to your wallet!

All of the Above

Having an animal running around your house is fun, but if you are not ready to invest, be responsible, and take care of the pet properly, maybe you should postpone getting it. Think about everything, all the downsides, and risks, but also keep in mind how wonderful it is to have a fuzzy companion waiting for you to get home from work every day. But above all, think about the animal first, if you are able to give them everything they need and more. Every pet deserves a happy and loving home!

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Help! My Friend Is a No Show

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Help! My Friend Is a No Show

Dear Armchair Psychologist,

I have a friend who doesn't reply to my messages about meeting for dinner, etc. Although, last week I ran into her at a local restaurant of mine, it has always been awkward to be friends with her. Should I continue our friendship or discontinue it? We've been friends for a total four years and nothing has changed. I don't feel as comfortable with her as my other close friends, and I don't think I'll ever be able to reach that comfort zone in pure friendship.

-Sadsies

Dear Sadsies,

I am sorry to hear you've been neglected by your friend. You may already have the answer to your question, since you're evaluating the non-existing bond between yourself and your friend. However, I'll gladly affirm to you that a friendship that isn't reciprocated is not a good friendship.



I have had a similar situation with a friend whom I'd grown up with but who was also consistently a very negative person, a true Debby Downer. One day, I just had enough of her criticism and vitriol. I stopped making excuses for her and dumped her. It was a great decision and I haven't looked back. With that in mind, it could be possible that something has changed in your friend's life, but it's insignificant if she isn't responding to you. It's time to dump her and spend your energy where it's appreciated. Don't dwell on this friend. History is not enough to create a lasting bond, it only means just that—you and your friend have history—so let her be history!



- The Armchair Psychologist

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