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The Spirit Guide We Didn't Know We Needed

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Everyone needs a little guidance in their lives sometimes. What the majority of society doesn't know is that we all do have an extra guide. Actually a few of them. Natalie Miles knows they're there though. As a physic and spiritual advisor, she has the ability to connect any of us with our spirit guides. Leaving a career in film production, Miles knows a lot more about our own spirit guides than we do.


Some might be asking, 'well, what is a spirit guide?' We had the same initial reaction. We asked our favorite spirit advisor a little more about her practice to get us all the understanding we need.

1.When did you discover you had the gift of connecting to and connecting others to spirit guides?

It's always such an honor to connect people to their Guides as they are the gateway to accessing our own intuition. I grew up psychic as a child and had my first interaction with my Spirit Guide at the age of 5. My main Guide appeared at the end of my bed one night to let me know she was here to guide and protect me. But it wasn't until my early 30s that my Guides pushed me to do this work full time. I received the message loud and clear that my soul purpose is to connect people to working with their Guides and their intuition. It was my job to make this work relevant and grounded in the world we live in. We're at a time where we're really looking for the connection with ourselves and the world around us.

2. How does the process work?
When I'm working one on one with a client or at a live event, before they arrive I always set the intention for their Guides to step forward to share messages and insight. I then work with the Guides so they can share all the wisdom, insights and knowledge to the client. I like to say it's like my Guides and their Guides having a chat and I'm just the door opener to make it happen. I then receive what they want to share by hearing them talk, seeing visuals and feeling their energy. Depending on the session, and if the Guide gives me permission, I also share what they look like and who they are.

We have many different Guides, but we all have one main Guide that is with us from when we are born until we die.

3. How do you find your spirit guide?

Anyone can connect to their Guides. It's all about being open, creating space and trust. The first step is to ask them to step forward. Our Spirit Guides need encouragement and need to know that we'd like to connect with them and discover who they are.

Most are very happy to work quietly in the background, only making themselves known to you when they feel you need it the most. But if you'd like them to give you more messages, signs and guidance you just need to ask. The best way to ask them is when you're relaxed and in a quiet space.

Take 5 minutes in meditation or just sitting somewhere quiet and say in your head or out loud, "Spirit Guide I would like to work with you more. Please step forward into the light to share with me messages and guidance." You will feel their energy and presence and for some, you may see them or begin to hear them.

4. What's everyday life like for you, are you constantly bombarded with spirits, interruptions etc?
Great question! So I've learned through the years the art of turning it off and turning it on. The spirits now know when I'm not working. It's like I have a “ Do Not disturb sign" in my energy field so they know not to bombard me.
But when I'm working with Spirit I'm always in wonder and awe of the messages and wisdom they provide. This work is all about healing and empowering others to truly connect to who they are.
5. How do you hone your gift, do you think anyone can, or a very specific type of person?
We are all intuitive. We are all born gifted. That's why children are highly intuitive and see the world with open eyes. It's as we get older that the blocks form around our intuition. Fear, worry and judgement about what others will think set in and we forget this universal gift.
We're in a time right now where intuition is becoming mainstream. It's exciting as it's not an awakening people are having but a reactivation of the gifts that we already have.
6. Do you have any anecdotes of note, something that was particularly interesting/moving?
When I connect people to their Guides it can be a very emotional experience. It's like meeting someone who's your best friend, who knows you better than anyone else and has infinite love for you. To witness, facilitate and be part of that journey is always so humbling. When you meet your Guide it's like accessing a love that you didn't know existed.
7. What does a spirit guide do?
I like to call them our cheerleader team in Spirit. They guide you, help you, send you signs, messages and healing. It's important for us to realize that we're not alone on our life journey.
8. What are the benefits to uncovering yours?
Our Guides are the gateway to our own intuition. They leave you feeling empowered, connected to who you are and what your soul purpose is. By working with them you will have greater confidence in your own internal guidance system and will trust your own intuition more.
9. For people who aren't psychic, do you have any advice for listening to your inner voice?
Our inner voice or intuitive guidance system is so important and we all have the gift to connect and listen. My main piece of advice is to create the space to listen. So often we're on the go, cramming our diaries full, or are overloading our brain with social media and screen time. We're setting ourselves up to fail rather than succeed and tune into our inner voice.
One simple ritual you can do is to create space to listen in the shower. In the morning have a shower and use the water to reset your energy by imagining the water creating a beautiful white light around your body. Next call in your Guides and ask, “What do I need to know today?" See where you mind goes and create the space to listen.
10. What's a philosophy you live by/motto?
“If it's not a HELL YES, it's a NO". I use this when making any decision. If it doesn't feel good or aligned in my body I'm not doing it. It's saved me from a lot of pain and wrong paths.
11. What are the different kinds of spirit guides?
We have many different Guides, but we all have one main Guide that is with us from when we are born until we die. They have lived many lifetimes here on earth and just like us have gifts, talents, personalities and passions. They like to use these talents to help us and connect with us.
The rest of our Spirit Guide team is made up of protection guides, healing guides & messenger guides. They come in at specific times in our life when we need their assistance.
12. How do you balance such an unusual career, do you find people don't you seriously/judge you?
People are always intrigued by the work I do. When I first started this as a career, I was worried people would think I was weird or strange. I previously was a Producer and had a 10-year career in film production. But now I don't worry what people will think. 99% of the time people have so many questions, they really want to know more. There will always be the 1% who will judge or don't believe and that's all good.
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Michael Bloomberg Can’t Handle A Woman With A Voice (aka Elizabeth Warren)

Elizabeth Warren majorly called out "arrogant billionaire" Michael Bloomberg for his history of silencing women through NDAs and closed-door settlement negotiations. Sound familiar? Probably because we already have a president like that. At this point, Bloomberg may just spend the remainder of his (hopefully) ill-fated presidential campaign roasting on a spit over a fire sparked by the righteous anger of women. A lesser punishment than he deserves, if you ask me.


At last night's Democratic debate, Michael Bloomberg could barely stammer out an answer to a question on whether or not he would release any of his former accusers from their nondisclosure agreements. His unsatisfactory response was basically a halting list of what he has done for certain nondescript women in his time at City Hall and within his own company.

But that certainly wasn't enough for Elizabeth Warren, nor should it be, who perfectly rephrased his defense as, "I've been nice to some women." Michael Bloomberg is basically that weird, problematic Uncle that claims he can't be racist, "Because I have a Black friend." In a society where power is almost always in the hands of straight, white, cisgendered, men being "nice" to a lucky few is in no way a defense for benefiting from and building upon the systematic silencing of all marginalized communities, let alone women. Stop and frisk, anybody?

Here is a brief clip of the Warren v. Bloomberg exchange, which I highly recommend. It is absolutely (and hilariously) savage.

But let's talk about the deeper issues at hand here (other than Warren being an eloquent badass).

Michael Bloomberg has been sued multiple times, yet each time he was able to snake his way out of the problem with the help of his greatest and only superpower: cold, hard cash. Each time these allegations have come up, in Warren's words, he throws "a chunk of money at the table" and "forces the woman to wear a muzzle for the rest of her life."

As reported by Claire Lampen of The Cut, here are just a few of his prior indiscretions.

  • Pregnancy discrimination—Bloomberg reportedly told a former employee of his to "kill it," in reference to her developing fetus.
  • Sexual harassment—You could literally write a book on this subject (someone did), but for the sake of brevity...
"I'd like to do that piece of meat" - Michael Bloomberg in reference to various women at his company.
  • Undermining #MeToo—Not only did he defend the accused, but he went on the disparage accusers every step of the way.
  • Defaming transgender people—Though he claims to support trans rights, he has also been qupted multiple times as referring to trans women as "some guy wearing a dress."
Yeah... That's not a winning formula for me, Mike.

Furthermore, Warren points out the simple fact that if, as Bloomberg claims, these instances were simply big misunderstandings (He was just joking around!) then why go to all the trouble to cover them up? Does Michael Bloomberg think women can't take a joke? Or can we only surmise that the truth of these events are far darker and dirtier than we could even imagine?

Certain commentators have called Elizabeth Warren's debate presence "agressive," especially in regards to this instance but also continually throughout her entire campaign. If asking poignant questions to known abusers who are seeking to further their own political power is considered "aggressive," then I am here for it. Bring on the aggressive women, please and thank you.

Calling a woman aggressive for being confidant and direct is a gendered complaint. You don't see anyone whining that Bernie is "aggressive" when he goes off on a screaming tangent. Also, have you seen our president? He's basically the poster boy for political temper tantrums. But still, it's Warren that is deemed "aggressive," for honing in on the exact issues that need to be considered in this upcoming election.

This type of derisory label is another aspect of how our society silences women—much like Bloomberg and his NDAs. Because "silencing" is more than just putting a "muzzle" on someone. It's refusing to listen to a person's cries for help. It's disregarding what a woman has to say, because she's too "aggressive." It's taking away someone's power by refusing to truly hear their side of the story. Because if you aren't listening, responding, or even just respecting someone's words, they may well have said nothing at all.

"Silence is the ocean of the unsaid, the unspeakable, the repressed, the erased, the unheard." - Renecca Solnit

Nondiscolusure agreements are a legal gag for people who have experienced harassment and abuse at the hands of those above them.

Gretchen Carlson, possibly the most famous person subject to an NDA, is one of these people. Her story is so well-known that it has even been immortalized on film, in 2019's Bombshell. Yet she is still forced to maintain her silence. She cannot tell her side of the story even when Hollywood can. She was cajoled into her current position after facing harassment in her workplace. She didn't have the power then to do more than accept her fate. And now, she doesn't have the power to tell her story.

She was, and still is being, silenced.

After her experiences, Carlson was moved to fight for all women to have the power over their truths. In a recent op-ed for the New York Times she declared: "I want my voice back. I want it back for me, and for all those silenced by forced arbitration and NDAs."

Carlson may still be tied to her NDA, but there are those who go a different route. Celeste Headlee, who wrote an op-ed on SWAAY about her experience, chose to break her nondisclosure agreement. Though doing so undoubtedly opened her up to numerous legal ramifications, she knew that she could no longer "sign away [her] right to justice."

Because that is what an NDA is all about, signing away a person's right to justice. Their story is their justice. Their NDA is a lock and key. Headlee may have broken through that lock, but she must face the consequences.

Neither Carlson nor Headlee are any less brave for how they have handled their journeys. They are both actively working to shift the cultural and political norms that led them here, and their work will, with hope and time, lead to real change. But they are just two drops in an ocean of women who are held hostage by their nondisclosure agreements, by men like Michael Bloomberg, and by a society that would rather silence them than let truth and justice be had.