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Get Your Productivity in Gear With These 5 Books

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In 2018, we’re all looking to bring a little bit of newness into our lives. We want change. We want productivity. And most of all, we want business success. Sometimes, reading a great book really helps the things that need shifted in your life stand out and a whole new sense of motivation wash over you. These books are an amazing resource to kick your productivity into gear.


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Impactivity: How to Set the World on Fire without Burning Out, Tracy Higley

If you’re dealing with the horrible “crashing and burning” feeling that can often come with owning your own business, keeping up with contracts and managing family, then this one is for you. Bestselling author and entrepreneur herself, Higley shares her guidance, inspiration and truly teaches the art of productivity. This book was re-released in January 2017 with 6 workbooks to go along with it.

“The fear of the unknown was eclipsed by the gladness that came of taking action, of doing something rather than waiting, of following what seemed to be the call of my life."

-Tracy Higley

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The Power of Broke, Daymond John

Launching and keeping a business afloat is both time consuming and incredibly expensive. Shark Tank’s Daymond John and business mogul himself shares how he started his business with only $40. In fact, he thinks that starting a business with a very limited budget can be every entrepreneurs creative advantage. His book will teach companies, brands and solopreneurs alike how to leverage this skill for business success.

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Own It: The Power of Women at Work, Sallie Krawcheck

Author and Wall Street powerhouse turn entrepreneur, Sallie Krawcheck will get you excited again for your role as a woman in the workplace and playing the man’s game on our own terms. She believes that the business world is changing fast and there are so many reasons that female business owners need to get excited about the future. The change is coming – fast – and as women we need to own that to take control of our careers and businesses to get to the next level.

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Women Who Work: Rewriting The Goals of Success, Ivanka Trump

The first daughter to be has truly hit the nail on the head with her recent book, released in March of 2017. Her belief is simple: there is no one right answer, every woman must create the life in business that they love that works for them. She shares the best skills and advice coming from all the women who work in her life and essentially rewrites the rules to help everyone redefine success and supports living out your individual passions every day.

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"I try to live in the present. I learn from my mistakes in an effort not to repeat them, but I remain totally focused on today and tomorrow. Many of my mistakes turned out to be incredible opportunities for growth, both professionally and personally, and therefore, in hindsight, they were deeply valuable."

-Ivanka Trump

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She Means Business: Turn Your Ideas into Reality and Become a Wildly Successful Entrepreneur, Carrie Green

Released in February of 2017, this book is aimed at women in business and sharing a step by step guide to making their business dreams a reality. The focus is on achievable techniques and helping women feel empowered and fired up about their ideas. Green shares numerous personal stories that will help put women everywhere on the right path by making the process of harnessing their amazing ideas and bringing them to life easier than they think it ever could be.

"Success is not an accident, it's something we have to create on purpose. And we can all do it, every single one of us. We have to be prepared to move past the resistance that get in our way... to make the commitment to show up of our dreams, get our ideas out there, and become unstoppable. So move out of your own way, discover what you are capable of, become a wildly successful entrepreneur and then watch as people say: She means business "

-Carrie Green

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Patriarchy Stress Disorder is A Real Thing and this Psychologist Is Helping Women Overcome It

For decades, women have been unknowingly suffering from PSD and intergenerational trauma, but now Dr. Valerie Rein wants women to reclaim their power through mind, body and healing tools.


As women, no matter how many accomplishments we have or how successful we look on the outside, we all occasionally hear that nagging internal voice telling us to do more. We criticize ourselves more than anyone else and then throw ourselves into the never-ending cycle of self-care, all in effort to save ourselves from crashing into this invisible internal wall. According to psychologist, entrepreneur and author, Dr. Valerie Rein, these feelings are not your fault and there is nothing wrong with you— but chances are you definitely suffering from Patriarchy Stress Disorder.


Patriarchy Stress Disorder (PSD) is defined as the collective inherited trauma of oppression that forms an invisible inner barrier to women's happiness and fulfillment. The term was coined by Rein who discovered a missing link between trauma and the effects that patriarchal power structures have had on certain groups of people all throughout history up until the present day. Her life experience, in addition to research, have led Rein to develop a deeper understanding of the ways in which men and women are experiencing symptoms of trauma and stress that have been genetically passed down from previously oppressed generations.

What makes the discovery of this disorder significant is that it provides women with an answer to the stresses and trauma we feel but cannot explain or overcome. After being admitted to the ER with stroke-like symptoms one afternoon, when Rein noticed the left side of her body and face going numb, she was baffled to learn from her doctors that the results of her tests revealed that her stroke-like symptoms were caused by stress. Rein was then left to figure out what exactly she did for her clients in order for them to be able to step into the fullness of themselves that she was unable to do for herself. "What started seeping through the tears was the realization that I checked all the boxes that society told me I needed to feel happy and fulfilled, but I didn't feel happy or fulfilled and I didn't feel unhappy either. I didn't feel much of anything at all, not even stress," she stated.

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This raised the question for Rein as to what sort of hidden traumas women are suppressing without having any awareness of its presence. In her evaluation of her healing methodology, Rein realized that she was using mind, body and trauma healing tools with her clients because, while they had never experienced a traumatic event, they were showing the tell-tale symptoms of trauma which are described as a disconnect from parts of ourselves, body and emotions. In addition to her personal evaluation, research at the time had revealed that traumatic experiences are, in fact, passed down genetically throughout generations. This was Rein's lightbulb moment. The answer to a very real problem that she, and all women, have been experiencing is intergenerational trauma as a result of oppression formed under the patriarchy.

Although Rein's discovery would undoubtably change the way women experience and understand stress, it was crucial that she first broaden the definition of trauma not with the intention of catering to PSD, but to better identify the ways in which trauma presents itself in the current generation. When studying psychology from the books and diagnostic manuals written exclusively by white men, trauma was narrowly defined as a life-threatening experience. By that definition, not many people fit the bill despite showing trauma-like symptoms such as disconnections from parts of their body, emotions and self-expression. However, as the field of psychology has expanded, more voices have been joining the conversations and expanding the definition of trauma based on their lived experience. "I have broadened the definition to say that any experience that makes us feel unsafe psychically or emotionally can be traumatic," stated Rein. By redefining trauma, people across the gender spectrum are able to find validation in their experiences and begin their journey to healing these traumas not just for ourselves, but for future generations.

While PSD is not experienced by one particular gender, as women who have been one of the most historically disadvantaged and oppressed groups, we have inherited survival instructions that express themselves differently for different women. For some women, this means their nervous systems freeze when faced with something that has been historically dangerous for women such as stepping into their power, speaking out, being visible or making a lot of money. Then there are women who go into fight or flight mode. Although they are able to stand in the spotlight, they pay a high price for it when their nervous system begins to work in a constant state of hyper vigilance in order to keep them safe. These women often find themselves having trouble with anxiety, intimacy, sleeping or relaxing without a glass of wine or a pill. Because of this, adrenaline fatigue has become an epidemic among high achieving women that is resulting in heightened levels of stress and anxiety.

"For the first time, it makes sense that we are not broken or making this up, and we have gained this understanding by looking through the lens of a shared trauma. All of these things have been either forbidden or impossible for women. A woman's power has always been a punishable offense throughout history," stated Rein.

Although the idea of having a disorder may be scary to some and even potentially contribute to a victim mentality, Rein wants people to be empowered by PSD and to see it as a diagnosis meant to validate your experience by giving it a name, making it real and giving you a means to heal yourself. "There are still experiences in our lives that are triggering PSD and the more layers we heal, the more power we claim, the more resilience we have and more ability we have in staying plugged into our power and happiness. These triggers affect us less and less the more we heal," emphasized Rein. While the task of breaking intergenerational transmission of trauma seems intimidating, the author has flipped the negative approach to the healing journey from a game of survival to the game of how good can it get.

In her new book, Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Barrier to Women's Happiness and Fulfillment, Rein details an easy system for healing that includes the necessary tools she has sourced over 20 years on her healing exploration with the pioneers of mind, body and trauma resolution. Her 5-step system serves to help "Jailbreakers" escape the inner prison of PSD and other hidden trauma through the process of Waking Up in Prison, Meeting the Prison Guards, Turning the Prison Guards into Body Guards, Digging the Tunnel to Freedom and Savoring Freedom. Readers can also find free tools on Rein's website to help aid in their healing journey and exploration.

"I think of the book coming out as the birth of a movement. Healing is not women against men– it's women, men and people across the gender spectrum, coming together in a shared understanding that we all have trauma and we can all heal."

https://www.drvalerie.com/