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It can be difficult to get through a work day when your phone keeps ringing. You may not even be expecting a call when you get interrupted during a meeting or conference call. Most people prefer to leave their personal phone on while they are at work, so they do not miss important calls or messages. It must be turned off; however, it is constantly ringing with unwanted calls. There are many times when your phone call may also be interrupted by a mystery caller. You do not have to answer the phone to find out who is calling when you use a convenient number look-up service. Follow these steps to get rid of unwanted callers.


Save the Phone Number

Many times, unfamiliar phone numbers are immediately deleted. There is nothing stopping these callers from calling again, however. Bill collectors and telemarketers may call several times a day, interrupting both your job and personal life. You do not always get a voicemail explaining the situation. If you do get one, it may very vague with no identifying information. Before you erase the number from your phone, enter it on a reverse phone lookup site.

Take Action

Your phone memory can become too full when you save phone numbers while you are trying to decide what to do with many saved phone numbers in your “missed calls" or “voicemail" list. You may be hesitant to call the numbers but want to find out what is going on. You may even miss important messages when your voicemail becomes completely full. Once you look up the phone number on a reverse phone number site, you can make an informed decision about the numbers you have saved. You can choose to return the calls, simply delete them, or block them from calling you again. Looking up the phone number is a convenient way to find out what type of calls you are getting.

Solve the Problem

Once you begin to look up all the phone numbers, you may realize that you are getting a lot of similar calls. For example, you may be getting calls advertising services such as health or car insurance. If the reverse lookup site reveals that you are getting several telemarketing calls each day, you can add your number to a “do not call' list. You may also be able to figure out how these companies got your number by thinking about any surveys you have filled out recently. Sometimes your phone number is necessary to receive information on a website, as well. You can call the company directly to get removed from the call list.

You can enjoy quieter days when your phone stops ringing nonstop. Take the time to lookup each number, especially the ones you see repeatedly. It is worth the effort, as you can then use your phone as you please without interruption. Stop turning your phone off when you don't want to and enjoy your games and videos. With reverse phone lookup, it is easy to unknown calls under control.

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Momtors: The New Wave of Mentors Helping New Moms Transition Back Into Careers

New parents re-entering the workforce are often juggling the tangible realities of daycare logistics, sleep deprivation, and a cascade of overwhelming work. No matter how parents build their family, they often struggle with the guilt of being split between home and work and not feeling exceptionally successful in either place.


Women building their families often face a set of challenges different from men. Those who have had children biologically may be navigating the world of pumping at work. Others might feel pulled in multiple directions when bringing a child into their home after adoption. Some women are trying to learn how to care for a newborn for the first time. New parents need all the help they can get with their transition.

Women returning to work after kids sometimes have to address comments such as:

"I didn't think you'd come back."

"You must feel so guilty."

"You missed a lot while you were out."

To counteract this difficult situation, women are finding mentors and making targeting connections. Parent mentors can help new moms address integrating their new life realities with work, finding resources within the organization and local community, and create connections with peers.

There's also an important role for parent mentors to play in discussing career trajectory. Traditionally, men who have families see more promotions compared to women with children. Knowing that having kids may represent a career setback for women, they may work with their mentors to create an action plan to "back on track" or to get recognized for their contributions as quickly as possible after returning to work.

Previously, in a bid to accommodate mothers transitioning back to work, corporate managers would make a show at lessoning the workload for newly returned mothers. This approach actually did more harm than good, as the mother's skills and ambitions were marginalized by these alleged "family friendly" policies, ultimately defining her for the workplace as a mother, rather than a person focused on career.

Today, this is changing. Some larger organizations, such as JP Morgan Chase, have structured mentorship programs that specifically target these issues and provide mentors for new parents. These programs match new parents navigating a transition back to work with volunteer mentors who are interested in helping and sponsoring moms. Mentors in the programs do not need to be moms, or even parents, themselves, but are passionate about making sure the opportunities are available.

It's just one other valuable way corporations are evolving when it comes to building quality relationships with their employees – and successfully retaining them, empowering women who face their own set of special barriers to career growth and leadership success.

Mentoring will always be a two way street. In ideal situations, both parties will benefit from the relationship. It's no different when women mentor working mothers getting back on track on the job. But there a few factors to consider when embracing this new form of mentorship

How to be a good Momtor?

Listen: For those mentoring a new parent, one of the best strategies to take is active listening. Be present and aware while the mentee shares their thoughts, repeat back what you hear in your own words, and acknowledge emotions. The returning mother is facing a range of emotions and potentially complicated situations, and the last thing she wants to hear is advice about how she should be feeling about the transition. Instead, be a sounding board for her feelings and issues with returning to work. Validate her concerns and provide a space where she can express herself without fear of retribution or bull-pen politics. This will allow the mentee a safe space to sort through her feelings and focus on her real challenges as a mother returning to work.

Share: Assure the mentee that they aren't alone, that other parents just like them are navigating the transition back to work. Provide a list of ways you've coped with the transition yourself, as well as your best parenting tips. Don't be afraid to discuss mothering skills as well as career skills. Work on creative solutions to the particular issues your mentee is facing in striking her new work/life balance.

Update Work Goals: A career-minded woman often faces a new reality once a new child enters the picture. Previous career goals may appear out of reach now that she has family responsibilities at home. Each mentee is affected by this differently, but good momtors help parents update her work goals and strategies for realizing them, explaining, where applicable, where the company is in a position to help them with their dreams either through continuing education support or specific training initiatives.

Being a role model for a working mother provides a support system, at work, that they can rely on just like the one they rely on at home with family and friends. Knowing they have someone in the office, who has knowledge about both being a mom and a career woman, will go a long way towards helping them make the transition successfully themselves.