BLACK LIVES MATTER.
This is not a day for silence; it is a day of disruption. This is a not a day where you can just post a black square to your Instagram feed and breathe a sigh of relief like you've done something good for the day. The #BlackOutTuesday protest was created by Atlantic Records' Jamila Thomas and Brianna Agyemang of Platoon as a response to #TheShowMustBePaused, urging the music industry to hault normal operations for one day in solidarity with the current protests. As reported by ET Online:
"Tuesday, June 2nd is meant to intentionally disrupt the work week," they [Thomas and Agyemang] explained of the blackout. "It's a day to take a beat for an honest, reflective and productive conversation about what actions we need to collectively take to support the Black community."
So, do not just post that black square. Use this disruption in your usual social media feed to educate yourself on the current state of racial justice, make calls to your local representatives, sign petitions, donate to bail out funds, support Black-owned businesses, and put some actions behind that plain, black square.
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Help! My Friend Is a No Show
Dear Armchair Psychologist,
I have a friend who doesn't reply to my messages about meeting for dinner, etc. Although, last week I ran into her at a local restaurant of mine, it has always been awkward to be friends with her. Should I continue our friendship or discontinue it? We've been friends for a total four years and nothing has changed. I don't feel as comfortable with her as my other close friends, and I don't think I'll ever be able to reach that comfort zone in pure friendship.
Dear Sadsies,I am sorry to hear you've been neglected by your friend. You may already have the answer to your question, since you're evaluating the non-existing bond between yourself and your friend. However, I'll gladly affirm to you that a friendship that isn't reciprocated is not a good friendship.
I have had a similar situation with a friend whom I'd grown up with but who was also consistently a very negative person, a true Debby Downer. One day, I just had enough of her criticism and vitriol. I stopped making excuses for her and dumped her. It was a great decision and I haven't looked back. With that in mind, it could be possible that something has changed in your friend's life, but it's insignificant if she isn't responding to you. It's time to dump her and spend your energy where it's appreciated. Don't dwell on this friend. History is not enough to create a lasting bond, it only means just that—you and your friend have history—so let her be history!
- The Armchair Psychologist