Career 26 December 2019
If you want to stop your stress from becoming too much at work, then you first need to find out what is causing you to feel the way that you do. If you don't, then you may end up causing yourself more harm than good and this can have long-term consequences on your health.
If you are feeling really overwhelmed at work, then you have to understand why you feel this way. Do you have too many things going on? Do you feel as though your responsibilities at times are just too much? Maybe you feel as though your boss is piling things on you and that you are just unable to think about anything else. Either way, you have to make sure that you get to the root of your problem so that you can begin to deal with it. Believe it or not, when you feel overwhelmed, this is actually a stress response. If you want to help yourself here then it's a good idea for you to keep a journal of your thoughts, feelings, actions and more. If you do, then this will help you to identify what is causing your worst reactions so that you can then begin to target them. You also need to take some time for yourself now and again. This could involve playing games at the casino Netbet or even watching a movie. All in all, it doesn't matter what you do, as long as you're focusing on something you enjoy.
Don't Suffer in Silence
If you feel as though the amount of work that you have on right now is truly unmanageable then you need to speak to your boss. Sure, this can be daunting, but if you make a plan beforehand then this will really help you out. Revisit your job description right before the meeting and explain to your boss all of the tasks that you are involved in. You then need to explain how long they are taking you, and the resources that you're lacking as this is often the best way for you to get to the root of the issue.
The ability to say no is super important. If you are one of those people who say yes to everything then this isn't going to be doing you any favours. A lot of people struggle to say no because they feel as though if they do, they are going to be rejected and that they are lucky to even have the job they do. If this is the case, then you have to remember that you aren't going to help yourself with this attitude, and that if you do say no, then people might be more understanding when you say that you are overwhelmed.
Gain some Perspective
Changing the way that you think about your situation can also help you out quite a lot. Remember the most important things in your life and don't let yourself get carried away with the stress that you have.
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During a recent meeting on Microsoft Teams, I couldn't seem to get a single word out.
When I tried to chime in, I kept getting interrupted. At one point two individuals talked right over me and over each other. When I thought it was finally my turn, someone else parachuted in from out of nowhere. When I raised and waved my hand as if I was in grade school to be called on (yes, I had my camera on) we swiftly moved on to the next topic. And then, completely frustrated, I stayed on mute for the remainder of the meeting. I even momentarily shut off my camera to devour the rest of my heavily bruised, brown banana. (No one needed to see that.)
This wasn't the first time I had struggled to find my voice. Since elementary school, I always preferring the back seat unless the teacher assigned me a seat in the front. In high school, I did piles of extra credit or mini-reports to offset my 0% in class participation. In college, I went into each lecture nauseous and with wasted prayers — wishing and hoping that I wouldn't be cold-called on by the professor.
By the time I got to Corporate America, it was clear that if I wanted to lead, I needed to pull my chair up (and sometimes bring my own), sit right at the table front and center, and ask for others to make space for me. From then on, I found my voice and never stop using it.
But now, all of a sudden, in this forced social experiment of mass remote working, I was having trouble being heard… again. None of the coaching I had given myself and other women on finding your voice seemed to work when my voice was being projected across a conference call and not a conference room.
I couldn't read any body language. I couldn't see if others were about to jump in and I should wait or if it was my time to speak. They couldn't see if I had something to say. For our Microsoft teams setting, you can only see a few faces on your screen, the rest are icons at the bottom of the window with a static picture or even just their name. And, even then, I couldn't see some people simply because they wouldn't turn their cameras on.
If I did get a chance to speak and cracked a funny joke, well, I didn't hear any laughing. Most people were on mute. Or maybe the joke wasn't that funny?
At one point, I could hear some heavy breathing and the unwrapping of (what I could only assume was) a candy bar. I imagined it was a Nestle Crunch Bar as my tummy rumbled in response to the crinkling of unwrapped candy. (There is a right and a wrong time to mute, people.)
At another point, I did see one face nodding at me blankly.
They say that remote working will be good for women. They say it will level the playing field. They say it will be more inclusive. But it won't be for me and others if I don't speak up now.
- Start with turning your camera on and encouraging others to do the same. I was recently in a two-person meeting. My camera was on, but the other person wouldn't turn theirs on. In that case, ten minutes in, I turned my camera off. You can't stare at my fuzzy eyebrows and my pile of laundry in the background if I can't do the same to you. When you have a willing participant, you'd be surprised by how helpful it can be to make actual eye contact with someone, even on a computer (and despite the fuzzy eyebrows).
- Use the chatbox. Enter in your questions. Enter in your comments. Dialogue back and forth. Type in a joke. I did that recently and someone entered back a laughing face — reaffirming that I was, indeed, funny.
- Designate a facilitator for the meeting: someone leading, coaching, and guiding. On my most recent call, a leader went around ensuring everyone was able to contribute fairly. She also ensured she asked for feedback on a specific topic and helped move the discussion around so no one person took up all the airtime.
- Unmute yourself. Please don't just sit there on mute for the entire meeting. Jump in and speak up. You will be interrupted. You will interrupt others. But don't get frustrated or discouraged — this is what work is now — just keep showing up and contributing.
- Smile, and smile big. Nod your head in agreement. Laugh. Give a thumbs up; give two! Wave. Make a heart with your hands. Signal to others on the call who are contributing that you support and value them. They will do the same in return when your turn comes to contribute.
It's too easy to keep your camera turned off. It's too easy to stay on mute. It's too easy to disappear. But now is not the time to disappear. Now is the time to stay engaged and networked within our organizations and communities.
So please don't put yourself on mute.
Well, actually, please do put yourself on mute so I don't have to hear your heavy breathing, candy bar crunching, or tinkling bathroom break.
But after that, please take yourself off mute so you can reclaim your seat (and your voice) at the table.