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7 Things To Know Before Buying A Tarot Card Deck

More and more people are already buying their own tarot card deck even if it's for the first time, swaying away from some mythology. While it is already a common practice to buy your own decks, there are a few things you need to know before making a purchase. These reminders will ensure that you get only what's right and the best for you.

Connection

One of the strongest determinants of knowing which tarot card deck to buy is by feeling a strong connection with the cards. You have to get in touch with your inner self and intuitively search for the right one for you. No matter how many recommendations you get for a particular set if it doesn't give you that connection and would make it difficult for you to do reading then it is not the right one for you. You are more likely to be more successful and accurate in receiving messages from the cards if you choose this way. Explore options by reading about them in reviews, getting previews from apps, and other resources.

Imagery

The particular art used in the cards has particular messages in them and if you feel that the images are more in line with your own artistic inclination, then you have to choose this particular deck. There are various styles available in the market and each holds no superiority over the other. It all depends on the impact it has on the user so make this a personal preference, following greatly what your gut is telling you. It is also important to do your research and find as many imagery samples from each kind of deck to get to know more about them.

Experience

Your experience level can have a big impact on how well you handle a deck. Beginners can start with deck cards that are more straightforward in terms of imagery and story portrayed in the art. Some cards are more abstract and mythical for experienced ones so they can achieve more depth and complexity.

Quality of Tarot Decks

Even the quality of the different tarot decks is different from each other in terms of the durability and thickness of the material used. If you are going to use the cards more often, consider investing in high-quality ones that do not easily tear or get damaged easily. Using worn-out cards could affect your reading and low-quality ones may not last you long. Remember that choosing the right tarot cards is not just for your use, but also for the use of your clients in the future. It would help greatly if they get the best experience by choosing over good quality decks.

Type of Card

The different types of tarot cards are anchored in different traditions too, and you should make a choice depending on your experience level. The more traditional card decks are perfect for people who like to maintain the old style of tarot reading while modern cards have more modern imagery that is more relevant to modern times. You can move up from the different types as you go from beginner to a seasoned one who is looking to broadening your skills in tarot reading.

Size of Deck

The size you need for your tarot card deck would depend on the purpose. The smaller ones are best used for intimate sessions where you do the reading one on one with a client. This is also for convenience when they are going to pick their deck of cards because it is easier to grasp with one hand. Bigger ones are great for use in groups and parties. You could also depend on how it feels in your hand.

Guidebook

The guidebook is like the manual of the tarot cards that will explain the imagery and artwork behind each card. If you need more information to help you as you begin tarot card reading, choose a deck of cards that will provide a lot of it. This is so much easier and more practical than doing your research on the internet every time you need to know about particular info. It will also help you with the interpretation and reading of the messages.

Buying your tarot card deck can be intimidating, especially when you just want to have the best one. Remember that the best set of cards will heavily depend on what feels right for you. Do not attempt to contradict what you feel and always use your intuition as a guide to help you make the right choice.

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Lessons Learned and the Power of Turning 50

Except for 16, I have celebrated all of my milestone birthdays in New York City.

I turned 16 in Arnold, Missouri. Arnold is a small town (though not small anymore) 20 miles south of St. Louis. St. Louis is known for the Gateway Arch, a beautiful arch of shiny stainless steel, built by the National Parks Service in 1935 to commemorate Thomas Jefferson's vision of a transcontinental U.S. St. Louis is also known for its custard, a frozen dessert that is so thick, they hand it to you upside down with a spoon inside. Something else about St. Louis you should know is that there is a courthouse just steps from the base of the Gateway Arch where one of the most important cases in history was tried: Dred Scott v. Sanford.

I'm turning 50 during what I define as a miraculous time to be alive.

Mr. Scott was born into enslavement around 1799 and, in 1830, was sold to a military surgeon who traveled back and forth between his military posts in Illinois and Wisconsin, where slavery was prohibited under the Missouri Compromise of 1820. In 1842 the doctor and Mr. Scott both married, and they, all four, returned to St. Louis. Still enslaved, Dred Scott filed a lawsuit against the doctor's wife for his and his wife Harriet's freedom. We don't know exactly why he chose this moment in time to file a lawsuit, however, he did. At the time of filing his, now, famous lawsuit, he was 50 years old. Ultimately, The Scott family did not gain their freedom, but their profound courage in filling this case helped ignite the Civil War and what we would come to know (or think we know) as freedom from enslavement for all human beings. Powerful then and even more powerful now.

My next milestone was turning 21, and I did it in the Big Apple. Having only moved to "the city that never sleeps" a few months prior, I knew nobody except my new friends, the bus-boys from the restaurant I was working at, Patzo's on the Upper West Side. And, yes, pazzo is actually the correct spelling of the Italian word, which translates to "crazy." Trust me we all had several laughs about the misspelling and the definition going hand in hand. I worked a full shift, closing out at around 11 PM, when, my kitchen team came out from the line with a cake singing, "Cumpleaños Feliz." It was fantastic. And the kindness of these almost-strangers was a powerful reminder of connection then as it still is today almost 29 years later.

I design the life I desire and the Universe creates it for me every day. I show up, keep the story moving, and work hard because I am relentlessly devoted to making the world a better place and this is how I choose to leave my legacy.

When I turned 30, I had just finished a European tour with Lucinda Childs dance company. The company had been on tour for months together and were inseparable. We traveled through Paris, Vienna, Lisbon, and Rome. We ate together, we rode on a bus together, we had drinks after shows together, and we even took turns giving company class to get warmed up before a show. It was deeply meaningful and dreamy. We ended the tour back in New York City at BAM, The Brooklyn Academy of Music. It was an incredible way to end the tour, by being on our home court, not to mention I was having an important birthday at the culmination of this already incredible experience.

So, when I invited everyone to join me at Chelsea Pier's Sky Rink to ice skate in late August, I was schooled really quickly that "tour" does not mean you are friends in real life, it means you are tour friends. When the tour ends, so does the relationship. I skated a few laps and then went home. This was a beautiful lesson learned about who your real friends are; it was powerful then as it is today.

Turning 40 was a completely different experience. I was in a serious relationship with my now-husband, Joe. I had just come off of a successful one-woman dance show that I produced, choreographed, and danced in, I had just choreographed a feature film, John Turturro's Romance and Cigarettes, with A-list actors, including Kate Winslet and James Gandolfini, who became a dear friend and had even been on the red carpet with Susan Sarandon at the Venice Film Festival for the movie a year earlier.

And I encourage all women to identify their power and choose to be fully in your power at any age.

This was a very special birthday, and I had, in those 10 years between 30 and 40, come to cultivate very real friendships with some wonderful colleagues. We all celebrated at a local Italian restaurant, Etcetera Etcetera (who is delivering for those of you in NYC — we order weekly to support them during COVID), a staple in the theater district. Joe and I were (and are) regulars and, of course, wanted to celebrate my 40th with our restaurant family and friends. We were upstairs in the private room, and it was really lovely. Many of those in attendance are no longer with us, including Joe's Dad, Bob Ricci, and my dear friend Jim Gandolfini having transitioned to the other side. Currently, that restaurant is holding on by a thread of loving neighbors and regulars like us. Life is precious. Powerful then and today even more so.

I write this article because I'm turning 50, still in New York City. However, I'm turning 50 during what I define as a miraculous time to be alive. And I could not be more filled with hope, love, possibility, and power. This year has included an impeachment hearing, a global pandemic, and global protests that are finally giving a larger platform to the Black Lives Matter movement. Being able to fully embody who I am as a woman, a 50-year-old woman who is living fully in purpose, takes the cake, the rink, and the party.

I'm making movies about conversations around race. I've been happily married for 11 years to the love of my life, Joe Ricci. I'm amplifying and elevating the voices of those who have not previously had a platform for speaking out. I choose who to spend time with and how long! I design the life I desire and the Universe creates it for me every day. I show up, keep the story moving, and work hard because I am relentlessly devoted to making the world a better place and this is how I choose to leave my legacy. Being 50 is one of the most amazing things I ever thought I could experience. And I encourage all women to identify their power and choose to be fully in your power at any age. I'm 50 and powerful. Dred Scott was 50 and powerful. This powerful lesson is for today and tomorrow. We have the power. No matter what age you are, I invite you to use your powerful voice to join me in making the world a better place.